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writes:me and my boyfriend have been dating for a little over a year and a half. he is nice funny, sweet, and loves me so much but i'm really insecure about my body, i dont' wear shorts around him or tanktops ,I use capris, any shirt with any kind of sleeves, or pants, heels, i'm not fat either , it's just when i was younger i used to be really chubby, so ever since i joined soccer i started losing so much weight which left a BUNCH of stretch marks under my belly and in my arms. also i dont have muscle in my arms , it's not to the point to where it's super flabby, its just that it looks a lil unusual, he's average size, so am i. and i just dont wanna turn him off when we have sex without clothes becuase usually he takes everything off of me except my shirt because i told him once tht i didnt want to. but now he says he won't care about the stretch marks but im just scared because he's never seen how bad they look and slowly theyre goin away but still im scared he'll get turned off. is tht something tht guys worry about during sex?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (14 June 2012):
 Dear OP,
I used to weigh nearly 300 pounds. I had gastric bypass and lost well over 100 pounds. I have stretch marks. I have saggy skin I have saggy EVERYTHING… and guess what.. even before I had plastic surgery and I hated my skinny saggy body my man LOVED it. And he loved me… they really really don’t care…
If you are that worried about it.. .make the first time romantic.. use candles and keep it dim…
They really don’t care… you take off your shirt and the only thing that goes through their big head is BOOBIES cause all the blood has rushed to their little head….
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2012): Haha no. Sorry to laugh OP but only women hate stretch marks, we guys don't care at all. I mean do you really not get us at all. There's a naked woman standing in front of us what do you think we're looking at? Boobs, legs, ass or stretch marks?
OP we guys look at different things on your body than you do. We're not looking at cellulite, we're looking at an ass we want spank, boobs we want to play with and see jiggle. We're not a looking at a tiny unnoticeable spot you have near your nose, we're looking at the lips we want to kiss or that "Take me" look in your eyes.
OP please stop thinking like an insecure woman and start thinking like a man when you want to think of what he will and will not like about your body. Only in women's magazines will you find whole articles showing celebs without makeup or bikini pictures with big red circles highlighting their cellulite. We guys aren't as cruel in our judgement of women's bodies as you girls are. We just love naked women OP, we love being able to do anything we want to that naked body and blemishes have nothing to do with the beauty of a woman at all.
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reader, babu3u +, writes (14 June 2012):
 I have stretch marks in my butt from losing wait and growing. I'm really insecure about them as well and I definately do not want to show my boyfriend. I told this to my boyfriend and he said he didn't care. And its true. Once your boyfriend sees you naked he won't care about that all he cares is that you are naked and how beautiful you are. :) most women and even men have them so don't worry about them. Don't let those little things ruin the wonderful closeness you can have with your boyfriend.
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reader, mb129 +, writes (14 June 2012):
After being with someone for so long you want to be able to open up as much as you can - I wouldn't make a big deal about it. My wife has some stretch marks after bearing two kids on her 5'3 person and it is what it is, you love someone and you love the person.
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reader, halfandhalfchild  +, writes (14 June 2012):
 I don't think it turns guys off, I have two children, I'm 34 years old and I've gone from size 14 to size 8 from size 8 to size 6 then from size 6 to a now size 12. Nobody seems to have had a problem with my very bad stretch marks yet and I don't think they ever will, it's what you should expect as every single woman gets them at some point in their lives. I get very paranoid but then I think to myself "if he doesn't accept me the way I am then forget him, no matter how nice he is, he should accept me" and that's how you should think too. I'm sure you're beautiful the way you are just like everybody else is.. Stretch marks are a part of being a woman, be proud! I hope this has helped! :)
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