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writes:Hello, I'm 18 and in a long distance relationship and have just found out that my boyfriend will be able to come over in August :) We will have been together for a year then :)Anyway, I would quite like to have sex and I think that at the least we'll probably talk about getting more serious so I have no questions about that it's just that I think that it is about time I sorted out some birth control just in case we take things further. (Better to be safe than sorry after all, not ready for a baby for another couple of years yet!)So yes I would like to get on the contraceptive pill. Now I know that I need to go to my doctors and speak to them etc but I know this might sound silly and not a big deal to some people, but would it be best to go and get myself on the pill now, before summer so I can get myself into a good routine and if there's any problems I have time to sort it out? Because at the end of the day sex can add a lot of pressure to a relationship and I wouldn't want us to have to worry about pregnancy so early on you know?I'm sorry if I seem like I'm wasting your time and I admit that I'm not sat here worrying but I would just like to know if it's better for me to sort some contraception out in advance instead of leaving it until about a month before or even worse just rely on a condom.Oh and one other thing, my mother has said that there's no problem with me going on the pill but how can I bring it up? I'm happy to go to the doctors on my own but I would like her to know that I'm taking the pill just for her own comfort really but I'm just a bit unsure on how to bring it up that I will be going?Thanks for any answers in advance and sorry if this seems a bit pointless, thanks :)
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reader, Mymy  +, writes (17 February 2009):
 You're being very smart wanting to start the pill now, it can take your body three months to settle down. I started taking the pill at the beginning of my current relationship, which was only a month ago, but needless to say it doesn't protect you from STDs so use a condom as well unless you know you are both clean! I told my mum after I'd gone to the clinic and said literally 'btw I'm going on the pill to be on the safe side' and if anything she was proud that I was thinking ahead, your mum will react the same way I'm sure!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (17 February 2009):
You're doing the right thing - the pill can play havoc with your system for the first couple of months of taking it.
Just bring it up really casually, like as if you suddenly remembered it. "Oh that reminds me I've got to call the doctor today..." She'll ask why and you can say that you are going to go on the pill.
Make sure you make him use a condom as well when you see him!!
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2009): Don't apologise at all! You're making a wise choice. I changed pills recently and it took me about 3 months for my body to settle down and get used to it properly. It's good to get into the routine. Just tell your mum that you've decided to go on the pill- that will be enough I'm sure. It's a sensible decision to make.
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