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writes:In my friendship circle there are 3 of us who are single and we're the closest 3 who do everything together. However we dont class ourselves as your average girls we seem to have this image where by we're just 'some of the lads' and we got on with lads because we're not like other girls..However, its got to the point where all 3 of us appear to have no emotion, we have no sympathy for girls who put up with rubbish in a relationship or who cry over something to do with a boy!! If lads approach or look at us we have to this 'Im not bothered/interested' attitude and I think we look quite intimidating when we're out together and I do see this as a main reason for us being single but its like if we dont act interested or bothered you cant get hurt?!My point is that I'm beginning to feel abit lonely and would be interested in finding someone to be with but because I'm so close to these girls its like I have to have this front and be heartless. To be honest its getting me down and Im beginning to feel sad, not about my life because everything is going great apart from the whole love life and I know Im only 19 but all my friends have had proper long term relationships apart from me?!Do I follow my friends? What do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (7 July 2009):
 Do what you want to do.
What is it you desire exactly? Do you want to be one of those girl who cries in a rubbish relationship? Are you "one of the lads" and wish to find a guy wants a girl like that?
Your life, your choice. So who are you and what is it that you really want.
Don't let peer pressure (either from your friends or from "everyone else got a boyfriend so I need one too") force you to do something that ain't you.
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reader, rugmonkey  +, writes (7 July 2009):
Start going out a couple nights a week without these friends. A group of girls can be intimidating for a guy.
If fitting in with these friends is making you this uncomfortable, you might also reevaluate what it is you look for in a friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2009): Maybe get an interest on your own to meet some other people? So you can still keep hanging out with the girls, but also spend some time out somewhere without them, or spend some time with other friends (even if you have to be a third wheel!) I don't know if it would seem to weird, but maybe you could talk a bit about guys with your girls, even jokingly about how the 3 of you are intimidatingly cool lol.
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