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writes: I've been dating someone who is divorced with two children (Age 6 and 9). We argue during the holidays (or gift giving time ex. birthdays, mother's day) because she see's nothing wrong with receiving a gift from "her children" but bought by her ex-husband. I don't have a problem with the act itself but the cost of the gift. The last gift was a jacket that cost over $700!!! The gift before that was $500. Am I wrong for being upset over this? Please help.PS: She provides her children with ideas and things she would like.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2008): ok here is one for ya,..I met my husband when his girls were 2 & 3, i stepped in being a mother to his girls when their mother was not there for them. SHe has turned her life around and is now a much better mom. Its Mothers day and he reminded me over and over to get his ex a gift and card from the girls,..which I did and do every year. But to wake up to not even a card, nor Happy Mothers Day from him or the girls? This kinda hurt my feelings...or am i being too emotional??
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reader, Angel Underneath +, writes (3 January 2006):
They had children together. It's a mark of respect and a duty as a parent to buy the other parent the birthday , christmas and mothers days pressies and cards until the kids can get them for themselves. Forget about the money and if he can afford to spend it then let him. The gift is from the kids , not from him no matter who pays. Next time its mothers day / birthday then why don't you arrange to cook a suprise cake/make a card with the kids so you feel involved too.
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reader, watrbot +, writes (3 January 2006):
I have a 5 year old daughter and my ex-husband buys me birthday, mother's day, and christmas gifts that are from my daughter and I do the same for him. It is so that my daughter feels good about giving us gifts. We don't spend $500 on the gifts though. My ex-husbands wife even asked me this year what I wanted for christmas.
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reader, mystify +, writes (2 January 2006):
 i dont think this is quite right, does she have parents that could take the children out to buy presents for her, when i had my first child his father was not involved with me but my family always made sure i got a mothers day card etc...
suggest this to her as it does seem the ex is going over the top
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