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writes:Dear Cupid, My girlfriend and i are thinking about having sex for the first time, but i dont know what to do to set the scene. i want it to be wonderful for her, as well as me. any advice on what i should do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2009): just to add a little more to Mymy's comment.
Practice getting the condom on and off...use a fresh one each time. Nothing cools things down than your girlfriend sitting there reading a magazine whilst you spend 20 mins trying to get one on.... practice...
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reader, Mymy  +, writes (1 March 2009):
 The build up is what makes things so great in many cases. I recommend you take a bath together before and maybe give each other a massage. I see no one else has mentioned it but please USE A CONDOM- it will lessen your girlfriend's fears about getting pregnant and will save you both the anxiety of unsafe sex. It may not go perfectly, as the others have said, but that doesn't mean it won't go well! As long as you are both comfortable in each other's presence and patient with each other, I'm sure you will both enjoy it!
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reader, FashionistaBaybee  +, writes (1 March 2009):
You could make it special with dinner, maybe some sexy desert like fruit dipped in chocolate or whipped cream. Light candles, romantic things like that. Just make sure ou take it slow and be very gentle. Use losts of foreplay and lube if nessisary. And make sure she's comfortable. the more comfortable she is the more enjoyable it will be:D
hope I helped. xoxo
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reader, aunty_rach  +, writes (1 March 2009):
hate to burst your "wonderful first time experience" but most girls will say that their first times were usually not that wonderful, due to it hurting and being a little awkward.
all you can do is maybe set the mood and make sure you go slow and gentle. if she wants to stop at any point then stop.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2009): Well make sure you have the whole day and won't have any interruptions. Get a few things ready, lube condoms etc, and then just take it slooooow, with no pressure. Spend a long time pleasuring each other, maybe give her a massage. Keep the lines of communication open.
Its also important what you do after: no judgements, no unrealistic expectations. Cuddle her a lot.
Good on you for being a thoughtful boyfriend! Lucky girl :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2009): Talk to her. Find out what she wants... then reach a good compromise.
Get naked and build up to the even slowly enjoy each other bodies, touch taste etc.
I would make sure you have lots of time and not disturbed. some where comfortable - a big bed.
And a word of warning it isn't really all rockets and earthquakes the first time....but it does get a lot better. Bit like riding a bike without the pedalling.
Happy shagging
Star.x.
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