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We are going to hang out at his apartment, alone, and I'm as nervous as all get out!
Q. I have been talking to this guy for two months now and thisnSunday we are suppose to hang out at his apartment, alone, while his roommates are at work. We've hung out before just not THIS alone. And well, clearly I'm nervous as all get out. He is ...
A. 1 May 2013: I remember the first time I was alone in my ex-boyfriend's apartment and how nervous I was. We weren't boyfriend and girlfriend yet, and i was a virgin. We didn't have sex or anything, not even a kiss, we just good hands and watched movies. At that ... (read in full...)
I feel like this other girl is ruining my life
Q. Okay so I'll start off by saying I'm 19 years old and I have been with my boyfriend for three years. I don't want it to seem like I'm a drama queen so please don't get the wrong idea, I just really need to explain this. I feel like this oth...
A. 19 April 2013: Is very sad how your boyfriend doesn't care how this women is making you feel. The moment you told him how uncomfortable she makes you feel he should have stopped that relationship to tell you the truth this guy is not worth it. If he doesn't put ... (read in full...)
I love him and can see him in my future but he can't?
Q. Those who aren't a Chrisitan please dont reply! I met my bf at a christmas party at church. We are both christian but he is a bit more christian then I am (which isnt an issue). His family did everything together at church and mine really didn...
A. 17 March 2013: Well I actually am a Christian and to tell you the truth I don't understand what your ex-boyfriend is going at. When you are in a relationship you can be friends with you girlfriend as well as dating her. Like he said to you, you were just and ... (read in full...)
How do you fix your sexual life when you're not the problem?
Q. Hi. I'm new to this but I'm going crazy with my boyfriend and have no one to ask advice from. So here it goes. I think my boyfriend is either a selfish lover or just treats me like a prostitute. He's very sweet and giving in all other areas of ...
A. 17 March 2013: Well to tell you the truth if this bothers you so much and you know that its really damaging you and your relationship, you should break up with him. When he doesn't even try to make you feel good in the bedroom he is not even worth it. This reminds ... (read in full...)
Is he using me for sex? Or could there be something there?
Q. There is this Guy we hung out a few times. The first time we hung out he would say things like he has never dated a girl of my ethnicity but he would if it was me because I'm cute. He was flirting with me the whole night. and the next day at school ...
A. 9 July 2012: He just wants you for sex. You guys are suppose to be friends and he us disrespecting you by touching you when you say no or pushing away. I has the same experience when I was your age and I really liked the guy but he is just playing you. If he was ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to say 'thank you' for everything he does for me!
Q. My boyfriend has make so uncomfortable lately, everytime he brings me out to eat he always wants a thank you right away. he treats me like a uneducated person who doesnt know how to thank people when things are done or given to them. i always say ...
A. 23 June 2012: Well then he is a controlling and selfish person. Why be with someone like that? Find someone else who would be thankful to you as you are with him and share his things like you do. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to say 'thank you' for everything he does for me!
Q. My boyfriend has make so uncomfortable lately, everytime he brings me out to eat he always wants a thank you right away. he treats me like a uneducated person who doesnt know how to thank people when things are done or given to them. i always say ...
A. 22 June 2012: Im the type of person who believes and saying please and thank you. Even in the little things. I'm the way I want others to treat me so I say please and thank you, and hope the other does the same. If I pay for my boyfriend's dinner he should say ... (read in full...)
Do guys get turned off by stretch marks during sex?
Q. me and my boyfriend have been dating for a little over a year and a half. he is nice funny, sweet, and loves me so much but i'm really insecure about my body, i dont' wear shorts around him or tanktops ,I use capris, any shirt with any kind of ...
A. 14 June 2012: I have stretch marks in my butt from losing wait and growing. I'm really insecure about them as well and I definately do not want to show my boyfriend. I told this to my boyfriend and he said he didn't care. And its true. Once your boyfriend sees... (read in full...)
Would you date a guy that's 14 years old if you are 17 years old?
Q. Hey everyone... I just wanna ask this question. Would you date a guy that's 14 year old but he's almost 15 and you are 17 year old? And he's also in the 7th grade and you are in the 11th grade in school. Thanks, I'm just asking....
A. 8 June 2012: I dated a 14 year old when I was 17. Of course it only lasted 6 months but he was great and I was in love. Now he is 18 and I'm 21 so it doesn't look that weird anymore but I'm with someone I'll my age and I believe he understand me better. Is good ... (read in full...)
I want to stop taking my birth control pill and not tell my b/f
Q. I'm 20. I started dating a great guy a few months ago, and for the past month, all I've been thinking about is getting pregnant. He's 27, has a wonderful job, and would not walk out on me if I got pregnant. His father left when he was young and he ...
A. 4 June 2012: My mom did what you are planning to do and it was of course a complete failure. My dad didn't leave because he believed the right thing to do is to stay. My parents relationship was a huge mistake. Not only my parents suffered but my sisters and I ... (read in full...)
If I give him space, will he come back?
Q. Hi, 6.5 years ago i moved to a foreign country to be with boyfriend (his country). The first couple of years were great but then we start having problems. He has problems showing emotions and hates any conflict so runs away from problems. Me on th...
A. 15 April 2012: To me is just sounds like you are both very differently emotionally. In a way your relationship with your ex reminds me of my relationship with my ex. I am also a very emotional person like you. Very outspoken about my feelings and even if I try to ... (read in full...)
Am I being shallow because I want my b/f to compliment me?
Q. Dear all, I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half, he is faithful and reliable, but not too generous when it comes to words. When I make an effort to dress up, he rarely compliments me. The nicest thing he has said to me has been 'You ...
A. 13 April 2012: I don't think you are being shallow, you just want attention from the person you care for the most. I had a situation were my boyfriend stop complimenting me less and I was actually feeling hurt from this. You need the attention from your boyfriend ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't want me
Q. My boyfriend doesn't seem to want me. He has no reaction to me wearing lingerie, he never touches me, there is zero foreplay. I have done oral, hand jobs, anything i can to please him but it is never reciprocated. I am not heavy set, have been told ...
A. 28 March 2012: Has his sex drive been low from the start?
I completely understand how you are feeling. I had the same issue with ex. I have a very high sex drive and I would be rejected by him over and over again. I was super frustrated and I felt ugly, unlo... (read in full...)
Is it true that women never forget their first sexual partners?
Q. I'm a 30 y/o male, got married when I was 28 I have a 19 month old boy. I love my wife and child. But my question is the following: "when my wife and I had intimacy for the first time she made it very clear and reinstated that she wasn't a vir...
A. 2 March 2012: First times are different for everyone. Some girls hate it and regret it because they did it with the wrong person or they were not ready. Some girls enjoyed it and found it very special. But usually the first time it hurts, and most women won't ... (read in full...)
Is it unhealthy or selfish to desire a companion?
Q. I have lurked on this site for a little while, and I was wondering whether I might make a post myself. I apologize in advance for its length. So I am another one of those people who is 21 and has never been in a relationship, never hugged or ...
A. 27 January 2012: Is actually a really good idea for to know what kind of person you want as partner. As you date you will realize what things you want and don't. Is going to be quite the journey. :) Good luck!... (read in full...)
Poor communication, a misunderstanding and so her friends abused me for being late. Should I be aggrieved with her since she was unsupportive to me re abuse by her friends?
Q. So this is my story. I have always wanted to be with this girl and finally, she agreed. We've been dating for a bit more than a year now. We got our ups and downs but all in all, it was pretty good, except for the fact that it was "just" "pret...
A. 25 January 2012: You really shouldn't feel bad about this. It wasn't your fault that you were late, no one invited you. And at least you tried to make it even if you were late. It's super lame that she didn't back you up when all her friends were making you feel ... (read in full...)
Is it unhealthy or selfish to desire a companion?
Q. I have lurked on this site for a little while, and I was wondering whether I might make a post myself. I apologize in advance for its length. So I am another one of those people who is 21 and has never been in a relationship, never hugged or ...
A. 24 January 2012: I really understand that feeling and desire of wanting someone to love and be love back as well. The thing is that it will take time. Most likely you are going to have to date for a while until you find the right person. In love, I think age doesn't ... (read in full...)
Is it unhealthy or selfish to desire a companion?
Q. I have lurked on this site for a little while, and I was wondering whether I might make a post myself. I apologize in advance for its length. So I am another one of those people who is 21 and has never been in a relationship, never hugged or ...
A. 22 January 2012: What you are feeling is not selfish at all and completely normal. Most of us want someone we can talk to, be near them, have intimacy with them, just talk about anything with, kiss, hug, touch, feel. This is not selfish at all, is just part of who ... (read in full...)
Did I overreact to my boyfriend touching another woman?
Q. Last night, my boyfriend and I went to a function at a bar where I didn't know anyone, but he knew a lot of the people. At one point, I came back from the bathroom and some girl he knows was sitting in my stool at the bar and they were talking. ...
A. 21 January 2012: Maybe you over reacted a little. The way he touched that woman is quite a normal thing for me to do with other people as well specially if I know them. Now if your boyfriend spend the whole time talking with that woman and completely ignore you ... (read in full...)
Do I have a right to get mad and/or jealous?
Q. Long story short, my boyfriend, who lives about an hour away, went to his schools winter formal. This morning, I see all these facebook posts about that night. It seemed like a lot of fun. Apparently he ground on some girl (he even said so in...
A. 21 January 2012: That is definetly not cool! I mean is fine for him to go out and have fun. But its like he completely forgot he had a girlfriend. I would definetly be mad and talk to him about it. ... (read in full...)
Am I wierd? I hate to see my boyfriend performing oral on me?
Q. i feel i am degrading/diminishing him, i can`t see him doing that ,i always stop him and just want to hug him and make love . the feeling isn't bad ,but that`s not how i wanna feel with him , i would rather have sex i had my ex performing or...
A. 21 January 2012: I don't only think oral sex is something that you can't connect or just a "naughty" thing to do. Some men really enjoy watching a girl moaning with pleasure and seeingg their faces. Specially since men are very visual. I love giving oral to my ... (read in full...)
My wife has decided all sense of affection between us is over as well as our sex life
Q. My wife has decided all sense of affection between us is over as well as our sex life. 8 years ago, after the birth of our 3rd child, she convinced me to have a vasectomy so we would not have any more children. Immediately afterwards, my wife's ...
A. 27 December 2011: My goodness I can't believe you are still with this women. Why would you like to be with someone who doesn't love you for who you are and then tells you that wants another person to be involve in her sex life? I couldn't be with someone like that. ... (read in full...)
How do I keep his cheating from affecting our kids?
Q. my husband cheated on me, so many questions coming out in my mind, he said and promise me that its really over with d other woman but so many evidence coming out from d shelter keeps me in pain, what should and must i do in order not to affect ...
A. 21 December 2011: When my mom found out my dad was cheating on her emotionally I remember being in the middle of it. My mom knew I could get into my dad's computer and get the email my dad and the other women were sending to each other. She made me read them and ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend says that she loves me but that we will be happy with others?
Q. my girlfriend says that she loves me but she just thinks that we will both be happy with different people and that we just dont realize this yet!! whats that supposed to mean ! i love her like crazy!! ...
A. 21 December 2011: She doesn't want to be with you anymore. Someone that says something like doesn't want to stay in a relationship any longer. Of course it totally sucks because you still love her, but she has already made her choice. You can't make someone stay with ... (read in full...)
I thought she might like me, but then she made sure I seen her kissing another girl!
Q. A couple of days ago I met a very nice girl in a disco, I liked her so much. I saw her again another day, we talked and we took a few drinks together but I didn't ask her out. Last Friday I saw her there with other girl; she looked at me and I was ...
A. 21 December 2011: You are absolutely correct to be confuse about this, because I definetly am. Well my conclusion about this situation is that if she wants you to see her kissing another girl it could be just to point out that she is dating this girl or that she is ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I are new to sex....advice please!
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been together for 11 months tomorrow, and both gave each other our virginities a month ago exactly. Our physical relationship has never been anything but perfect for each other, he cares more about me being satisfied ...
A. 16 November 2011: The most important part so it won't hurt as much is to completely relax. If you keep thinking about how is going to hurt is going to hurt because you immediately become tense. And the more often you have sex the easier it becomes. Is going to be ... (read in full...)
How do I get over him? He broke up with me through a text
Q. How do I completely move on from this guy I was completely in love with easily???????? We broke up on August 24, 2011. He texted me at 3:30 am saying that it wasnt working out. I have no idea what-so-ever as to why we broke up. So help me please ...
A. 16 November 2011: I know how you feel :( my ex broke up with me over a text and were together for a year and a half. But the truth is that the guy you were dating was a coward and immature. You really don't need to be with someone like that. I know how it feels not ... (read in full...)
Is there any way to get my ex back? I'm not willing to let go of something this powerful.
Q. Everyone I know tells me to just move on. Even if my future self went back in time to tell me that it's not worth it, I would still continue. I've always took pride in having no regrets, but I'm at the point when I realize that there are special ...
A. 26 October 2011: Well it looks like he is moving on since he started dating already. Maybe one day he will realize that he still loves you and made a mistake by breaking up. But most likely that won't happen. Even so right now you should focus on yourself. And see ... (read in full...)
Should I continue in this relationship that is currently making me feel depressed, or should I call it quits?
Q. So this is quite complicated. I have posted questions here as the situation developed, but now I am in real need of some help. My bf and I have been dating rather happily for nearly a year now. I love him very much, he's my best friend, not to menti...
A. 26 October 2011: That just awful! For him to tell you that sometimes he feels more attracted to her then you. :( How would he feel if you tell him that you find your really good guy friend more attractive then him? Of course you are going to feel depress and down ... (read in full...)
I feel foolish being a virgin at 21
Q. I feel worthless because me being 21 and a virgin now that I look at it is foolish and pathetic. I was so blinded to actually think I was going to find someone to share myself with but now its really a fantasy. Women my age aren't looking for ...
A. 20 October 2011: If you were waiting for someone special, why give up now? You are just 21! I had a a couple of guy friends told me they had sex for the first time with someone they didn't love and regret it. They said it felt good but it was empty. From my own ... (read in full...)
My fiance slapped me. Should I dump him?
Q. im engaged and my weve been together for 3 Years. Yesterday we got in a argument and i told him something that pissed him off and he slapped me in the face twice. He has a bad temper but that was overboard.at the moment i told him that i was done ...
A. 20 October 2011: If he is hitting you now that you are not married he won't change and he will actually be worse. You should dump him and find a guy that will respect you and actually love you even if you gains a few pounds. ... (read in full...)
Ladies, aged less than 30, would you date a guy even if he isn't ''FUN''?
Q. Would you consider a relatively young male to be dateable even if he is a 180 degrees from the hard party bad boy persona? I am not saying that I am weak, nor that I can't stick up for myself and who I care about. I simply have no interest in ...
A. 28 August 2011: No way! Not all girls consider someone who parties a fun person. I guess I am boring too. Because I don't party, have casual sex, Nor do drugs and do Not drink alcohol. Hahaha Everyone has different perspective of what fun is. ... (read in full...)
Why does being a "Nice Guy" get me nowhere?
Q. My virginity doesn't bother me that much, on most days at least, but I do feel a bit sad over the fact that I've never been in a relationship, NEVER. I'm 22 and nothing! I'm starting to feel that if I don't end up in relationship I'll never get ...
A. 22 August 2011: Are there really nice guys in this world? Hahaha Don't ever change that about you. It's very rare to find an actual nice guy. Most guys I dated pretend to be nice and then they show you what selfish, immature, and jerks they are.
Have conf... (read in full...)
Do breaks work?
Q. He wants to take a break. He's already made plans with a co-worker to find a new place for both of them, which implies signing a lease and agreeing to contribute to another household. I'm 7months preggo and I haven't been the easiest to get alon...
A. 25 February 2011: I believe that right now your main focus should be your child. Is hard doing this by yourself, and I cant believe your boyfriend is being so selfish and immature. Let him be, give him his space and you go on with your daily routine. And while you ... (read in full...)
I said I'd propose, but I'm not ready!
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for over a year now in a long distance relationship. There's about a 700km distance between us but we still manage to see each other nearly every month. Ever since we started going out, she's brought up engagement an...
A. 2 February 2011: This girl sounds very desperate and selfish. All she is thinking about is marriage and not how this makes you feel. I believe that when you are both ready to be married then you'll get married.
You have to be honest with her and tell her how you ... (read in full...)
How to tell my boyfriend that I want to keep my baby?
Q. I am not really seeking advice, just wanted to get things off my chest. Any comments however will be taken into consideration and welcomed. I am very much in love with a man, well at this point I am not sure what it is anymore. I wish I could jus...
A. 2 February 2011: If a man is going to leave you because you decide to keep your baby, this means this man doesn't love you. If he loved you, even if he did't want the responsibility of having the baby he would support your decision.
In reality this is YOUR deci... (read in full...)
How can I get her out of my mind? I don't want to love her anymore.
Q. hello, please i want every possible advice for me, i really need that, im in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend , it actually been a long time, the least i can say about her is that im crazy inlove with her, but i wanna forget her, tak...
A. 3 December 2010: Well if you want to forget her your going to have to stop communicating with her, get rid of the thing she gave you, or just put them away. Try to focus on something else. Keep your mind busy. When your are noticing that you are thinking about her ... (read in full...)
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