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writes:my wife of 8 years is now fantasising about her having me and another man , when we have sex she gets really turned on talkin about taking 2 of us in both holes at once , the talk gets dirtier as we progress , should i give her ,her ultimate and bring in another man ???
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (27 October 2008):
 We get postings all the time about threesomes gone wrong. I suggest you read some of those before you decide.
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reader, rugmonkey +, writes (27 October 2008):
Some fantasies are best left as fantasies. Really take some time to imagine what that experience will be like and how it will affect you emotionally. Will it bring up any insecurities for you? Will it affect how you look at your wife? Is it something you will "agree to" but later regret?
I would suggest bringing in toys to try and create the physical experience for her without another individual.
Also, before you agree to move forward with this, it's important that both you and your wife talk at length about what this means and if it will require any redefinition in your relationship.
Best of luck.
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reader, Aunt ~ Em +, writes (27 October 2008):
 It's completely up to you. But if you need to ask this site - then I'd say no, you're not ready.
Fantasies are fun to have between yourselves and to keep privately... But involving another person can seriously affect your relationship together.
There needs to be a mutual understanding that this is just her little fantasy. It by no means degrades you, and it shouldn't make you feel inadequate, if that's your worry. But can you really live with the idea that your wife was doing certain things to another man, in front of your eyes? It depends how you see it, and how much it would mean to her. Would it be a one off? Or would she want to repeat it? Who would be the third person?
Uneasy a conversation it might be... you need to go into detail and discuss how you both feel. And if you do feel uncomfortable with it, then say no. And suggest she cleans your car in her bikini with 5 of her friends as you pick and chose which to have your way with =P
Fair's fair, right?
No, seriously. Until you've discussed it and you're both comfortable... Keep it just to the idea and the talking. Maybe try bringing a toy into the mix, stimulating her anus while you penetrate... or what not. Just talk. Good luck
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