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writes: I have been in a relationship with a man for six years. We have a 4 year old daughter and a baby on the way. We started drifting apart a few months ago. Seeing this panicked and now see how some of my actions pushed him farther away. We started arguing and he started drinking more. Soon, he quit coming home, and found comfort with an old girl friend in another town. At first he would tell me he was not in love with me any more and wanted to start a life with her. Then it started evolving to him saying he does really love me, he just needs time to make sure he does the right thing. He keeps reassuring me that there is nothing there between him and the other woman, but he will say he will be over to come and see us and for one reason or another always get stuck in the same town she lives in. This is difficult for me because I try to trust him, and I honestly have not lost faith in us, and from time to time, he does not seem to have either. I want thing to be the way they were with so much love soo badly I have difficulty functioning during the day. I know I have a tendency to lash out at him, and expect things from him that I know he really can not do, and never has been able to do. I am trying to work on it, but not having him with me is soo difficult I get clouded with what would be better for us at any given time. Please, is there a way I can try to help save this? I would do anything. Soo Afraid... Reply to this Question
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reader, Angel Underneath +, writes (2 January 2006):
Your man is playing games. If your relationship is going to stand any chance then he needs to know that you will not put up with him staying with his ex. He must know anyway that he is damaging your relationship as its not as if this is an ex that is now platonic as he's recently told you he wanted to make a go of things with her and even if he's changed him mind then its far too early for him to playing the "shes just a good friend card". Tell him he either shapes up and works on your relationships with you or you go your seperate ways. If she knows you mean it and will move on , then if there is any chance for your relationship then he will grab it with both hands. If he doesn't - then it wouldn't have worked anyway and you can start to deal with the hurt and move on x
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