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writes:Hi there, everyoneSo i just wanted to hear objective thoughts on something that hurt me. I don't know if i'm being sensitive about it or what. Here's the story. I recently told my friend that i'm into him because my feelings were bigger than me. He didn't realy say much other than that he was thankful for my honesty and he values our friendship too much... That's fine but now he's often talking about other people who want him in disparaging ways. For instance, he'll say "Oh, look at these people who have hit on me" and roll his eyes to convey how he doesn't like them at all, and he'll show me their pics for me to judge. Or he'll say, "This one person told me they like me! How terrible." He's quite judgmental. It just makes me think, 'Wow, so insensitive!!!" I'm here and i told him i like him, so it's like, doesn't he see that i would worry that i'm lumped into the same category as those people he doesn't like and speaks badly of? Am i being too insensitive here or would anyone feel hurt? Thanx for listening. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2013): I think he's trying to tell you the best way he can that he does not return your feelings!
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reader, kenny +, writes (9 January 2013):
 No you are certainly not being incensitive, you feel hurt by what he said, and that was precisely the intent too. Anyone would be feel belittled if you liked someone and all they did was talk about people that have come on to them. I think that you are better than him, you should not see him anymore and find someone nice who gives you the love and respect that you deserve.
Good luck
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reader, oldbag +, writes (9 January 2013):
 Hi
No your not being sensitive, he is showing you he thinks he's better than these women who have shown an interest in him. It's clear he has a very high opinion of himself and yes, he is behaving badly and talks to you like he would one of his male mates.
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reader, Fatherly Advice  +, writes (9 January 2013):
 He sounds very conceited. He rejects others because they are not worthy of him. The line about valuing you as a friend means you are one of the guys at best. Which means that he has never seen you as a possible girlfriend. Or it could be just a glib lie that he has used often to reject other candidates.
I think he is showing you these pictures for a reason, and it probably has to do with your recent confession. It doesn't look good.
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