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writes: Iam currently in the process of divorcing my wife. She is a great woman, but I am truely in love with someone else. The woman that has captured my heart we fight and argue a lot lately and now we are not speaking at all. I am still going to leave my wife. Even if things don't work out with the other woman and not just because of my feelings for someone else. I would rather be alone then cont to be in a marriage where I am not 100% devoted. I dated my wife for over 4yrs and we only been married a few mths. I do love my wife and wish her the best. I know I hurt her on many levels and cont to ask God to forgive me as well as heal her heart and make her a stronger person. I tried to shake this since I am married, but what I feel for this other woman is something I never felt for anyone else and now her and I are not even speaking. I can't eat or sleep and my stomach is in knots. I know this sounds selfish and moraly not right but, again I can't change how I feel. I know this is not lust or just affection. But I have go after her. I can't go to my grave wondering what if. So I want to give it a shot with the woman I am love with no matter the cost. please help. I have no else to talk to. Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2007): Why did you get married at all? When you made your wedding vows did you not understand what you were saying? Your email is pathetic, and your wife deserves better, you hurt her intentionally and have acted in a selfish manner, knowing that you were too immature and self-centred to make her happy. I suggest you attempt to grow up, mature before you start any new relationship.
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reader, mystify +, writes (3 January 2006):
 yes , this has to be the end of your marriage for her sake more than yours, it simply wouldnt be fair to her to spend the rest of her whole life with someone her didnt love her with his whole heart let alone loving someone else more.
you are doing the right thing by your wife by leaving her so she can move on and hopefully find a man who will always love her more than anything.
i hope God will be with you both during these hard times and that you will both find peace of mind and happiness
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reader, Angel Underneath +, writes (2 January 2006):
You're doing the right thing. You've said yourself that even if no-one else was involved then you'd be heading for the exit as your wife isn't the right woman for you. Carry one ,make the divorce as painless as possible for your wife , answer any questions that she has ( I'm sure you'll understand how devestating this must be for her )and then make a go of things with your other woman. If things don't work out , then you've tried. Just make sure that people get hurt as little as possible in the meantime. Enough damage has been done. Good luck
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