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*ris_helpme
writes:last night i slept with my ex gf's best friend, ive been trying to get back together with my ex but this f*cked everything up, what do i do!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2009): bro im 14, juss one year younger than you, but you really need to stop thinking with your dick, dont let your penis control you bro...and you should definitely pay more attenhtion in sex ed classes..lol
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reader, kris_helpme +, writes (24 January 2009):
kris_helpme is verified as being by the original poster of the question no..i didnt mean sex
i meant girls and stuff, and we talked on the phone last night and i think we're good
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reader, Mymy  +, writes (24 January 2009):
 Anything about what? Sex? If that's the case, you're a lost cause because I believe most people learn the rudimentary basics when they're as young as 9! You're a lost cause, leave this poor girl alone, she is obviously not interested.
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reader, kris_helpme +, writes (23 January 2009):
kris_helpme is verified as being by the original poster of the questiontell me anything u know about it, since i havent heard of a lot of this
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reader, Mymy +, writes (23 January 2009):
I have to point to this statement of yours : 'and i didnt get anyone knocked up, cause they'd tell me and i pull out anyways so its fine.'
1) There is a good chance that the girl (god knows how many you've slept with already from the sounds of it) got pregnant but chose to have an abortion because they realised you were too young and immature to be a father, and they themselves weren't ready for it more importantly
2) To reiterate what rhythmandblues2 said, pulling out does not ensure anything
You really need to learn a few things about basic sex education...Leave this girl alone, for her sake and piece of mind!
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reader, kris_helpme +, writes (23 January 2009):
kris_helpme is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwe had a sex class but (like all my other classes) i didnt pay attention lol.
i didnt know half the stuff u said, i learned a lot today :p
ill be more careful,
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2009): You are crazy, pulling out does not make it fine, you can easily get a girl pregnant that way, your penis emits fluid as lubrication which contain millions of sperm, your sperm can live inside a girl for up to three days and if the time is right in her cycle within those three days, you are a dad.
Do they have Planned Parenthood offices in Canadad, or a sex education class or a book you could read about sex and reproduction? Talk to your parents, maybe they could educate you...it is only a matter of time before your life is ruined by an unwanted pregnancy.....trust me it is the worst thing for you to keep going on this path. Child support can ruin your financial future, unless you plan on being a Hollywood actor and can hire help, you are behaving like a complete moron....do you know what a moron is?
What I mean by a stud, is that you think it is your job or gift to have sex with as many mares as you can in the herd....stop it, it isn't cool and your reputation isn't either, you don't know what people think, trust me they don't think highly of you for it..
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reader, kris_helpme +, writes (23 January 2009):
kris_helpme is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni already have a bad reputation for that stuff, but no one sees it as "bad" besides my gf...and her friends.
and i didnt get anyone knocked up, cause they'd tell me and i pull out anyways so its fine.
what do u mean trying to be a stud?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2009): I agree you have a bigger problem, you are screwing a bunch of different high school girls and wearing no protection....can you say daddy? Can you say a life of child support before you can even get an education and a good job...how you going to start out with that monkey on your back? Can you say STD's, can you say Bad Reputation.
Forget it, you have screwed it up literally.....leave the girl alone, she is better off without you and her so called slut of a best friend....
My don't teens have anything else to do in Canada? My guess is yes, get a job, get a hobby, stop trying to be a stud, you just look immature and stupid.
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reader, kris_helpme +, writes (23 January 2009):
kris_helpme is verified as being by the original poster of the questionis there a way around condoms,
like if she had birth control or somthing
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2009): How would you feel if you got your ex pregnant? bet you wouldn't be putting all the blame on her then would you? Do you understand the risks your putting yourself and her in by not protecting yourself?
Your other 'problems' seem like stupid tween drama and I hope, you learnt your lesson or you become just one of those bad guys girls are warned against.
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reader, kris_helpme +, writes (23 January 2009):
kris_helpme is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWait, why would i get a lawyer? I'm 15! I think she'll just be really pissed, no legal stuff ahahaIt'll be awkward seeing them both at school today.
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reader, Fatherly Advice  +, writes (23 January 2009):
 Healthy relationships are based on trust. You seem to have a history of violating her trust in you. You also seem to have no respect for her. You think she is stupid. I think that she is starting to get wise to you.
What you should do now is retain a good lawyer.
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reader, kris_helpme +, writes (23 January 2009):
kris_helpme is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell we broke up last monday cause she found out i dont wear condoms. but honestly, she shuld be able to tell so its her fault for being stupid. i never said "i dont wear condoms" i just never did, and she found out and got pissed.wednesday i went to talk to her and i put my hand on her shoulder to keep her calm and she slapped me then sacked me :l so that didnt go well
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reader, lost210 +, writes (23 January 2009):
I know this may be difficult but it would be better if you told her than if her best friend told her. There are some situations in which the truth is better left unsaid but you do run the risk that her best friend will tell her about it. So, I advice that you let her know especially if you are trying to get her back. However, you have to accept that she may never get over it. Also here a couple of questions:1) why did you break up and how long have you been broken up?2) did she seem to be receptive to your advances as far as getting her back?Goodluck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2009): That's not a best friend and I think you should move on, this would probably hurt her if she still has feelings there and something you can't take back nor should you keep it from her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2009): well thats kinda messy but theres always solutions. well if you really love her so much you should talk n try to prove to her that it will never going to happen again. n you have to give her time to think about. while giving that time you should do thing that you never done for her before. like sweets stuffs. and dont fucked it up again.
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