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writes:Right, straight to the point!I lost my virginity on a one night stand, and it doesn't seem to bother me that I slept with a random boy.Am I stupid for not being bothered that I don't want to be involved in a reltionship with him?Please help, am I some sort of slag??(sorry for the vulger term)
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reader, rolfen  +, writes (3 November 2010):
 I guess no relationship is better then a "fake" relationship based on invalid reasons.
If you're ok with it, and he is too, then I'd say you're both lucky.
If you have his number you can still try to reach him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2008): No you are not! Please don't think of yourself as a "slag". I really don't think that it is unusual most of my friends lost their virginity in this way. You don't have any regrets, why should you question this or apply labels to yourself?
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reader, Fiona xxx +, writes (6 August 2008):
 Nobody's commented for a while so...
Are you OK?
I don't think you are stupid or anything, just made an unusual choice for your first time that's all.
You actually read so much where there is the assumption that the guy is some kind of predator, takes advantage and stuff like that. That you should regret it etc.
If you both knew what was going on then you are not hurt or have regrets.
It's all how you handle things and lifes experiences both with sex and life in general that count.
I would say having one night stands does stay with you like 10 years down the line or something. So it's a good job you didn't regret it in that way. Having said that providing you don't sleep with too many guys, you will have a special place in your heart for each one. Therefore each relationship, not just the one night stands stay with you for a long time. As does the good and bad times with your future husband. In life many many things stay with you. In the same way that you remember some things from when you were 8 or 10 or 14. They are not necessarily bad things you regret, just stuff that sticks in your mind.
Fiona.
Basically most of us seem to have a one night stand at some point or other. As long as you don't get into no commitment and cannot commit to a guy you like.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2008): Its up to you and how you look at it, however try not to let it be a pattern, too many people now a days are just into one night stands and you put yourself at risk for a broken heart, lack of intimacy and diseases.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2008): I think it's pretty common. Mine was a one night stand too, but I did know the guy.
Why are you trying to make yourself wrong? Bottom line: if you are ok with it- to hell with what anyone else thinks!
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reader, Andrew83 +, writes (13 May 2008):
 If you didnt regret it then why are you here askin?
I wouldnt say you was a "slag" with it bein only once.
Not stupid but silly as it was your first time, it will be with you, you'l always remamber it for a very long time.
I do hope you both used protection at the very least.
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reader, peppersalt +, writes (13 May 2008):
Hey if it doesn't bother you, and you're happy that it was just a one night stand (and he knows that too, and knew it before you slept together) then you have no reason to feel guilty! As long as you're not misleading him then I can't see a problem. And I don't really like the word slag so I certainly wouldn't call you it lol.
Just make sure you use protection against pregnancy and disease obviously.
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