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writes:I am in Australia but am not a westerner.I like a girl 10 years younger than me,she is 18 years old.I think she also likes me.But I am not sure.Is it possible because of age different she might be thinking the less possibility of marriage.Does western parents would accept large age gap? Do western girls not prefer to date bald guys? please help me to clear my mind. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI used to work with her. Thanks for the information and advice. I understand even If she wants to start dating or a relationship, both of us has to face lots of problem."I don't want to ruin her professional life, I know she has lots of dreams about her professional life.18 year olds are fairly immature"-ya thats correct.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (9 January 2013):
 A ten year gap at 28 and 38 is nothing
A ten year gap at 18 and 28 is HUGE.
I would think that an 18 yr old girl is no where near ready to discuss marriage or even getting serious with someone.
As for bald... I like bald men, I also like men with hair as long as they are neat.
balding men need to wear their hair short and not try to hide the balding...
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (9 January 2013):
 As a parent and grandparent, I think I'd be at the least suspicious of the "motives" of an "older" man want to have a relationship of any kind with an 18 year old.
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reader, Serpico +, writes (9 January 2013):
I have found the following formula works extremely well for calculation a maximum age difference between a man and a woman. Its .5(M)+7, meaning the youngest woman a man can date is one half his age plus seven. At 28, your number is 21. That you are outside of this parameter IMO is the reason you are posting here.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (9 January 2013):
 Well typically 18 year olds are far too young to be thinking about marriage, family, children etc - they are thinking about having fun, partying with their friends, school/university, travelling etc.
So the chances of her wanting to get married any time soon are pretty slim, I think from the sounds of things you are in very different life stages if you want to get married soon. Also, 18 year olds are fairly immature and in Western cultures girls date a number of men, they might have a relationship with one man but just because they are in a relationship doesnt mean it will end in marriage. WHen girls are young they want to experience lots of different things so typically their relationships wont last much past 1 or 2 years.
So it all depends on what you want from life - if you are looking to find a wife, then I would say she is too young for that and you will end up getting hurt if you pursue her. However if you are happy to have a bit of fun and enjoy any kind of relationship with her without worrying about the future, then you can pursue her if you want.
10 years isnt a big age gap in Western cultures really, ok it is a bit more of an issue because she is still a teenager, and her parents will wonder what a grown man is doing with a teenager. Her parents would wonder what you have in common, as adults shouldnt have much in common with teenagers, and they might think there is something wrong with you if you enjoy the company of teenagers more than adults. They might assume you are not very mature either, or that you are somewhat predatory looking for young girls and using them for their youthful good looks (and in turn for sex).
If she were say 25 and you were 35, then it wouldnt matter so much about the age difference. But when she is so young, I dont think her parents would particularly approve.
I think if you are looking for someone to settle down with and eventually marry, I suggest you look elsewhere.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (9 January 2013):
 An 18 year old would be thinking about school and career, not family and kids. You are at different stages in your lives. You are thinking too far ahead because you only like her, you don't even know if she wants to date you. However some western girls are also likely to be more individual and they marry whoever they want.
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