Can you get pregnant from foreplay?
Q. I no this seem a bit unusual but can you pregant from having fore play?...
A. 13 May 2008: There's a minute technical chance that you could get pregnant if a guy puts anything (fingers) inside you that has fresh semen or 'pre-cum' on, but honestly that's really rare. Otherwise, you're pretty safe.
But you can still catch STDs from thi... (read in full...)
Girls, would you feel neglected???
Q. Girls: would you be offended if your b.f. or husband never called you when he was on his breaks at work, but he went online and checked his email, and looked at other websites when on breaks? I used to call my husband about once a day when I knew he ...
A. 13 May 2008: At first when I read about him not ringing from work I didn't think it was a massive deal and was going to just suggest that you ask him if he'll do it now and then and do other things to keep busy during the day if you can (meet girl friends for ... (read in full...)
One night stand...but I don't regret it, should I?
Q. Right, straight to the point! I lost my virginity on a one night stand, and it doesn't seem to bother me that I slept with a random boy. Am I stupid for not being bothered that I don't want to be involved in a reltionship with him? Please hel...
A. 13 May 2008: Hey if it doesn't bother you, and you're happy that it was just a one night stand (and he knows that too, and knew it before you slept together) then you have no reason to feel guilty! As long as you're not misleading him then I can't see a problem. ... (read in full...)
Should men pay on the first 'date'?
Q. Question #1 I met a woman on an online dating service. She suggested we should meet up for coffee and I agreed and suggested a time and place. When we finished she said she would go to the restroom while I took care of the bill. She didn’t offe...
A. 13 May 2008: I think on a first date people should assume to pay for what they ate/drank/did unless one person offers to take care of it all, then it's upto them to sort out if that's okay or not. I'd never go into a date situation expecting the guy to pay for ... (read in full...)
I just can't take her walking out on me for every fault and/or arguement. She's causing me so much stress~ What should I do?
Q. What am I to do??? I've been with my girlfriend for about 3.5 months, and for the most part it's been a roller coaster ride......I love her with all my heart and want to do the best I can, but it seems it's not enough. Today, my cable was shut ...
A. 18 April 2007: come on mate... look at this from the outside. it sounds like hell and here's the key part... IT'S BEEN 7 WEEKS! having problems this early does not bode well for the future and she's showing great levels of immaturity. finish it now.... (read in full...)
He wants to know about previous bf's but I am not saying anything! Am i wrong in trying to keep these things from him?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been going out for seven months and we really love each other. am 19 and he's 23 but we wanna get married in the near future. my dilemma is that he asks me a lot of questions about my past and wants to know about every man i ...
A. 15 April 2007: Sounds like he feels like he needs this information for either a) closure or b) torturing himself. I'm the same with my bf and his ex, I found after the initial shock of hearing things I didn't wanna hear I could deal with the idea of them together ... (read in full...)
I got a uninary tract infection after having sex...is this common for women?
Q. When I first had sex with my boyfriend, I didn't know it is a good idea to pee after intercourse (even using condom). Therefore, I had urinary track infection. The doctor gave me some antibotics and suggest me to drink cranberry juice. Therefore, ...
A. 15 April 2007: Aww I feel for you hun. Since having a particularly bad UTI about 8 years ago I'm now prone to them, I've had bouts of it over the past 4 years recently, lasting between 2 hours and 3 weeks at a time. The pain is the worst I've ever felt, it's kept ... (read in full...)
Bf says he hates his ex gf..but how come he still takes her out for meals? What's going on here?
Q. hey i could really use some advice. Ive been seeing this guy for a few months and we had to keep our relationship secret as he was living with his ex gf. however she found out and appeared fine with. The thing i dont understand is that he told me ...
A. 14 April 2007: If this girl really was just his ex (no feelings involved) you wouldn't have had to keep the relationship a secret. In my opinion he should be making moves to find a new place as soon as possible, if he honestly can't stand her he'd have been out of ... (read in full...)
He did reply to say he was busy, do you think this is a blow off, or do I still stand a chance ?
Q. a few weeks ago i sent this text to a man i really do like it read, sorry for texting you yesterday i was a little anxious, i know you are a busy man and it wont happen again i must be getting on your nerves, i bet i have put you off that drink now ...
A. 14 April 2007: I don't think he is interested. You put yourself down to him which doesn't create a very good impression, and although you asked if he had been put off the drink he didn't say anything in reply to that. Which clearly insinuates that he doesn't ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for sex to hurt... I feel so embarrassed!
Q. Hey, I'm 20 and i've been with my boyfriend for 18 months now. I had sex for the first time after 4 mnths of being with him. The problem is it still hurts initially when we do it so this puts me off. Is this normal or have I got some kind of ...
A. 11 April 2007: often the first entry hurts me, no matter how turned on I am or how lubed we are. i find it better to be on top so i can ease him in, then stay still a few seconds until i have gotten used to him. then it's usually fine. unless you're really use I ... (read in full...)
I think I might love my chubby, hairy, saggy girlfriend but sex puts me off!
Q. See also: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/so-many-doubts-about-my-relationship.html Is This Normal? when i was in high school i was 15 dateing a 14 year old girl and she was on the chubby side and everyone all my mates and family picked on me ...
A. 11 April 2007: don't go out with someone you're ashamed to be seen with. she deserves someone a hell of a lot better than you, do her a favour and finish it now!... (read in full...)
Have I got enough best friends and is it normal ?
Q. I have to ask if the type of friendship I have is ideal. I have 5 best friends who I would go on holiday with. Apart from one of them who is a girl. After that, I have several friends who I'm good friends with and would go to their parties, but not ...
A. 11 April 2007: I don't think it's possible to have 10-20 BEST friends, people who u feel like you connect with on a huge level and would do anything for to make sure they're ok, where both of u are there for each other night and day.
I know of so many people w... (read in full...)
I get a nasty rash everytime I shave my pubic area! Help!
Q. Everytime I shave my pubic area I come out in a rash that looks really horrible. I don't want to wax, I want to shave but is there anything I can do that will stop me coming out in a rash? Such as a cream or a certain razor? Only whenever I go on ...
A. 11 April 2007: it's really annoying isn't it! every time I shave there i'm smooth for a day or two, but then the stubble starts growing, itches like crazy when i'm wearing underwear and I end up scratching until it's all red n bumpy and horrible. then wait a few ... (read in full...)
We are moving on to oral sex soon, any tips to make it good!?
Q. hi there.....me and my gf are gonna take things a step further really soon and i was just wondering how to give really great oral sex... and also shes had some before and i havent so how can i be her best ever....any tips would be extremly ...
A. 11 April 2007: another reader said do it really hard... well personally that doesn't help! from what I know of guys, I'm very different to them in how I like stimulation. most guys will come fairly easily from normal up down hand stimulation, but I find it easier ... (read in full...)
I opened up and told my husband about my past threesome!!! He cant move on from it and its destroying us! Please help!!
Q. I have a serious marriage problem. My husband and I have been married for 15 months now. We got married while he was in the military, and we were separated for 13 months. We have been living together for 3 months now. Everything was perfect in ...
A. 11 April 2007: go for marriage counselling. he's obviously having a hard time dealing with this new knowledge and can't seem to sort it out alone. if it's affecting you both this much this early in the marriage I think you need to see a counsellor pretty ... (read in full...)
I'm confused I only see my bf once a week as hes always busy, but he is dead romantic! Am I being selfish ?
Q. I am confussed i never see my boyfriend only once a week because he is always busy playing footy or going to see his dad...and he puts me last all the time but he is a ded romantic person and shows alot of care ..i want to see him more am i being ...
A. 11 April 2007: maybe that is all that he wants right now, or maybe he just does put you last (personally I'd be insulted if my bf chose football over me every time when it was one or the other). you don't know which of these it is.
the main point is that it'... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and the whole thought of sex feels me with dread!!
Q. Ok I hear about people my age having sex all the time. I am 15 and right now sex isn't even an option for me. Like the thought of someone inside of me kinda grosses me out. I am 15 and wondering if I am ever going to over come my fear of having sex. ...
A. 11 April 2007: no it's not gross. most people are really nervous at the idea of having sex for the first time. do you finger yourself? is it the thought of anything being inside you, or just a guy's penis that freaks you out?
sex is a really big deal. Yeah the... (read in full...)
I've been chatting to this guy on the internet, due to meet, but what If I dont like him in the flesh!?
Q. So i've been talking to this guy on the internet. we "met" through a mutual friend that i go to church with and he goes to school with. Well, we've been talking for awhile now and he wants to hang out this weekend. I really do want to meet him, but ...
A. 11 April 2007: just treat is as hanging out with a new potential friend for the first time. you haven't agreed you're going to start a relationship or anything, so if one of you doesn't like the other, who cares? just go and have fun.... (read in full...)
The guy I fancy mailed me asking if I want to go for drink! My friends say not to reply straight away as I will look too keen!
Q. I really fancy someone at my old job that i left last week. He is 30 and i am 20, and we used to flirt like mad. We built up such a close relationship, but he never asked me out. On my last day he asked for my email address and we exchanged them, ...
A. 11 April 2007: he's expressed an interest in going out with you. he's probably aware you check your email regularly, and it'll be pretty obvious you're waiting for the sake of it to send one back so just do it! You're adults, there's no need to play games. getting ... (read in full...)
How do I get my life on course and start feeling better...?
Q. I'm such a mess. I've had depression since september when I started college, had to drop two of my A levels because I fell too far behind, I got cheated on by the love of my life who broke up with me in October, but we still have sex whenever he ...
A. 11 April 2007: my advice (pure opinion) is STOP HAVING SEX WITH YOUR EX. he is using you for sex even though he doesn't feel you're worth being with! it shows a total lack of respect and right now you do not need someone like that hurting you. there are plenty of ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has absolutely no confidence and is always putting herself down.
Q. hey. me and my girlfriend have been going out now for 3 and a half months. i really like her in fact i think i love her. im 17 and shes only 14 but we both say age doesnt matter. i am not pushing her into anything. we have had sex twice but i dont ...
A. 11 April 2007: she's either a) insecure or b) attention seeking.
if it's a) then keep reminding her you think she's beautiful and love her for who she is. my bf of 7 months who I love to pieces is incredibly insecure about his looks. He thinks he's ugly and don'... (read in full...)
Life with his ex-wife changed him and it causes me upset! Is this fair to me and is there anything I can do?
Q. I had a causal talk with my boyfriend yesterday. We are in a serious relationship and are planning to buy a house and move in together some time this year. We talked about how men are annoyed at women when they complain about the slightest things, ...
A. 11 April 2007: From what I gather, the only way his ex relationship has changed him is that he won't put up with that kinda crap (nagging, ordering around) anymore. And this is a good thing! You're not gonna try any of that stuff, right? Well he's just more ... (read in full...)
His best female friend is now single.....is he going to feel differently towards her now?
Q. Hi, Im 17 and have been with my boyfriend for about 10 months, we have a really good relationship and i am really happy with him. Recently however, his best female friend has just split up with her boyfriend (I believe they were together for a g...
A. 11 April 2007: Try not to worry about it, there's every change that their slight crush has turned into a purely deep and meaningful friendship.
From what you've said in your letter it seems that although he fancied her, she never fancied him back. They certainl... (read in full...)
Do you bleed the first time?
Q. I'm a virgin and what i'd like to know is if you definetly bleed the first time you have sex? And also if you bleed still when you've broke your virginity? Thanks...
A. 11 April 2007: Not everyone bleeds, you can break your hymen through sports, horse riding, masturbation etc.
I must have done that somehow because I didn't bleed at all the first time, it didn't hurt too much either. If you do don't worry, lots of girls do and a... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and barely hugged a boy while my friend has scored with someone! I need advice on how to do things with the boys??
Q. im just 13 i've started 2 talk 2 a boy whos 14 and i really like him but hes into se and everything..my best freind is going out with sum1 and scored and i've bearly even hugged a boy. i just want 2 fit in but i don't know how to do anythink i've ...
A. 11 April 2007: just relax and let things go how they will. you're only 13, that's not anywhere near old enough to start worrying about getting things with guys done. I didn't kiss anyone til I was 14 or lose my virginity until I was 17, there's no rush.... (read in full...)
Are there any ways of making anal sex for a girl less painful?
Q. Does it feel better when a guy's giving a girl anal sex or having sex the regular way? Also..are there any ways of making anal sex for a girl less painful? I recently discovered that when my bf fingers me there it feels really good, but i'm re...
A. 11 April 2007: lube lube lube, and then some more lube. tell your guy to go really slowly, make sure you are really turned on, and let him finger you there first to relax you (I never liked that though... a penis fine, fingers eurgh!).
it's going to be uncomfor... (read in full...)
He wants to go out with the boys more often on his own...will he cheat on me if he does?
Q. my long time boyfriend and i have been arguing about him going out with the boys lately. he wants to go out soon alone however i believ he may hang with a guy and girl...thats ok except the girl likes him and im not sure if she would do anything and ...
A. 11 April 2007: look, if you feel it's at a point where you need to do things to prevent your guy cheating on you it's not going to work out. if all it depends on is whether or not you're there to stop him, you're never gona be able to keep tabs on him all the time ... (read in full...)
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