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writes:Girls: would you be offended if your b.f. or husband never called you when he was on his breaks at work, but he went online and checked his email, and looked at other websites when on breaks? I used to call my husband about once a day when I knew he was on a break, just to tell him something or to say how the babies are (we have a 2 mo. old and a 13 mo. old) or to ask what he wanted for dinner. But a cpl. weeks ago I called him while he was on a break and the manager lady where he works answered his cell phone and was rude to me, she is really mean and has mental issues I think, he didn't defend me and said it was no big deal so I told him I wasn't going to call him at work anymore, and I haven't. But he has not once called me, and I am a bit sad b/c I am a stay at home mom and I get really lonely. It'd be nice to know he was thinking of me and the kids sometimes. A lot of times I'll text him and he won't reply. When I ask why he didn't reply he'll tell me that he never hears the text go through on his phone so he didn't know. He is trying to build this machine, it's a small version of what he does at work..he really has no plans for doing anything with it, he just wants to see if he can build one. So after he eats dinner, he always wants to go to the basement and work on this project, leaving me alone with the babies and feeling lonely. I know he has the right to have a hobby but I feel like he'd rather be doing that than spending time with me or the kids. We haven't even been married for a year. He has not once given me a compliment or said he loves me, and the only time he touches me is when he wants sex. we haven't kissed since last summer, on our wedding day. This is his fault, I used to initiate it and eventually got tired of feeling like a fool as he never once initiated it. I feel like all I am is the mother of his kids, I don't feel like he thinks about me or wants to talk to me, etc. Is this a legit way for me to feel?
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reader, peppersalt  +, writes (13 May 2008):
At first when I read about him not ringing from work I didn't think it was a massive deal and was going to just suggest that you ask him if he'll do it now and then and do other things to keep busy during the day if you can (meet girl friends for coffee, whatever you can manage with two babies).
But then when I read that he doesn't compliment you, say he loves you or kiss you I realised it was serious. From what you say it doesn't seem like he really cares about you or loves you, I know some people are shy but that's really bad that he doesn't even kiss you. If you don't mind me asking, how long have you been together and why did you get married?
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reader, LIERIN +, writes (13 May 2008):
 Oh man ... This sound like a bad story ... sorry to hear that.I understand how you feel. I dont have children, but I am a nanny for twins (for two years now) and I do get very lonely as well. My BF works all day long and he has tons of people around him all day long, but I am stuck in the house or somewhere else, talking to myself or the babies. Thank God, my BF calls me houndrets of times a day and makes sure I know how beautiful I am.You have to say something NOW before its too late. Tell him that you cant go on like this. Get a baby sitter for the night, go out for a nice dinner and talk about it. You have to tell him how you are feeling and how lonely you are! Forget his crazy boss, she has her issues, you cant get botheret by her. Tell him, you need to talk to him once a day while he is at work .. and also make sure that he tells you nice things and that after dinner he doesnt just go down to fix his shit up, but he sits with you for a little and gives you some of his free time to talkHope that helpsGood luck
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