My b/f ex keeps updating him on her life. What shall I do?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a few months, we get on very well and are very close but I have a bit of a problem with his ex. It's a bit of a long story so I'll try and put it in a nutshell. His ex and he were together for two years but she ...
A. 13 March 2009: Thanks very much for your advice! I spoke to my boyfriend tonight and told him what was on my mind and why I saw her as a problem. I told him that I didn't have a problem with him speaking to her in itself, but the fact that he spoke about her so ... (read in full...)
My b/f ex keeps updating him on her life. What shall I do?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a few months, we get on very well and are very close but I have a bit of a problem with his ex. It's a bit of a long story so I'll try and put it in a nutshell. His ex and he were together for two years but she ...
A. 12 March 2009: My main problem is that he seems to talk about her quite a bit. When she updates him on something, he passes it on to me. I understand that obviously a 2 year relationship that ended in such a way isn't something you forget so easily, but I feel ... (read in full...)
My b/f ex keeps updating him on her life. What shall I do?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a few months, we get on very well and are very close but I have a bit of a problem with his ex. It's a bit of a long story so I'll try and put it in a nutshell. His ex and he were together for two years but she ...
A. 11 March 2009: Thanks. Like you said, the last thing I want to do is come across as possessive by asking him to ask her to back off or anything. But I really do see her as a threat, he is too nice to tell her outright but I'm anxious she will have some tricks up ... (read in full...)
I have many girl friends but I am not ready for a relationship
Q. I feels lik i want 2 start a relatnship wit a lady but inside of me i know am not ready 4 any kind of relatnship, why i said so is dat i have many friends dat ar girls but i hv not lik start tinking about any of dem in d nite and i even finds it ...
A. 11 March 2009: Umm have you asked three questions in a row now? You could easily just put it in one post you know. Although it's near impossible to actually understand you, it sounds like you're a commitment phobe. You don't like being tied down to one woman, in ... (read in full...)
Is this a case of bipolar love ??
Q. huuuuuhh.... ok. Here I go. ---IT’S TOO LONG SO IF U DON’T WANT TO, DON’T READ IT 2 years ago, i met this guy i'll call Jm who asked me for $ and then dissapeared. So I forgot about his name and about his existence. He also gave it back to me la...
A. 11 March 2009: First of all, you are not a 'ho', so stop calling yourself that because you make the situation more difficult for yourself. You are very young and you're discovering boys, there's nothing wrong with that- and you made him stop when you felt ... (read in full...)
How do I keep both women in my life?
Q. I've been in a committed relationship for the past 6+ years with my girlfriend, "Rachel". I love her with all of my heart and I had planned on proposing but something recently has caused me not to. One of my close friends, "Tammy", and I h...
A. 6 March 2009: You're a chauvinist! simple as. Either you love 'Rachel' or you don't - making these calls to 'Tammy' indicate you don't. You can't have them both, at least not until you get find out. This is a betrayal of 'Rachel's' trust, she doesn't deserve ... (read in full...)
I don't want to wreck the ship..but I don't trust my husband!
Q. It's been a while since I noticed a change in my husband's behavior, he is staying longer at work, comes back not interested in kids, barely shows up for planned activities. And when I started digging a bit deeper, I found some ( too kind ) emails ...
A. 5 March 2009: I think you have all the evidence you need and should kick him out. This is exactly what happened with my parents a few years back... three years of my dad lying hideously, we discovered he'd got his secretary pregnant. Don't let it get to that ... (read in full...)
Unprotected sex and now pregnancy concerns..best time to check?
Q. my boyfriend and me just had sex yesterday and we didnt use a condom . stupid i know and he promises to use one from now on and he used the pull out method o.o but he just took it out in time because he went everywhere and im afraid im pregnant ...
A. 3 March 2009: You still have time to go and get the morning after pill at your clinic or pharmacist. The pull out method does not work! It was something invented by the church in the eighteenth century from what I recall... it's good to know you're looking at ... (read in full...)
Advice on making first time sex a wonderful experience
Q. Dear Cupid, My girlfriend and i are thinking about having sex for the first time, but i dont know what to do to set the scene. i want it to be wonderful for her, as well as me. any advice on what i should do?...
A. 1 March 2009: The build up is what makes things so great in many cases. I recommend you take a bath together before and maybe give each other a massage. I see no one else has mentioned it but please USE A CONDOM- it will lessen your girlfriend's fears about ... (read in full...)
When is the time to know if I'm pregnant?
Q. Hi!!! I have been very thoughtful these days, llike 2 weeks ago my boyfriend and I had unprotected sex and he came inside me, so I have been thinking, when is it time to know if I'm pregnant, and what to do if I am?...
A. 28 February 2009: You have been the furthest thing from thoughtful- I know you don't want to hear it but you shouldn't be having sex at thirteen and if you do you should use some form of protection. You'll be able to tell by now if you take a test, but you should ... (read in full...)
He wants it hard and fast and I am a virgin and he knows but doesn't care! Please help!
Q. okay. this is really scary to me so someone please give me some advice. i have a boyfriend, he is 18. i'm a little younger than him, hehe. anyways we want to have sex. he knows i am a virgin.... he wants me to be on my hands and knees when we do it. ...
A. 28 February 2009: It's good to know you feel more confident and relaxed! But have you got rid of this guy yet? Only then can you really move on and let the 'healing' take place. I would personally advise you still see a counsellor, just to get a more professional ... (read in full...)
I'm ready for sex but I don't like my body!
Q. hello (Im 14 and im still at school ) i have liked this boy for about 2 years now i told him last wednesday and he was like oh ok me and him had a fight on thursday he said sorry on friday and he gave me a long hug at break then he gave me a...
A. 28 February 2009: To reiterate what the others say, you are too young. But I imagine you'd want to hear a slightly different take on things. Your language alone proves that you aren't emotionally ready for sex- the misplaced commas, the madeup word 'holded'... I may ... (read in full...)
Microgynon 30 (the pill) and bleeding! need help! x
Q. So I've been on microgynon 30 for a few months now, it was working great at first (better than the contraceptive implant I had in previously, was bleeding constantly) anyway, so it has been working great but this months packet I've missed a couple, ...
A. 26 February 2009: I think you're generally meant to restart taking the pill when your period comes on again, which it sounds like it's just about to. How many days have you missed since you last took the pill? If it's been more than 5 minimum, I would say start again ... (read in full...)
Microgynon 30 (the pill) and bleeding! need help! x
Q. So I've been on microgynon 30 for a few months now, it was working great at first (better than the contraceptive implant I had in previously, was bleeding constantly) anyway, so it has been working great but this months packet I've missed a couple, ...
A. 26 February 2009: Don't worry, it is normal! I dropped my entire Microgynon 30 packet on the London tube on the way to my boyfriend's and I was there for an entire week without being able to take it! About 3 days after I'd arrived my period (very lightly) started a ... (read in full...)
He wants it hard and fast and I am a virgin and he knows but doesn't care! Please help!
Q. okay. this is really scary to me so someone please give me some advice. i have a boyfriend, he is 18. i'm a little younger than him, hehe. anyways we want to have sex. he knows i am a virgin.... he wants me to be on my hands and knees when we do it. ...
A. 26 February 2009: This guy sounds like a bastard, sorry. If your boyfriend knows your a virgin, he should respect that! I was lucky enough to lose my virginity to my boyfriend when it was my decision- he wanted it, sure, and hinted at it but never to the extent that ... (read in full...)
I want to have sex at 13, what do you advise?
Q. im am 13 and i really want to have sex i just dont have anyone to do it with! who can i go to?...
A. 26 February 2009: Wow, when I was a child I was still playing video games...
To reiterate what everyone else has said, you ARE to young, even if you think you are mature enough! You have the rest of your young adult life to have sex, for now you should enjoy the simp... (read in full...)
Lack of confidence....
Q. The problem with me is that I have absolutely no confidence in me! I'm short and lean (5'11 and 58kg), ugly, talks tech 24 hours, jobless (thanks 2 the sharemarkets!) I just cant think I'm good! And those^^ feelings comes in my way when I t...
A. 25 February 2009: My boyfriend is skinny and a hardcore gamer, and I love him for it! All girls are different, though I must admit I can't think of many who would be interested in hearing about tech talk, even if it is very important to you. If you're talking to her ... (read in full...)
His university course is taking my place! How do I compromise some "us time" ?
Q. Feb 09 My boyfriend and I have been going out for 9 or 10 months but were the best of friends for four or so years prior to me 'making my move'. We just finished high school in november so had seen each other at LEAST 6 days a week, every week...
A. 25 February 2009: Being in a long distance relationship can be, needless to say, difficult if you feel like one of the parties isn't making the effort. How far away is your boyfriend from you now? Do you go up to visit him or does he come home to visit you? It sounds ... (read in full...)
He's 12, will I become pregnant?
Q. I am 14 years old and had sexual intercourse with a 12 year old young guy. This lasted for about 4 or 5 minutes and I orgasmed. Now I am afraid, will I become pregnant. He has no hair down there. ...
A. 24 February 2009: Have you read about the 13 year old boy who just became a father? It is certainly possible, so get yourself down to the clinic soon as to be sure, and see if you're past the date to get the morning after pill. I won't reiterate what the others have ... (read in full...)
Does anyone know if I should restart taking the pill as normal?
Q. I started on the pill about 3 weeks ago and was taking them correctly. However on Wednesday (I'm posting this on Sunday) I was travelling from uni to my boyfriend's and the sachet I had brought with me somehow fell out of my bag on the train so I ...
A. 17 February 2009: Thanks, just to say I got back to taking the pill as normal again. The nurse said I need to use a condom for the first seven days but my boyfriend and I are already using them, so I'll be continuing with double protection.... (read in full...)
Should I go on the pill in advance and how can I bring it up with my mum?
Q. Hello, I'm 18 and in a long distance relationship and have just found out that my boyfriend will be able to come over in August :) We will have been together for a year then :) Anyway, I would quite like to have sex and I think that at the leas...
A. 17 February 2009: You're being very smart wanting to start the pill now, it can take your body three months to settle down. I started taking the pill at the beginning of my current relationship, which was only a month ago, but needless to say it doesn't protect you ... (read in full...)
Will my BF mind if his GF isn't great in bed or incredibly forward?
Q. I know there's no straight forward answer to this, because everyone is after all different but I was hoping I could get some advice on here. My question is more or less 'do guys like virgins?' but specifically 'will the boyfriend mind if his ...
A. 10 February 2009: Thank you very much- I actually mistyped in my question, I've only been going out with him for a month not three!... (read in full...)
I don't know how to pursue him!
Q. okay so i really really like this boy that goes to my school but he is in the year above me, and i have a pretty good feeling he doesnt like me at all! he looks at me with a strange expression most of the time; he is friends with people in m...
A. 9 February 2009: Maybe see what clubs this guy is in? You could go along to a few sessions and even if you don't like them, he will start to notice you if you stick nearby. At the same time, don't become surgically attached to him haha, it's a fine balance. If you ... (read in full...)
My world is falling apart
Q. I'm having a really tough time in my life right now. My dog died and I thought that I was grieving but now I think that i'm depressed. I don't even smile anymore and if I do its for a short while. I also have problems at school with this guy named ...
A. 4 February 2009: I'm sorry you're going through a rough time, I know it's hard losing a pet you were very close to. I'd actually advise not to rush into anything with either of these guys- this guy at your mum's work wants to MARRY you and you haven't even dated? ... (read in full...)
Dry humping scare... could I be pregnant?
Q. I have a feeling the answer is going to be a definite 'no' here, but I thought I'd better check because I'm quite anxious about this. I spent the night at my boyfriend's and things got pretty heated in bed, he was wearing his shorts but I was stark ...
A. 30 January 2009: Just to say I started my period today, never been so thankful for my time of the month! I've taken out the pill perscription too and discussed condoms with my boyfriend already - so this was a good early wake up call! Thanks for all your help.... (read in full...)
Dry humping scare... could I be pregnant?
Q. I have a feeling the answer is going to be a definite 'no' here, but I thought I'd better check because I'm quite anxious about this. I spent the night at my boyfriend's and things got pretty heated in bed, he was wearing his shorts but I was stark ...
A. 29 January 2009: Thanks, I just got back from the clinic and have got the perscription for the pill but will be using condoms as well. I spoke to the nurse and have been told that if my period's late, I'll go back and get a test... finger's crossed still, the ... (read in full...)
Dry humping scare... could I be pregnant?
Q. I have a feeling the answer is going to be a definite 'no' here, but I thought I'd better check because I'm quite anxious about this. I spent the night at my boyfriend's and things got pretty heated in bed, he was wearing his shorts but I was stark ...
A. 28 January 2009: Thanks for your advice, my period's actually due within days so hopefully I've missed my peak point of cycle. I'll bring it up at the clinic tomorrow still just to be sure. To Icelordess- I had actually discussed using condoms with my boyfriend and ... (read in full...)
I'm trying to get back with my ex, last night I slept with her best friend!
Q. last night i slept with my ex gf's best friend, ive been trying to get back together with my ex but this f*cked everything up, what do i do!...
A. 24 January 2009: Anything about what? Sex? If that's the case, you're a lost cause because I believe most people learn the rudimentary basics when they're as young as 9! You're a lost cause, leave this poor girl alone, she is obviously not interested.... (read in full...)
Guys: How long until you ask her to be your girlfriend?
Q. Question for guys! How long would you wait to ask her to be your girlfriend? I mean guys still do that right, or do you just know. I would want a guy to ask me...Lol. Anyways, I've been dating this guy for about (2) weeks now. We've gone out o...
A. 23 January 2009: I'm not a guy but your situation is pretty much identical to mine- my guy insinuated that he could see me as his girlfriend then asked me out on our third date a few days after. Good luck!... (read in full...)
How do I get him to make the first move without getting humiliated?
Q. I really like this guy, and i think he likes me too. But there is always a possibility that he doesn't. So I don't want to make the first move and suggest meeting up outside of school, in case he rejects me. Also I have this thing where the guy has ...
A. 23 January 2009: I can completely understand why you feel like a guy should make the first move; I used to think the same thing but I made the first move on a guy at a ball and we're now going out...I went with my instincts and it turned out I was right. The one ... (read in full...)
I'm trying to get back with my ex, last night I slept with her best friend!
Q. last night i slept with my ex gf's best friend, ive been trying to get back together with my ex but this f*cked everything up, what do i do!...
A. 23 January 2009: I have to point to this statement of yours : 'and i didnt get anyone knocked up, cause they'd tell me and i pull out anyways so its fine.'
1) There is a good chance that the girl (god knows how many you've slept with already from the sounds o... (read in full...)
Would asking him to get STI testing offend him? Will just a condom be enough?
Q. I've been seeing my boyfriend for about a month now (we haven't had sex but I feel that we care about each other and trust each other enough to perhaps eventually make that step). I'm a virgin and he's had two sexual partners before, so I am ...
A. 23 January 2009: Thanks for your advice, I'm seeing him again on Monday so will ask him then if it seems appropriate. I'll let you know :)... (read in full...)
Sex as a weapon?
Q. Just to let the ladies know, this DOES NOT AMOUNT TO ANYTHING POSITIVE! Yes, women and men can enjoy sex just as much as the other, but men in general 'do' want it more than women and our feelings towards it are different. Men view sex as 'ess...
A. 20 January 2009: I agree that sex is an important part of a meaningful relationship, but where does that leave someone like me who is still a virgin and going out with a guy who has already had sex? Is that supposed to mean that if you don't give up your virginity ... (read in full...)
I'm 17, he's 24 should I meet him?
Q. Hey all. Im 17. I like this guy that is 24. We met via mxit. We get along realy well. He also likes me. Theres a festavis where he lifes in april, and i would like to go there and meet him. What do u think of that? Is he to old? Hes so mature ...
A. 20 January 2009: I wouldn't say the age difference is that much to be concerned by if you really like each other- my boyfriend's 25 and I'm 18 but age is just a number. If you decide to meet, I would recommend that you arranged prior to text a friend or parent every ... (read in full...)
I can't remember how to snog
Q. Well, I'm 15 and I've just recently started dating this guy who's about 17 and a half. (: He's really nice and caring and I think the world off him. He split up with his girlfriend last week. She was his first time and he was hers. He said he wou...
A. 19 January 2009: When you say "and you're probably thinking what 15 year old doesn't know"- don't worry! My first kiss wasn't until I was 16 and I was terrified something would go wrong but if it's with the right guy it will come naturally, so really try not to ... (read in full...)
I pushed her beyond her boundaries and now we are both suffering
Q. Ok, ok, I was being an asshole and I pushed my girlfriend too far. We didn't actually have sex but it was way farther than her moral standards would have let her go. She's 3 1/2 years younger than me and lives with strict parents as an only child. ...
A. 19 January 2009: Something very similar happened between myself and my boyfriend so hopefully I can offer some advice. You clearly respect your girlfriend and her wishes as you have some regret of how far you went. Judging from your age your girlfriend must be about ... (read in full...)
First time sex...the usual worries
Q. I know this is a question that has come up a lot, though thought it would be worth putting things in my own terms exactly so I can make things clear as possible... I'm 18 and met this guy about 2 months ago, he's 25 and not a virgin. We live a f...
A. 18 January 2009: Thanks for both of your advice, they helped me a lot. I discussed these concerns with friends and also the guy in question and he was really sympathetic, so the night didn't result in sex but we had great fun still! We're now going out as girlfriend ... (read in full...)
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