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36-40,
anonymous
writes:My girlfriend told me that she needs space and broke up with me. She told me that she needs some time. It started when our friend texted her if I told my sister where i am because she seems surprised that I did no tell her that me and my girlfriend will be dining at her aunts house. We had a great time before she was able to read the text. She told me that I look like a kid because i need to tell my relatives my whereabouts. After that evening she respond coldly to my text and did not wait for me for our dinner in her bourding house. after that day she texted me and told me she was sorry for being cold last night. after that she texted again that she needs some space. I asked her if she is breaking up with me and she said yes. her reason is that she is too free, out going and free spirit while i am the opposite. she doesnt like to be us to be "monitored by my siblings". I explained it to her that me and my siblings are close and its natural for them to ask my whereabouts. she thinks its too childish. after she broke up with me she told me that shee only needs time and she loves me. what should i do? We've been dating for 5 months
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (9 January 2013):
 Let her go . Dating is also to find out if you are compatible or not. Apparently you are not , at least for what concerns family relationships.
There's no right or wrong, simply opposite ways to see and feel things.
You are not wrong, in fact you are admirable and enviable, to have such a close , intimate bond with your family. This in theory, in practice we are all different, frankly I cringe too at the idea of a bf that has to report any of our moves and plans and decisions to his family. I am a private and indipendent person, normally I don't give my whereabouts , if it's not made necessary by contingent practical reasons, to my own closest family members, imagine having not-even-in-laws expecting to be kept updated about my dinner plans. Urgh.
You'd be happier with someone more similar to you in mentality.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2013): Chief, I think it's better to forget about her and move on with your life. It sees as she wants to control you,switch off your brains and only do what she wants. You have got the right to keep your siblings informed about your movements if you want.
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