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writes:im just 13 i've started 2 talk 2 a boy whos 14 and i really like him but hes into se and everything..my best freind is going out with sum1 and scored and i've bearly even hugged a boy. i just want 2 fit in but i don't know how to do anythink i've not started my period yet and some off my freinds say they hav'nt either which relives me a bit but i just want some advice about how to do things with boys really.
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reader, jazninch +, writes (21 February 2008):
 Just be yourself it always works dont try to be someone else 4 them 2 like you otherwise you will end in a big mess i did take it from someone that has had it happen.Wait as long as u can ur fine not having a boyfriend or not scoring I'm with someone im not sure i want to be with but i cant tell him that coz he would probably punch me i wished i waited a couple more years im 13 in july and i am meeting a 16 year old please wait as long as you can if you want to talk my addie is[email address blocked]please please please wait please
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2008): My advice is to study hard in school. Learn how to take care of the house, cook and learn how to take care of children. Boys should be the last think on your mind. Life is not all about boys. Life is learning and sharing about Jesus Christ Your Saviour. The chief end of man is to glorify God. So whatever you do glorify God. If it doesn't glorify God then don't do it. If you would hide from Jesus if he walked into the room, then whatever you are doing must not be glorifying God.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2007): Don't just follow your friend do wat u think its rite and don't let any boy pressure u 2 do anything u dont want 2 if he really likes u he wont mind if u say u dont want 2 somthing but if he does then hes not worth it u need 2 find a guy who respects u and wat u want. Ur only 13 so thers no rush!
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reader, bobbins +, writes (12 April 2007):
dont rush into anithing you are not ready for, there is no race. you need to be yourself and you will find you will meet new people, make new friends, just rememba to wait until you are ready (u will enjoy your self much more) and also remember that what your friends say they have done might not be true
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reader, peppersalt +, writes (11 April 2007):
just relax and let things go how they will. you're only 13, that's not anywhere near old enough to start worrying about getting things with guys done. I didn't kiss anyone til I was 14 or lose my virginity until I was 17, there's no rush.
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reader, maria14r  +, writes (10 April 2007):
you shouldnt do anything with a boy just because your freind did it. you should be a leader not a follower. trust me i know
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reader, chunkymunky +, writes (10 April 2007):
 sweetie your 13, boy i wish i was still 13!! I was also pretty inexpirianced when i was 13, but then i became more comfortable with myself and around boys which really helped me get closer to people and yes 'score' =P.
just slow it down hunnie and your time will come okay, i didnt have my first real kiss until i was 14 so youve got plenty of time. xx =)
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reader, chrissy32789 +, writes (10 April 2007):
 Dear anonymous writer,
Take your time with this boy you are still young and there will pleinty of guys you will be with, when the time is right you will know, it doesnt matter if your friends have went all the way with people be yourself and dont always do what friends do, know what happens to girls when they have sex young guys will break up with them use them and talk about them saying there ez loose ect. you dont want that yeah they will probly call you names like prood and all that but deal with it cause you will love it when you wait for the right guy. Dont worrie about your period yet you will get it soon and its a pain in the butt lol but just take your time and dont let no one force you into something you dont want to do...
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reader, ChiRaven +, writes (10 April 2007):
 Take your time. Be yourself. Everybody matures at their own pace. There is no race to see who can score first, nor any penalty for being the last virgin left in your school.
What you should be doing with boys right now is be as friendly and relaxed as you can, and not worry about anything else. Just think of them as PEOPLE. You don't have to get physical with them until YOU are ready for it, and from what you say in your letter you're just not there yet. So don't. If a guy you like pushes you too far in that direction, just tell him NO and move on to someone else. There are plenty of guys around, and they are all maturing at different rates, too.
Once your body matures some and you start getting signals that you want to do more, there are lots of things that can be done to make life interesting. When you're ready, I'm sure you'll find out about them. If you're really lucky, at that time you'll manage to get together with a really nice, caring boy who is just slightly more experienced than you are and who is willing to take the time and effort to be your guide into the pleasures that a boy and a girl can bring to one another. That's the best that can happen. It often doesn't happen that way, but when it does there's nothing like it.
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reader, Nay07 +, writes (10 April 2007):
 First of all you are only a child, I know what it is like when you find some boy that you really like and all your friends are doing stuff, you just want to fit in. Just remember that though, you are a child. I have a five year old son, I got pregnant with him when I was only 15. I was still a child but I just wanted to do all the things that my friends were doing. And where did that get me? I now have no job, I never have any money for myself because I have to spend it all on my son and I have to watch every weekend when all my friends are going out and having a good time while I am at home on my own looking after my son. you have got all of your adult life to worry about things like that, just enjoy being a child because once you grow up you cant go back!
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reader, penta +, writes (10 April 2007):
 PLEASE don't be in such a hurry! Don't try to "score" just so that you can! Enjoy being with boys by talking, etc.
There are so many scary things (pregnancy, bad reputation, diseases) about having sex too early or too often. (And BTW, you CAN get pregnant before you start your period, and you can certainly get a STD.)
I'm not one of those "wait until marriage" types, but I really think you have a lot to gain by waiting until you're older and know what you want in life. Don't rush into this! Just enjoy being you. Think about it.
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