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writes: I'm not sure whats going on with me right now and I'd like some help to find some answers. I'm an 18 year old female and I'm attracted to guys but I find that in my spare time I look at pictures of women and when I go to clubs I'm usually surrounded by girls buying me drinks and paying me compliments. I've never gone far with girls - just kissing and hugging. Everytime I go out with my friends I end up kissing girls and I feel like a boy in a girls body. I love being a girl (well I think I do!) but my friends are always making jokes about me being a lesbian and now I'm starting to believe them. I still find guys attractive but I've been hurt by the only guy I ever loved and never had any attractions to females before then - whats going on? I can't relate to straight girls either because, well, they have pictures of people like johnny depp on their computer screen whethers I have a picture of the model Jessica Miller! I'm comfused!
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reader, N-Decisive1  +, writes (11 March 2008):
You seem like a very nice lady. What you may be experiencing is being (Bi-Curious) You should make your own decision, If you feel more comfortable being with same gender or spend time with the opposite sex.
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (2 January 2006):
 Dearie, i agree with angel underneath here. dont put urself under any pressure yet to be gay or straight. u probably are in the exploring stage. it probably heightened when u heart got broken by someone u care deeply about becos u did mention u never experience this before.
Take ur time and i am sure everything will become clearly soon enough.
All the best
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (2 January 2006):
My guess is that maybe your bi, you like both men and woman and thats why it makes it so hard for you to understand your feelings if your straight or gay, because, when really you might just have feelings for both wihc would make you bisexual.
From the way you described your feelings, it seems clear to me that your feelings towards woman are ones that in general, a straight woman would have for a man. Some might think that your past bad expeirence with men might be guiding you to have these feelings but they 'arent really there', its just due to the bad expeirence, yet I believe that it might just be a wake up call that woman are much more sneistive, loving and trustworthy. Sometimes I wish I was gay, so then I wouldnt have to deal with insensitive males, lol, but I'm just not attrackted to females that way.
I hope I have helped in some way :) Good luck, and don't stress, you will understand it all one day soon, just give it time and keep on experimenting.
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reader, Angel Underneath +, writes (2 January 2006):
Don;t rush into putting yourself in a pigeon hole. Maybe the fact you've been hurt by a boy means that you find it easier to get to know women. Loads of teenagers go through a phase of exploring both sexes so don't put any pressure on yourself to be gay or straight and just concentrate on having fun and in time you'll figure out who you are and what you like
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