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writes: My boyfriend and I who are in a some what long and serious relationship have what I atleast think is be great sex. The problem is that when we do have a go at it, he looks at the porn on the screen more than me. Also, he often admitts to me that his dream is to have sex with two women at once which offends me and leaves me feeling like I am not enough. I know that I don't care for a three-sum, but it really seems to me that guys are more interested in it than girls are, why is that? And should I be offended??
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2009): tell him you will have a threesome if you can bring another man into the bed with you, call his bluff lol and if he agrees then lucky you
all guys fantasies about it, well most mines doesnt hed rather bring a guy into it for me than another woman, but most guys love the idea of mff but very few could perform for both so its a good fantasy for them
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reader, Hannan  +, writes (7 July 2009):
Yes,u should.If guy loves u then u are as much as "fivesome".He doesn't respect u from all indications.Think girl!
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reader, rugmonkey +, writes (7 July 2009):
Okay - staring at porn while having sex with you is not very classy. If it's something you both enjoy, then great - but it should serve as a springboard to a more intense connection between you not as a distraction from the act.I don't know what the male fascination with threesomes is (or that it is an exclusively male fantasy for that matter), but it does exist. I've openly talked about an interest in a threesome with past girlfriends, and they've often expressed a similar interest. But it was an idle theoretical interest. It's not something that I would act on in the context of a relationship. Someone is bound to get jealous, feel used, or be otherwise hurt.Should you be offended? I don't know enough about him, the way he discusses this fantasy, or your relationship to know whether you should be offended. But you are, and that's enough.I would talk to your boyfriend about it. Tell him how his discussions of threesomes make you feel and ask him if he could refrain from speaking about that particular fantasy with you in the future. If he continues to pressure you for a threesome, I would look carefully at your relationship - there's a chance he values the opportunity to have sex with two people more than he does your feelings.
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