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writes:I'm having a really tough time in my life right now. My dog died and I thought that I was grieving but now I think that i'm depressed. I don't even smile anymore and if I do its for a short while. I also have problems at school with this guy named robert. People tell me he likes me and i'm really curious. He blushed a lot yesterday when we sat next to each other. My world is falling apart. From my moms work this guy named alan that i don't know wants to marry me. I really like robert but if he doesn't speak up it might be to late. I might go out with Alan if he asks me. I've taken a lot of tests and each one says that roberts crazy over me! Robert also calls me dumb and ignores that my dog died instead of being supportive like my friends. I'm confused and sad. Please help me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2009): Sorry to hear about your dog. I had the same thing happen to me with my cat just saturday. Robert likes you a lot. Go with your heart. Hes only making fun of you because ... well its hard to explain. He maybe feels embarrassed.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (4 February 2009):
 I'm sorry that your dog died - I've been through that too and it hurts so badly. Take your time grieving.
I wouldn't pursue this Robert guy. Any guy who calls you dumb and isn't supportive, considerate or sensitive to you when you're going through a hard time is not going to be a good boyfriend! He sounds like an idiot to me!
As for Alan, he sounds a little like a weirdo if he wants to marry you having never seen you before. Maybe whatever he actually said got misconstrued in the grapevine, so maybe give him a shot and go on a date with him if he asks, but if he starts bending down on one knee, run for the hills!
I would just chill out and recover from the death of your dog. Losing pets is so hard!! Give yourself a break from guy drama and heal.
Good luck and my condolences.
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reader, TELLULAH  +, writes (4 February 2009):
 Sorry to hear about your pet, life can be very un-fair sometimes.
Like the others said though, I dont think you are ready for a relationship right now. Perhaps it would be better to get over your loss and have a clear head about what you want in the future. You are only young, so why do you have to worry or jump into anything your not sure about.
Take some time for yourself and let your heart heal.
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reader, Mymy  +, writes (4 February 2009):
 I'm sorry you're going through a rough time, I know it's hard losing a pet you were very close to. I'd actually advise not to rush into anything with either of these guys- this guy at your mum's work wants to MARRY you and you haven't even dated? Maybe you should speak to your mum about him as you haven't said much about the situation, like whether he said this to your mum or your mum believes she has picked up on something? This other guy, Robert, does not really seem very supportive if he's calling you dumb and ignoring your problems- even if it is his way of flirting.
My best advice to you would be to seek professional help, there is no shame in counselling- I went through it myself when I was 16, it is a very hard age to be for some but talking to someone neutral really does help you when you're down. Looking for a boyfriend or love interest right now may not be the best thing for you, it's easy to become too attached to someone especially if you are having emotional problems, you're still young and there are plenty of other opportunities. I hope this has been of some help, please message me if you want to talk about it further.
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (4 February 2009):
 Right what we have is a fair few issues going on at once so when this happens it's best to deal with one thing at a time. It's going to hard to lose your dog who obviously was a close companion. Grief is something that takes time to resolve and to be totally honest there is no 'quick fix' I can give you. Just talk to the supportive people about how you are feeling and that will help.
With Robert id say you are obviously dissappointed that somebody who you obviously like a little is behaving in this way and to me it kinda says your affections might be better placed elsewhere. I think you need to concentrate on yourself right now and dealing with the feelings steming from your dog dying.
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