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writes: I got divorced in August. Wasn't much of my choice, he didn't love me anymore. I started dating my boyfriend from high school. Here we are 4 1/2 months later. I am now trying to be friends with my x. Boyfriend doesn't like this. Well, my boyfriend has an x girlfriend who was calling him. He avoided her calls. Finally 1 day he answered and told her about us. She stopped calling. He said he didn't even want to be friends with her, so no big deal. So I thought. A few weeks ago he told me, by me asking, that she called and left a message. Well, yesterday we were sitting down and I asked if he heard from her. He said actually he got a Christmas card and she called and he talked to her that day. I feel that if I didn't ask, he would have told me. I tell him everytime I talk to my x. To add to it I seen an email he sent to her. He initiated contact and emailed her his new email address. She responded with how much she misses hanging out and if he ever comes down south that she'll show him around. I don't know if he responded, and if he did what he wrote. Our email doesn't save sent messages. He knows I sometimes have to go into his email because when the internet was set up, he was the only one there and he didn't know what I wanted my screen name to be, so his screen name is the master screen name and the only one that can make certain changes. I don't know if I should say anything, and if I do- what I should say. I am very upset about this and I don't think I can ignore it or act as if nothing is wrong.
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reader, Angel Underneath +, writes (30 December 2005):
Tricky one. There has to be trust on both parts. Do you trust him? If so , then I would casually mention that you saw her emails when changing something. Surprise him by not being upset about this and bring up the fact that you thought about it and realised that you trusted him so there is nothing to get upset about. Maybe he will relax about your ex by seeing your attitude
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