I love a married girl
Q. I trully love a girl, now she is married. We are very close friends also, but I don't know that she loves me or not. How I know that she loves me or not. We are talk through phone just as a friend. In this situation what should I do?...
A. 8 July 2009: In this situation, you should swallow your feelings and continue to be a friend to her. She's married. If you were married to her, would you want someone else to step in and unsettle things by proclaiming love to your wife or yourself?
This ... (read in full...)
The spark just isn't there
Q. Hi everyone, I'm a married man for past 10 yrs and have 2 kids, whom i love a lot and spend a lot of time with them more than my wife spends, as her job is quite demanding. We had a love marriage which our families had opposed. During these 10 yrs, ...
A. 8 July 2009: Whatever you do, weigh very heavily the consequences of your actions. When kids are part of the equation, there is more to question than your own happiness.... (read in full...)
He works all the time is not affectionate towards me
Q. Question to those,who went down on the divorce lane. Well, I can't make up my mind ,but I think about it everyday,at the last 5 years. I think I will drive myself cazy ,if it will go like that ,for much longer.But I'm really unhappy. Here is what ...
A. 7 July 2009: I have not been married, nor divorced, so please take my advice with a grain of salt. When you tell your husband you want him to work less, do you take the next step and explain that you are okay with what that means financially? ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is really uncomfortable with webcam sex. How can I help him like it?
Q. My boyfriend is really uncomfortable with webcam sex. How can I help him like it? What should we do during so it's not phone sex and not like watching porn? Due to work sometimes we have to be apart for a few weeks at a time and I really want to ...
A. 7 July 2009: Tell him the thought of watching him masturbate turns you on. That should do it.
Unless he has concerns about recording nude videos - which are valid concerns and anxieties around that might be hard to overcome.... (read in full...)
I'm starting to think about calling my ex...Should I?
Q. Hey! I have a simple question to yall. I used to have a boyfriend a year ago. I loved him very much, but i guess we had problems. He broke up with me, and after a few weeks, started calling me to see how i was doing and etc. But when I called him ...
A. 7 July 2009: Close the book on this chapter of your life. Once you no longer actively want to be his friend, you can be his friend. Until you reach that point, you'll just keep hurting each other. You have to let the breakup fully heal before you try and start a ... (read in full...)
Can his ED trigger him to have such addictive desire to threesomes?
Q. I am dating this guy who keeps telling me I am the sexiest woman he's ever met. We have had fantastic, hot sex. Lately all he's been doing is asking me to consider a threesome. I would understand this desire if we were younger (he is over 50). To ...
A. 7 July 2009: I can't see why the two would correlate. Perhaps he feels insecure and wants to see you pleasured by someone else?
Or, maybe it was a fantasy he never lived out as a youth.
Or perhaps he lived the fantasy, loved it, and wants to make the fant... (read in full...)
Do you think he'll care if I'm completely horrible at making out?
Q. Ok so im 13 and im going out with a guy thats already had sex 4 time and ive never made out but i want to and i will with him but do you think he will care if im just completely horrible at making out and does it come natural? help me please:)...
A. 7 July 2009: Oh geez, don't have sex with this guy, please!
I don't know how old he is, I hope he's around your age. If he's older than 15, you should not do anything with him, he is trying to use you. This will make you feel horrible - and it's not your fau... (read in full...)
I like the girl who dated my brother. Is that wrong?
Q. ok so i went to this fair in my home town and i met this girl i already sorta knew her cuz she dated my little brother well recently me and her have been hanging out alot and i really like her would it be wrong to go out with her if she already ...
A. 7 July 2009: Don't do it. Don't do it. Don't do it.
Even if you ask your brother for permission and he gives it to you, don't do it.
I lost one of my best friends over a similar situation. Girls come and go, but your family is with you for life. Make the b... (read in full...)
He kept me waiting for hours! Should I give him another chance?
Q. I have been dating a guy for 9 weeks, well, he is my boyfriend and he is working out of town right now. He came back for 4th and I was waiting for him and he said he would be at my house like and hour didnt show up but then called me like 3 hours ...
A. 7 July 2009: Definitely give him a second chance. Have a conversation with him about how it made you feel, but be careful not to be critical of him. Also, it sounds like he had a rough day as well (Emergency, etc) - ask about that. A little empathy goes a long ... (read in full...)
Our heartless, intimidating 'act' is keeping me from finding a boyfriend!
Q. In my friendship circle there are 3 of us who are single and we're the closest 3 who do everything together. However we dont class ourselves as your average girls we seem to have this image where by we're just 'some of the lads' and we got on with ...
A. 7 July 2009: Start going out a couple nights a week without these friends. A group of girls can be intimidating for a guy.
If fitting in with these friends is making you this uncomfortable, you might also reevaluate what it is you look for in a friend.... (read in full...)
What should I do? He wants to give it time before we have sex, and has a thing for shopping.
Q. i am on the topic of trying new things that we never done before and it has already been done and that whats keeping us closer and we even come to a conclusion to moving to a different city for that major change. i am a gay dad of a 8year old boy ...
A. 7 July 2009: I'm not sure I understand your question, could you restate it?
If money is an issue, you need to have some frank discussions about it. Shopping is fine, but maybe instead of Banana Republic he should be spending time at Old Navy or Ross, or The G... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is not affectionate!
Q. I have been dating my girlfriend for over a year and I don't feel she is affectionate enough now as she was before. (I AM NOT TALKING ABOUT SEX) I have talked to her about this and she feels that it is just her personality. Sometimes i wonder ...
A. 7 July 2009: It's not uncommon for public displays of affection to calm down after a few months. This isn't necessarily an indication that she loves you any less, but possibly an indication that she is no longer "in lust" with you.
Your best bet would be to ta... (read in full...)
I think he can't forgive me for spilling the beans to his family.
Q. So my ex and I broke up in really bad terms almost 2 months ago. It was a turbulent relationship, and I found out he served me white lies during the 2 years together ( which was a big shock to me and betrayal). I took revenge (not thinking st...
A. 7 July 2009: Wow, it sounds like you two have been through a lot together. I feel like the best thing you can do right now is to try and think about anything but this relationship. You won't be able to get back together anytime soon, too much has been said and ... (read in full...)
Lost my virginity. Now I have a concern about my body...
Q. Two days ago I lost my virginity. I'm almost 99% sure he doesn't have an STD but yesterday I was uh feeling around down there to see if anything changed and I felt what seems like an air bubble on the left side of my vagina and I dont know what it ...
A. 7 July 2009: Go out, get tested, use condoms in the future. It probably isn't anything serious, but you won't know until you get it checked out.... (read in full...)
I still love and miss him but does he feel the same way?
Q. I lost my virginity to this guy and at first had a "casual" relationship, I guess. He told me that he would ask me out but he needs to get into law school and he is on the verge of failing. After a few months, I told him I cant do it anymore with ...
A. 7 July 2009: I don't know whether he's sad or misses you. Only he knows the answer to that.
That said, it's sounds like he may have been using you - perhaps without even knowing it. The power dynamic you had was all wrong, he had the power the whole time. Th... (read in full...)
What's with guys and threesomes? Should I be offended?
Q. My boyfriend and I who are in a some what long and serious relationship have what I atleast think is be great sex. The problem is that when we do have a go at it, he looks at the porn on the screen more than me. Also, he often admitts to me th...
A. 7 July 2009: Okay - staring at porn while having sex with you is not very classy. If it's something you both enjoy, then great - but it should serve as a springboard to a more intense connection between you not as a distraction from the act. I don't know what ... (read in full...)
Help, can I still get pregnant?
Q. hi i just wanted to ask if the sperm drops out as soon as the partner pulls out, can i still get pregnant or does it prevent it ?...
A. 27 March 2009: You can still get pregnant. Invest in birth control.... (read in full...)
Still scared that I could be pregnant...how to cope?
Q. Okay . Me and my boyfriend had sex earlier for the first time. I haven't had sex since the end of may. We used a condom but a little after he said he had to ask me a question. And he asked me when my next period is and I really don't know. It shoul...
A. 27 October 2008: Also - this sounds like a really ideal time to consider an additional form of birth control. The Pill used in conjunction with condoms is quite effective and can pretty well quell any fears you have about getting pregnant in the future.... (read in full...)
Is it the drink talking?
Q. My boyfriend and I recently stayed at a friend's house for the weekend. We got very drunk, and we ended up arguing. He started to grab my arms as I was smacking him, but not hard, just on his arms, but when he would grab me he would do it really ...
A. 27 October 2008: Sounds like the drink was talking. However, your question brings up a double standard that I don't appreciate. Why is it that many women think that it is okay for them to hit their men?
It is no more appropriate for a woman to hit a man than for... (read in full...)
Should I take his virginity?
Q. I don't believe in waiting till marraige and that abstinance crap. I know that in this era, no one's gunna make it till marraige. everyone has an urg, and at some point ur gunna give. But my boyfirend is still a virgin and his friends all tell him ...
A. 27 October 2008: Only take it if you plan to stick around for a while - I assume you will, so have fun if you so choose.... (read in full...)
Why does he feel awkward around me now? Nothing happened!
Q. There is this guy who I was friends with last year. We hooked up but we didnt go all the way cause I wasnt ready. After that, it felt awkward and we stopped hanging out with each other. I saw him at a party, he was drunk and so was I. I was trying ...
A. 27 October 2008: It's awkward because you guys never talked about the nature of your relationship after the first incident. You two both probably had different assumptions going into it. The only way you'll know what he thinks is to talk to him - if you really value ... (read in full...)
Why do I fall for the girls with a past and something going on?
Q. First off, im a pretty good lookin dude, i could have alot of different girls and i get along with everyone. Ive had a good past with girls but recently its been pretty crappy. So about a year ago I moved to this new school and started going ou...
A. 27 October 2008: Because everyone has a past or something going on. It's not going to be clean and neat. You like this girl, she likes you, you're both single. I'd say act on it, and act on it quickly. It's a rare thing for people to be mutually attracted and ... (read in full...)
He says he doesn't want to date but continues flirting? What do I do?
Q. ok I like my guy friend,and have since we were in 8th grade(were in 11th now).he dated my step sis and then after they broke up he told me he loved me.i told him i liked him but didnt want to date because my sis still liked him. so 2 months la...
A. 27 October 2008: Be clear:
I would like to date you, and I don't care if it's long distance. If you are not willing to date me long distance, I would appreciate it if you stopped flirting with me. It's really confusing and it's hard for me to get on with my life ... (read in full...)
My bf kissed my sister, I ended it, and now my sister keeps trying to talk to me! What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend (im 17 and he's 18) came over to my place to watch a movie with me. My sis (she's 15) was watching it with him well I was in the bathroom. Than I came back and I saw them kissing but I could my sis was push off. I yelled at them then ...
A. 27 October 2008: Honestly - try to patch things up with your sister. She's going to be a part of your life for much longer. She's had to deal with the same parents, and it will be really nice to have her for companionship when you're old and gray. So if you can, ... (read in full...)
How will I know when I've found true love?
Q. hi! I have a question in my mind that always bothers me. This is, how wil I now if I already found my true love? I have never had a boyfriend nor a close friend that is a boy. I am just curious. I need your advice please.......... ...
A. 27 October 2008: Okay this one true love business is just that - a business. Hollywood and Hallmark thrive because of this notion of "one true love". There is not just one perfect person for you. With over 6 billion people on the planet, there's a goodly number of ... (read in full...)
Why am I the secret girlfriend??
Q. I'm in my early 20s and dating a guy in his late 40s for about 3 months. We're both successful and have a great time together. There's one problem though, he tries to hide me from everyone in his life. There are very few mutual friends that know ...
A. 27 October 2008: If you don't want to be the secret girlfriend say "I don't want to be your secret girlfriend. I enjoy being with you and I want to share that with the people in my life." If he throws up any issues, then it seems to me that he is ashamed of your ... (read in full...)
Why is my boyfriend unattracted to me?
Q. my boyfriend and I have been dating for just over a year and i have just recently found out that he no longer finds me attractive sexually. At first i was devestaed as i am already quite self concious. However he explained that he was still in live ...
A. 27 October 2008: Is it a system-wide shut down on his libido or strictly in regards to you? It's normal for relationships to transition from a focus on lust-love (somewhere around the 18 mo mark in most relationships) and then for a renewal of sexual interest to ... (read in full...)
We kissed and now I don't know what to do!
Q. well, my friend and i are really close. one night we stayed up and then we fell asleep. then i woke up an hour later and he was watching me sleep and was closer than ever, he was in my personal space. then he asked if we could cuddle. i was like i ...
A. 27 October 2008: I suspect that he is romantically interested in you, but I can't be certain. Talk to him. Explain that you want to maintain a friendship - not enter into a sexual relationship. It will be an awkward conversation, but that should help clear up any ... (read in full...)
Should I believe him??
Q. I am in love with a man who is currently living with the mother of his child. She doesn't know about us but he says that he will tell her once they sell their house which is on the market right now. He says that he has never loved anyone the way he ...
A. 27 October 2008: He sounds like a man more than willing to lie to the mother of his child, so I wouldn't believe everything that he says. I'd say to him "I love you too, and I will wait for your house to sell and for you to tell the mother of your child." You should ... (read in full...)
Why should I suffer like this??
Q. with reference to my previous question "I'm attracted to a man who is as old as my dad" tagged "boss". I REALLY NEED HELP. It all went wrong, I have told him " I admit I like you and that you are making it hard on me cos I have started th...
A. 27 October 2008: Assuming I have read this correctly: You are both married and both have families. It sounds to me like he is mostly interested in a sexual relationship "you have a sexy brain". You will end up doing what you do. But I would really warn against ... (read in full...)
Should we have a threesome?
Q. my wife of 8 years is now fantasising about her having me and another man , when we have sex she gets really turned on talkin about taking 2 of us in both holes at once , the talk gets dirtier as we progress , should i give her ,her ultimate and ...
A. 27 October 2008: Some fantasies are best left as fantasies. Really take some time to imagine what that experience will be like and how it will affect you emotionally. Will it bring up any insecurities for you? Will it affect how you look at your wife? Is it ... (read in full...)
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