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writes: Hi merry xmas!Here's another question you have probo heard before. Basically I'm 21, had my works xmas do and slept with one of my bosses. There was pure chemistry there. He's a lot lot older than me but now I'm really worried about going back to work. He's married (I think within the last 2 years) and he's told me not to text him or anything but I'm scared he's going to regret it. I don't and that's what else bothers me. What do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2008): my boss is 35 im 19. we also got rather merry one night and did some naughty business. im now happy to say we've been dating for almost two years and ive never been happier! mind you he wasnt married :S maybe you should look for another job :S
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2006): Relax re, ur stressing too much.. just pretend it neva happened.. it was for fun, nothing serious i presume and next lol stick to ur age for f sakes
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2006): If you hand something to someone on a plate, theynever usually turn it down! Accept the fact that all you will ever mean to this man is, 'sex', move on, this can only end in tears, more than likely yours!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2006): If you hand something to someone on a plate, theynever usually turn it down! Accept the fact that all you will ever mean to this man is, 'sex', move on, whis can only end in tears, more than likely yours!!!
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reader, gift_of_the_gab +, writes (5 January 2006):
HAVEN’T YOU EVER HEARD ABOUT KEEPING PLEASURE AND BUSINESS SEPARATE FROM ONE ANOTHER?
Mixing pleasure and business together is a deadly cocktail. If you work in a professional industry were your organisation offers you real career advancements, your boss will not respect you nor will he consider you as an valued employee. Meaning at that you’ll probably never get up the ranks. Later on the situation will get difficult and awkward.
My advice is to pack your bags and head for the exit! You need to start job hunting again, before this problem turns into a nightmare! The last thing you want to happen is for him to start sexual harassing you and even worse sharing his sexual favours/moments with other co-workers or clients.
I know I have had many crushes with my fellow co-workers before, but I have restrained myself when thinking about taking a step further from friendship, sober and drunk! But if you want to be respected in the workplace and viewed more than a pretty face, you need to keep your reputation up to professional standards otherwise you’ll just be there mistress and everyone’s office gossip topic!
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reader, loni +, writes (4 January 2006):
he will probably want you from time to time just know it was just an f, and nothing more
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reader, Angel Underneath +, writes (4 January 2006):
Accept it for what it was which is a one night stand. He is a married man and thereby OFF LIMITS. Maybe you don't regret it but just makes sure that you don't start fantasising about a rosy ending. He's probably wetting himself incase his wife finds out.
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reader, ask aunty heather +, writes (1 January 2006):
firstly realise it was a one night stand. then tell him this. also tell him you dont want to ever have sex with him again. if you feel comfortable continuing working there, then thats all well and good. if you dont feel happy with working there anymore....get a new job! you could also announce your affair to his wife and the whole company just immediately prior to leaving as he really should be exposed as an adulterous letch who cracks on to much younger employees and that in itself is a form
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2005): first of all you shouldn't be the only one to be ashamed - it takes two to tango! I don't think you should ignore your boss ...that would be petty, childish and unprofessional. I also don't think you should text him ....try and be brave and talk to him face to face to clear the air . once you have talked you should feel better . However don't allow him to get you in such an uncompromising situation again . Having a relationship with the boss is a no- no .......you won' t get treated with respect, fairness or considered for promotion . If all else fails get job - hunting!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2005): I get the feeling once wasn enough for u and for him it was dont waist ur time on him it will never happen! is it an affaire what u really want from a guy?? NO!! be true to ur self clear the air talk to him or work will be a nightmare to go to but put it down to drink and a mistake and move on! (it was just a shag)!!!!!!!!!!good luck
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reader, mommyofthree +, writes (26 December 2005):
 his guy sounds like a real jerk, but not for the reasons that you think. He cheated on his wife with you, and how long he has been married makes no difference in how wrong both of your actions were. He should regret what he did with you, just as you should feel atleast a little bit bad about it. It may be hard to avoid him because he is your boss, but you need to try, this is a lose lose situation for everyone involved, especially his poor wife.
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reader, Virginiaac +, writes (26 December 2005):
We all do things we regret - a lot of guys like this are rubbish. You made a mistake, live with it and totally ignore him in future. Above all, blame yourself for nothing!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2005): Listen , the guys a scumbag...You are seriously lacking in self respect (this may be due to immaturity). You need to stay away fromk him perhaps with the exception of letting his wife know what a loser she is married too...how could you betray another woman like that for a man????????
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