What are the "rules" for Internet dating? How soon should we meet? etc...
Q. Hi everyone. I really dont think anyone will be able to help but lets see. I joined a online dating site about two months ago. I have met ALOT of guys on there, all which seem nice, etc.. 3 guys want to meet me (we have only been talking maybe 2 ...
A. 21 January 2006: Meet when you are ready. Not before. If anyone tries to rush you then they're trying to push you before you're ready which doesn't bode well... (read in full...)
She wants to be single but wants us to be friends...what do I do??
Q. my girlfriend just broke up with me because she wants to be single again. she said she needs time to find what she needs in life. she said she still truly loves me and that there might be a chance for us to get back together soon. also she said she ...
A. 21 January 2006: Sounds like she isn't sure if she wants a relationship but doesn't want anyone else to have you.
I would tell her that you agree and you want to try being single too . Then get out there and enjoy yourself. You may find that she will want you back... (read in full...)
My front teeth are like fangs! I want to be an actor. What steps do I take to get them fixed?
Q. I have two fang teeth not really big, but they are the top teeth. Now, they aren't growing wrong, I think they have shaped like that over time, Im 15 but would like to get this sorted out as I would like to be an actor, but who do you see with those ...
A. 21 January 2006: Well you could always be the first to be famous with fang teeth!
Failing that that gather all the info you can on cosmetic dentistry - start by speaking to your dentist... (read in full...)
Did he not tell me about someone else because of what happened to him?
Q. I'm really in need of help my head is so messed up. i posted a few days ago about my bf using my age as an excuse to break up with me, even though i was convinced there was more to it than that. i haven't spoken to him since the night we broke up, ...
A. 21 January 2006: Sounds like he was trying to avoid hurting you too much. Hold your head up high and move on x... (read in full...)
I have a crush on my new co-worker, and I think he likes me too, but I'm leaving work for 6 months to go traveling around the world! Should I tell him how I feel?
Q. I have a crush but I don't know what to do! Help! I really like this guy at work, he only started about 2 months ago but in that short time i've really grown to like him more and more. I haven't fancied someone the way i fancy him for over a year....
A. 21 January 2006: Maybe you should ask if he'd like to keep in touch while you travel without coming over as too heavy.
As a chicken way out you could always leave him a note on the last day and tell him you like him and would like to keep in touch and give him a ho... (read in full...)
She has 75 guys in her address book... And I just hate to share her with any of them!
Q. Some one please help... I have a small problem with sharing. My girlfriend and I have been friends for many years and have always wanted to date but something has always stopped us (distance being one factor). We are together now and are extremel...
A. 4 January 2006: When she starts to run her hands up and down the other guys leg or scratches their back then worry. Be proud of her for being popular. Be proud of yourself for having such a lovely girlfriend. Her mates can be your mates too. Make an effort to chat ... (read in full...)
I want more than friendship from her...what do I do?
Q. Ok so I know this girl. Shes 27 and she is AWSOME. I can't get enough of her when Im around her and we connect on all levels. I've had this major (you prolly can't fathom how big this crush is) on her. Now we used to work together and we've still ...
A. 4 January 2006: The only way to do this is to jump in. I dont think a kiss is the best way to start - you need to actually ask her out. I would say that she is probably interested as she wouldnt have discussed the potential kiss with her friend if she wasn't OR she ... (read in full...)
Slept with my boss at a Xmas do. I'm not sorry, but I think he might be...
Q. Hi merry xmas! Here's another question you have probo heard before. Basically I'm 21, had my works xmas do and slept with one of my bosses. There was pure chemistry there. He's a lot lot older than me but now I'm really worried about going back...
A. 4 January 2006: Accept it for what it was which is a one night stand. He is a married man and thereby OFF LIMITS. Maybe you don't regret it but just makes sure that you don't start fantasising about a rosy ending. He's probably wetting himself incase his wife finds ... (read in full...)
I want my ex back but he thinks he can't give me what I need. What should I do?
Q. I want my ex back and i don't know what to do. Heres the situation- I previously posted a question about how my ex can't get back on his feet job wise and self esteem wise. He told me that he can't get himself back on his feet and juggle our ...
A. 3 January 2006: I don't think you should do anything more. Listen to what he is saying. I think he is gently trying to say he doesn't want to see you at the moment. Let him have the time that he needs to sort things out and see if he comes back to you. Some people ... (read in full...)
Her ex-husband buys her expensive gifts still...
Q. I've been dating someone who is divorced with two children (Age 6 and 9). We argue during the holidays (or gift giving time ex. birthdays, mother's day) because she see's nothing wrong with receiving a gift from "her children" but bought by her ...
A. 3 January 2006: They had children together. It's a mark of respect and a duty as a parent to buy the other parent the birthday , christmas and mothers days pressies and cards until the kids can get them for themselves. Forget about the money and if he can afford to ... (read in full...)
A big fight with my girlfriend means I can't talk to her...what do I do?
Q. I have fallen completely in love with my girlfriend and she says she loves me too and talks of nothing but our future. Over time baggage from her past has haunted us more and more leading to more heated arguments. i came back from a 2 week vacation ...
A. 3 January 2006: You can't contact her so unless she gets in touch with you then you have to leave it. In the mean time , why not get some counselling to deal with any suicidal feeling and also the violence. If you do start talking to each other again then if you ... (read in full...)
It really bothers me that my man isn't affectionite unless he wants to have sex with me.
Q. My man is'nt very affectionite unless he wants to have sex with me it bothers me cause I try to give him kisses or rub him or what ever but he never does it to me unless he wants sex. even when we go out drinking he hates P.D.A's I hate it I could ...
A. 2 January 2006: Sounds like a problem to me. If he doesn't show you any affection outside of sex then that's not good. If you think he cares and just has problems showing affection but want to then seek counselling together. If he doesnt care then show him the door... (read in full...)
I feel terrible for kissing my best friend's boyfriend. Should I tell her?
Q. Recently when I, my best friend and her boyfriend have all been at social events, her boyfriend and I have flirted and touched each other when she isn't looking etc. We haven't gone further than kissing on the lips but it isn't right and I feel ...
A. 2 January 2006: Damn right you should feel bad about it , however I think if you confess then you'll probably lose the friendship. The moral thing to do is to tell her HOWEVER this guy is probably cheating elsewhere too and things will end eventually so maybe if ... (read in full...)
I have been suffering depression for around five years, now I've given it to my boyfriend!
Q. dear cupid I have suffered with depression for about 5 years. I have been going out with my boyfriend for over a year and now he has depression. I am on anti depressant and my depression was well managed. Although I understand how he is feeling an...
A. 2 January 2006: Okay well as you well know then depression isn't catching . Maybe the fact that you've been so honest about your depression has simply removed some of the taboo's surrounding it and your fella now feels that he can admit to feeling depressed and put ... (read in full...)
The idea of sex with my husband actually turns me off now!
Q. Married 7 years, have a toddler. My husband (41yrs old) always had a super low sex drive. It was almost always me who initiated sex. For at least two years now, I find that I no longer desire him. I've stopped asking for it. We are less kind to ...
A. 2 January 2006: Would you be happy to stay in a relationship without sex. Lots of people do but its something you need to think about. Having a baby can zap your sex drive to hell so if you're happy to wait and see whats happening in a year then you could feel ... (read in full...)
Should I date this girl while she still has issues with her ex?
Q. I have been talking to this girl for a few months now. We get on fine and as friends and she has agreed to go out. The trouble is when i first met her she was in a relationship up to last year. I have never asked the question when she did split from ...
A. 2 January 2006: Be patient. If she has had a bad experience then she probably wants to get to know any future potential partners very well before commiting. The best relationships are built on friendship so be friends for a while . You'll know when the time is ... (read in full...)
How can I earn my preferred guy's trust back after I double-dating with another guy?
Q. i was dating these two guys at once. This went on for about 3 months. The one i really care aqbout and wamt to be with for the rest of my life found out about the other one. But the other one won't stay out of mine and the good ones relatinship. ...
A. 2 January 2006: Only time can earn his trust back. Tell your fella once again that you are sorry and that you want to just say to him once again that he can trust you 100%. Explain to him that you won't contact the other guy or rise to his bait if he tries to wind ... (read in full...)
I am shy so wait for women to come to me... But what complications does that bring?
Q. I'm pretty shy when it comes to approaching women and i have cursed missed opportunities because i don't know what to say or do. But when women approach me, we get talking ok and i do get their phone numbers but i can't hold on to them. It's norm...
A. 2 January 2006: I think it depends on whether you are finding it hard to let your personality show once you have the number and are in contact. If you are relaxed and getting on well with the woman in question then it probably just one of those things that the ... (read in full...)
My man is staying with an old girlfriend
Q. I have been in a relationship with a man for six years. We have a 4 year old daughter and a baby on the way. We started drifting apart a few months ago. Seeing this panicked and now see how some of my actions pushed him farther away. We started ...
A. 2 January 2006: Your man is playing games. If your relationship is going to stand any chance then he needs to know that you will not put up with him staying with his ex. He must know anyway that he is damaging your relationship as its not as if this is an ex that ... (read in full...)
Been married a few months and I am getting divorced!
Q. Iam currently in the process of divorcing my wife. She is a great woman, but I am truely in love with someone else. The woman that has captured my heart we fight and argue a lot lately and now we are not speaking at all. I am still going to leave my ...
A. 2 January 2006: You're doing the right thing. You've said yourself that even if no-one else was involved then you'd be heading for the exit as your wife isn't the right woman for you. Carry one ,make the divorce as painless as possible for your wife , answer any ... (read in full...)
My man is obsessed with hygiene... Could this cause problems with our relationship?
Q. I'm in a relationship going on two months that's going great, except I've discovered a "quirk" that I'm afraid may be indicative of larger issues... My guy is concerned about cleanliness and hygiene to an extreme; that's ok, I appreciate those ...
A. 2 January 2006: I wouldn't worry about it , if thats as far as the cleanliness thing extends then its no biggie. Maybe he's had really bad food poisoning in the past.
I think its sweet that he tells a white lie and says the food was nice. I would just accept this... (read in full...)
If I keep emailling, I might be flooding him, but I don't want him to think I'm not interested!
Q. I have been talking to this guy online for about the past two weeks. I email him like every other day and he usually writes back. I really, really like him. He is so different than anyone else I have ever met. The problem is I think I am scaring him ...
A. 2 January 2006: I think if he likes you then you wont scare him away but you need to find out if he may be interested in taking things further and you aren't going to find that out unless you ask. At least if he says he isn't sure or doesnt want to at this stage , ... (read in full...)
Is this right?
Q. is it wrong to loose your virinity to man twice your age at the age of seventeen...
A. 2 January 2006: Totally depends on the situation. Your first time is best with someone who you care about , who cares about you so use your own judgement to decide if you love and respect the man in question and whether he feels the same. If not , then wait for ... (read in full...)
In my spare time I look at pictures of women... I'm an 18 year old girl. Confused.
Q. I'm not sure whats going on with me right now and I'd like some help to find some answers. I'm an 18 year old female and I'm attracted to guys but I find that in my spare time I look at pictures of women and when I go to clubs I'm usually surrounded ...
A. 2 January 2006: Don;t rush into putting yourself in a pigeon hole. Maybe the fact you've been hurt by a boy means that you find it easier to get to know women. Loads of teenagers go through a phase of exploring both sexes so don't put any pressure on yourself to be ... (read in full...)
What on earth should I do about these obsessed girls?
Q. hey.. i am a 15 year old guy.. i have little self confidence or should i say little confidence infront of girls.. i wont say i am good looking. i have a question.. nearly every week, i hear from my friends about a new girl liking me.. i tend to h...
A. 2 January 2006: Girls often find that its easier to develop a crush on someone they feel comfortable with as you can get to know someone as friends without any pressure so thats probably why you're popular. In life personality goes a long way so just enjoy the fact ... (read in full...)
I'm jealous of my friend's success with guys. I'm much prettier than she is, so I've slept with 4 of her boyfriends!
Q. I was at a club with my best friend (Alice), we where having loads of fun. This guy came up to us and had a dance with Alice. They traded numbers. Although I danced with loads of boys I felt jealous. I feel like this a lot. Anyway about two week...
A. 1 January 2006: I half assume you are just writing this for a reaction!! But incase you're not ..then most guys your age would snog or sleep with a monster looking girl if she makes it obvious she is available and easy which is what you are doing so I wouldn't be ... (read in full...)
Does my girlfriend just have another guy lined up?
Q. my girlfriend of 7 months just out of the blue dropped the I want a break line. while I am still mad over her, I live two hours away and work fulltime, and she is still in grad school for a couple of years. this month she has had off from school and ...
A. 1 January 2006: Only time will tell if she has someone else lined up but the sad fact remains that usually when someone tells you "they want a break" then in their mind they're already on their way out of the relationship.
Keep your dignity and keep your dist... (read in full...)
My husband admitted that he's been seeing prostitutes, and I'm devastated!
Q. After 15 years together, I now find my husband has been using prostitutes/call girls on a regular basis. He tells me he still loves me,and is committed to me, and his two children. What he has with these women is "his private life" and does not ...
A. 1 January 2006: Sorry just realised that you are in the UK too- I had assumed you were in america. Just wanted to clarify that when I said the "other woman" , I don't mean that literally - I work in the midlands... (read in full...)
My husband admitted that he's been seeing prostitutes, and I'm devastated!
Q. After 15 years together, I now find my husband has been using prostitutes/call girls on a regular basis. He tells me he still loves me,and is committed to me, and his two children. What he has with these women is "his private life" and does not ...
A. 1 January 2006: I don't know if you will want to hear an answer from the "other womans" perspective but I shall give it any way. I am not replying for you to place a moral judgement on me but hope that this helps. I work as an escort ( UK version of a callgirl) and ... (read in full...)
I fell in love with my therapist..should I remain in touch with her now that I no longer need her counselling?
Q. I used to see a therapist for counselling when i was going through a difficult patch. She was amazing and several months after leaving I am the happiest I have ever been. However I began to fall very much in love with her during that time (I ...
A. 1 January 2006: I would assume that she has changed her mind. Perhaps she has read between the lines and decided that perhaps a friendship was not all you were looking for and decided not to complicate things. I would respect the fact that she has not renewed ... (read in full...)
My bf admits he put his hand up her skirt..how do I handle this situation?
Q. hi i just wanted some advice, my boyfriend admitted to putting his hand up another girls skirt a couple of months ago. i was shocked of course but don't really know how to handle the situation. we have been engaged for a year and currently live ...
A. 1 January 2006: I think the fact he has admitted it shows that he wants to be honest. If you have spoken about it and he has explained why it happened and your trust him not to do it again then I would tell him that you will forget it and move on. If you feel that ... (read in full...)
I have to choose between my troubled soldier boyfriend or new man
Q. Im a 31 year old mother of 2 children (8and 10) and i met my current boyfriend 3 years ago,we got on well upto FEB,2003 when he got his call up to Iraq with the army. We were apart for 5 months,but spoke nearly every day and wrote letters and emai...
A. 30 December 2005: Leave. I'm sure you know this in your heart. Children are involved and they shouldnt have to be around the atmosphere casued by this mans problems... (read in full...)
Should you turn your back on someone who loves you?
Q. I've fallen for a man 30 years older than me. We did start something up about 2 months ago after I found out that he liked me too and that he had done since he first laid eyes on me. I've never had a lot of attention from lads my age and because ...
A. 30 December 2005: Be honest with him. Tell him that things were moving too fast and you got scared when he said he loved you and ask if you can start again and take things slowly. If your love for him grows then you will both be able to support each other if there is ... (read in full...)
Will things ever be the same with my boyfriend after my mistake with text guy?
Q. About two years ago I started texting this guy I had met at the local shops just for fun and as friends which I stated to him from the begining and he agreed. It was all as I said for a bit until he asked me to meet him for a small drink one ...
A. 30 December 2005: Show your boyfriend this problem page . You HAVE to get him to talk about it. There is no way that the relationship can move on without dealing with the problem and he needs to know how much you love him and you need to try to figure out why this ... (read in full...)
Should I give up on my emotionally barren husband?
Q. I have been married for 12 years. My husband is practally very suportive but emotional and intimately barren. He is also verbally abusive and threatens physical violence. He has a bad temper and easily erupts. Two years ago I had a brief liaison ...
A. 30 December 2005: The husband has got to go. You can't blame any lover for backing away from a woman who goes back to a husband who doesn't fulfil her. You've tried counselling and it didn't work. Leave the husband even if it means being on your own and then you will ... (read in full...)
Went out, got drunk, snogged another guy and now my so-called friends have told him!
Q. i had been going out with a young man for nearly a month and was beging to fall for him when.. i went out on friday and snogged another man, two of my (mates) told him and said that i had been seeing this man ever since i got together with my ...
A. 30 December 2005: Whooops. Firstly what are you doing hanging about with "friends" that just want to cause trouble for you. Secondly stop snogging other men!!!
Tell him you are ditching these "mates" for lying (well they are). If you've already lied and told him you ... (read in full...)
He hated me being friends with my ex. Now I find that he has initiated contact with his!
Q. I got divorced in August. Wasn't much of my choice, he didn't love me anymore. I started dating my boyfriend from high school. Here we are 4 1/2 months later. I am now trying to be friends with my x. Boyfriend doesn't like this. Well, my ...
A. 30 December 2005: Tricky one. There has to be trust on both parts. Do you trust him? If so , then I would casually mention that you saw her emails when changing something. Surprise him by not being upset about this and bring up the fact that you thought about it and ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend & I worked and lived together... now she wants me out
Q. I ve been seeing my girlfreind for 5 months. We are engaged and living together. At the begining we was fantastic. we laughed and we connected when we was in each other's company. It felt so right, we was really happy. We worked together for 4 ...
A. 30 December 2005: Its hard when things move fast at the start because the first year is spent getting to know each other and things DO change as you stay together longer and the magic whirlwind in love bit fades into something more stable but stronger if things work ... (read in full...)
We never actually went out, but I still fell for him...
Q. Dear Cupid, There is this guy at school and i've known him for around 5 years now, but for the last three/four months i have been feeling increasingly attracted to him, and for those three/four months we've been flirting... I started calling ...
A. 30 December 2005: I think he was hinting for you to give an answer that would put things on a "definate relationship" footing. Ask him if he thinks you should go out with each other or stay friends. Being a bloke he will probably ask you what you think ..then tell ... (read in full...)
My younger giflriend has not told her family about me
Q. Hello I am in a relationship with a lady in Belgium. We have been seeing each other for a year now. She is going through a divorce. What I wish to have advice on is that nobody knows about me except her two close friends, she will not tell her ...
A. 30 December 2005: The only person that can tell you whats going on is your girlfriend. If she loves you deeply then it important not to put too much pressure on her at what must be a difficult time but you deserve to know if there is a future. Maybe she is at a time ... (read in full...)
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