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Archived questions from: 9 January, 2013 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

How can I not be cold hearted?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4335 days ago

9 January 2013 (F) - Hi, Just wondering if anyone has any advice on how i can change from being cold hearted. I know im like this from being messed around by men (aswell as seeing me father treat my mother badly from a young age) and it stops me from developing...

Ex-boyfriend of 9 years screwed up. Separated for a year but he wants to win my heart again. What should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4340 days ago

9 January 2013 (F) - I'm at a crossroads. I've reciently broken up with my boyfriend of 9 years. At the time, I was very unsure about the future of our relationship. To make a long story short, during the last 4 years of our relationship, he had become a complet...

My brother died unexpectedly and I don't feel my g/f is supportive enough. Am I being angry and unfair to her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4340 days ago

9 January 2013 (F) - My brother died, suddenly, last week. I've gone through a range of emotions from total devastation when his life support was switched off and I saw him die to a numbness and now I just feel angry. Except I feel my anger may be mis-placed so I'...

What do I say to bring this guy back around?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4339 days ago

9 January 2013 (F) - I met a guy online, we clicked, hung out a few times - then got into some huge fight .. nasty words were exchanged even at one point! And we stopped speaking ( he didn't trust me and I didn't trust him but no one cheated or anything as we were ...

Ex girlfriend who attacked me is pregnant, what to do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4340 days ago

9 January 2013 (M) - We lived together for a year and she was pregnant once before, which I fully supported, but unfortunately the baby was unhealthy to the point where doctors advised an abortion. Fast forward a few months and one night after a stupid argument, during ...

I gave my b/f alot of money not expecting it back but I feel selfish because he still hasn't even gotten me a christmas gift. Am I wrong to feel this way?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4340 days ago

9 January 2013 (F) - Around Christmas time, things were pretty rough for my boyfriend of 2 years; he had just recently gotten into a new career after being unemployed for several months, and was in desperate need of money in order to put a down payment on a car/car ...

I told my ex lover's wife that he cheated on her. Was I wrong to do so?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

9 January 2013 (F) - It seems that I destroied a new marriage and hurt the couple, however before that I was the one who suffers most. 1.5yrs ago, I met my ex bf, at the 2nd meeting/dating, he told me that" I have a girl in Thailand, I have been with her ttaly for 6 ...

A needy, clingy woman got my man. How come this happened?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

9 January 2013 (F) - I am so through with relationships and men. I am an independent woman, smart, beautiful and keeps myself busy never clingy. Met a good guy and helped him, even when he didn't have a job and no money, but now he's run off with a clingy girl. What ...

I gave up my job, my apartment for him but his controlling wife won't let him go

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4340 days ago

9 January 2013 (F) - Since 2 years I am in a relationship with a man. After a while I found out that he is married and has a 9 years old daughter. We were leaving in different countries and he didnt tell me from the start that he is married and has a kid. His marriage...

Boyfriend is going on online dating sites. Do I have a right to be upset about this?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4338 days ago

9 January 2013 (F) - I am having had a bad time again with my boyfriend. We have been back together after we broke up because of his online dating sites. Over the course of a year, we had argument after argument over his lies and refusal to accept that I had the right ...

My partner uses sex like he is in control of a game

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4340 days ago

9 January 2013 (F) - Why doesn't he want a intimate relationship. My partner and I have been back together for 7 months. We have never had a active sex life but did manage one of twice a month maybe but it's been almost 3 months and he shows no interest in me sexually ...

Am I thinking too far ahead? Would Western parents accept a large age gap if their daughter married a man 10 years older?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4340 days ago

9 January 2013 (M) - I am in Australia but am not a westerner. I like a girl 10 years younger than me,she is 18 years old. I think she also likes me. But I am not sure.Is it possible because of age different she might be thinking the less possibility of marriage. Does w...

It's complicated. He will visit me. But often pushes for more physical content than I want. But he discourages me visiting him. Why?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4340 days ago

9 January 2013 (F) - Have been into a relationship with a guy for more than 4 years now we both love each other. He calls me and he pays me a visit. I need a new jobc so that occupies my time, but I'm less busy in weekends. Each time i pay him visit he kisses me on...

Serious Anger issues. Does she really love me? Or is she just playing games?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4340 days ago

9 January 2013 (M) - Need some serious help from you cupid experts so i hope i can try make this short. recent behavior from my gf is worrying me, or maybe its 'affirming' my intuition about what women really want and what there true agenda is. Basically me gf's...

I think he's suffered a lot of abuse. How can I calm down my aggressive boyfriend?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4327 days ago

9 January 2013 (F) - I have been with my current boyfriend just under a year. He's had a pretty unfortunate life up till this point and I suppose you could say suffered a lot of abuse from a young age (though I don't know any details as I avoid asking him about it)....

Am I not good enough for him? I'm pregnant but all he does is talk to his ex. Am I crazy wanting him to leave?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4340 days ago

9 January 2013 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now. I am currently pregnant and since I've gotten pregnant all he does is talk to his exs. I feel like I am not good enough for him and that he is looking for someone else. I don't wanna lose h...

He's disparaging about others.Am I being too insensitive here or would anyone feel hurt?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4340 days ago

9 January 2013 (F) - Hi there, everyone So i just wanted to hear objective thoughts on something that hurt me. I don't know if i'm being sensitive about it or what. Here's the story. I recently told my friend that i'm into him because my feelings were bigger ...

Still in contact with his ex! Am I overreacting? Should I let it go? I am quite convinced he is serious about us

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4340 days ago

9 January 2013 (F) - I have had a beautiful relationship. We we met while we both were in London due to our work responsiblities. The four months we were together it was nothing less than heaven. He had to move to US after that and I had to return to India.Two days...

Should I give her time? She broke up with me because she says my actions are like a kid, and she is more free.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4341 days ago

9 January 2013 (M) - My girlfriend told me that she needs space and broke up with me. She told me that she needs some time. It started when our friend texted her if I told my sister where i am because she seems surprised that I did no tell her that me and my girlfrien...

My husband is ignoring our latest baby. He wants to play video games. Does help his mother. Yet ignores us, his family. What should I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4340 days ago

9 January 2013 (F) - This may sound really dumb and not a big deal. But I know men have their down time.... But my husband is obsessed with video games, has been since he was a child. I'm a stay home mom, and my husband works all day. We have a sixth month baby boy, ...

I'm a mess. What can I do? I've been in love with my Gf for a long time. But I've fallen for a second girl at college and now this second girl is pregnant.

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4332 days ago

9 January 2013 (M) - Guys, I'm in a pickle. A very large pickle. I've been dating my very lovely and intelligent girlfriend for six years, since we were 14. Before I continue, I need you all to know that I really, absolutely and unabashedly love my girlfriend with all...

He thinks we're in a relationship, but we haven't had a date yet! How do I deal with this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4340 days ago

9 January 2013 (F) - I agreed to a blind date suggested by a mutual friend of myself and the gentleman in question. We spoke in person just long enough to arrange the date, but haven't actually gone out yet. I've just learned that he changed his Facebook status t...

I was OK to sleep with. But he said he could'nt give me what I wanted. How do I cope with this, and the fact he now has a Gf?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4340 days ago

9 January 2013 (F) - Hi everyone. Back in September, I moved into a shared house with three other people. Two of them I didn't know before, but there had always been chemistry between me and this other person. This other person and I have been close ever since we me...

My Bf talks nicely to me only when he needs money from me. What should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4340 days ago

9 January 2013 (F) - Dear Cupid I feel that my bf of 3 years talks nicely to me only when he needs money from me, other times he never calls, ignores me and bullies me. I have already given him a lot of money for this student loan. I don't have any proof for this ...

Was I too quiet at a work dinner party? I'm older than them and the're cliquey. Or were they mean asking me to sit alone at a table, as I'm vegetarian?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4339 days ago

9 January 2013 (F) - We had our work post Christmas party last week, at a restaurant. I arrived slightly late but a few people came after me. I'm older than 80%-90% of my colleagues, didn't bring a partner, (as I have none) and I have a little bit of social anxie...

I'm realizing that I'm clingy, needy and selfish. What can I do about the state of my current relationship?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4331 days ago

9 January 2013 (F) - I'm 36 and didn't realize that I was clingy and needy and selfish to my own needs until January 3rd 2013. I've been like this for as long as I can remember (needy and clingy)and never realized it until my boyfriend and I started having some serious ...