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*oomedAngel
writes:with reference to my previous question "I'm attracted to a man who is as old as my dad" tagged "boss".I REALLY NEED HELP. It all went wrong, I have told him " I admit I like you and that you are making it hard on me cos I have started this new job and i like it i also like working with you and i don't want the feelings to come between all this and all the ppl that we love" I have even invited him and his (wife) to a party with my family in order to show him that i can't harm these ppl..."you know what he said? he said " I love the way you talk and the way you think you are smart and you have a sexy brain and please let's not worry about ppl around us because i love you "he told me he loves me" i want to protect you cos you are an angel sent from heaven" he also kissed me " i did try to push him off i asked him to stop" To be honest i am attracted to him i admit it and it is driving me crazy and i know this is all wrong 1. he is a lot older 2. he has a family. i know that this will harm ppl and i don't want it.but should i suffer? I need an answer please
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reader, rugmonkey  +, writes (27 October 2008):
Assuming I have read this correctly: You are both married and both have families. It sounds to me like he is mostly interested in a sexual relationship "you have a sexy brain". You will end up doing what you do. But I would really warn against throwing away everything you have spent so long trying to construct (a marriage, a family) for what will likely be a short lived affair.
Ask yourself "do I want to go through a divorce and have to deal with only seeing my kids some of the time?" Because that's really what you're asking here. If you take time to reflect on that and still want to go ahead - then do so knowing that you've made an informed decision.
With regards to "Why do [you] have to suffer?" Because you chose to marry someone. I'm sorry that you have to suffer, but unfortunately one of the things that you give up when you get married is the autonomy you had when you were single. Your individual actions will affect a multitude of other people, don't try and lie to yourself about that.
Assuming I have read this incorrectly: You are single and he has a family. Do you want to be in a long term relationship with a man who would so easily throw away a marriage and his children?
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