Sex is a sacred thing to me and I'm not interested in my fiance's ideas.
Q. My fiance and I have been together for a long time and, since we are both virgins, we decided that we are not going to have sex until we are married. So, as an alternative we will "mess around" by touching and pleasuring each other, but we are ...
A. 24 January 2009: The thing about sex is..it's just as much about giving as receiving. The point I tried to make with the scripture was that all this other 'messing around' is encouraged in the Bible. Why? Because it's as much about pleasing the other person as ... (read in full...)
Confused about me sexuality and looking at porn.
Q. My question, i guess, is sort of about porn. Okay, so i'm seventeen, and i a little sexually confused. i thought theat by looking at porn i'd get a better answer about whether i was straight, or a lesbian, or bi, or pan, or WHAT! in fact, i enjoy ...
A. 23 January 2009: Well, are you going to University in september? It's a great place to figure that sort of thing out (as long as you're being safe). For me, I never realized that I never really liked anyone before because I'm not physically attracted to white guys. ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend doesn't dress classy
Q. My girlfriend doesn't dress very classy (she like to show off her body). When I first started dating her (we been together for a year now) she wouldn't even dare to dress like a slu*. She wears clothes leave a little imagination and its really ...
A. 21 January 2009: try making a deal with her?
I'm sure there's something about you that gets on her nerves too. You could try...
"You know I feel a little uncomfortable when you wear X, but it's your body, I can't tell you what to do with it...however....if you leav... (read in full...)
Confused about me sexuality and looking at porn.
Q. My question, i guess, is sort of about porn. Okay, so i'm seventeen, and i a little sexually confused. i thought theat by looking at porn i'd get a better answer about whether i was straight, or a lesbian, or bi, or pan, or WHAT! in fact, i enjoy ...
A. 21 January 2009: Yup. Nooo need to be worried. If you go to conventions (ohh the secret geek shame emerges) it's all screaming girls who go watch the yaoi.
I'm not really into porn either. I'd rather read Outlander any day. Some girls love it, others don't. I... (read in full...)
Why don't I have a period now?
Q. i think there is something wrong with my periods..i was going good until last year when it just stopped..and i am worried to death please help! i still haven't had my period again! why don't i have my period!?...
A. 21 January 2009: If you're very thin, this might be a reason.
To have your period, you must have good nutrition. Many female athletes and models lose their period, because their % body fat dropped too low, which signals a lack of adequate nutrition. Other re... (read in full...)
I've lost my sex drive
Q. I am a 46 year old male. Happily married for 25 years. I love my wife and she loves me. Sex was great until 3 years ago, when I first started to experience erectile difficulties, then loss of sex drive, and now I have no desire for sex, not even mas...
A. 21 January 2009: I know you've seen doctors, but have you tired a sex therapist yet?... (read in full...)
How long will a guy wait?
Q. I was wndrn how long can you make a guy wait b4 he gives up and looks for someone that will give him what he wants?...
A. 21 January 2009: Depends on the guy. With my first boyfriend, we waited 10 months, for my second...maybe 1.
It shouldn't matter to you though, how long he's willing to wait. You should go by your watch not his. Don't let his threat of leaving make you give it ... (read in full...)
Why do girls always fall for the bad guys?
Q. im having girl trouble and i need your help..i have to questions... 1-ok there this girl i really like and we're really close friends and i think she likes me too..but tthe thing is she has a boyfriend and she's always flirting with me and seem...
A. 21 January 2009: 1. Confidence. Bad boys OOOZE confidence. It's very attractive. More than this, the badboy's confidence means he actually approaches women, whereas nice guys aren't as straight forward.
2. Appearance. Most of the badboys girls love are physical... (read in full...)
How can I lose my belly and get a six pack?
Q. Is it neccessary to have a flat belly to make girls go "crazy" about me?? I haven't got flat stomach but I lose weight! Badly!! Whenever I hear a girl talking about boys, she sounds like this: "I want to have a boyfriend with six-pack stomach..." I ...
A. 20 January 2009: Six packs are the female equivalent to double Ds.
You fantasize about them, admire them in magazines, but it's more like a nice bonus than a requirement (unless you're shallow).
Personally, I prefer my boyfriend's firm (not rockhard) tummy ... (read in full...)
I'm jealous and always seem to hurt my girlfriend
Q. Why do I always hurt my girlfriends feelings? I don't understand it it's like everytime I do something it hurts her feelings. I've been with her for seven months now and we seem to fight like almost everyday and I'm getting so tired of it. I'm a ...
A. 20 January 2009: Is there a reason you're so jealous of her guyfriends?
Have you tried hanging out with them and judging their relationship?
There's really no reason to be jealous..If you're worried about keeping her, jealousy will only drive her away faster.... (read in full...)
Bathroom problems. Sensitivity problems?
Q. How do I stop being so sensitive? Do you think this is a medical problem? I’m sensitive. Emotionally and physically. I am shy when going to the public bathrooms and I don’t want anyone to be in there as well. I used to not be this way. I’m sensiti...
A. 20 January 2009: I think it's probably time to see a psychologist.
This sounds like it's really affecting your life.
You didn't waste your life! You can get through this.... (read in full...)
Graduation dress ideas please?!
Q. My Bf is Graduating this year but i'm not.. He wants me to get grad photos with him but i have no idea what to wear. Help please! Advice and links to example dresses and hair styles would be much appreciated! :)...
A. 20 January 2009: If you're looking to maybe not spend as much, You might try asking a slightly older relative or girlfriend to borrow her old prom dress, and do your makeup and hair for you. Half the time it's better than what you pay for.
My first prom I spent lo... (read in full...)
My husband made me get implants, I got ill, had them taken out and now he doesn't treat me right
Q. What would you do or how would you feel if your husband told you that he was embarrassed to be seen with you in a bathing suit because you were small breasted and that he thought you looked like a man and wanted you to get implants? How would yo...
A. 20 January 2009: All these ladies have the right idea.
My suggestion: Therapy or Divorce.
My second suggestion: make yourself some appointments with a physiotherapist to carefully retrain your pectoral muscles, so you can get back to doing what you love.
... (read in full...)
We got into a bad fight and he slapped me!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 1/2 years. Our relantionship has always been up and down. He has cheated on me couple of times and I've forgived him. Just last Sep we broke up and got back together in late Nov. Things were going good trying to ...
A. 20 January 2009: Cheating? Slapping? Angry messages?
It's time to GTFO, babe.... (read in full...)
How to know when the time is right
Q. Virginity.. How do you know when yuur ready to lose it? How old would be a suggested age and how long should you be with a person. Any tips on the whole topic or virginity and sex at all would be helpful....
A. 20 January 2009: You have to trust him, you have to be protected, and you have to be comfortable!
1) trust.
- This means you are emotionally ready for sex, and know and trust each other to be conscientious of each others feelings during and after sex.
- ... (read in full...)
Controlling bowels and anal sex
Q. Hi, ok Im on my thirties and in a very loving relationship of 3yrs. We have a great sex life and enjoy everything together. We've been having anal sex for a while now and I'm wondering if anyone has any advice on how to fully control my bowels. ...
A. 20 January 2009: From what I understand, doctors don't really recommend enemas..the tip can make tiny perforations in the lining, which is especially dangerous for women. Enemas just increase the risk that is already posed by having anal sex. Worst case scenario, an ... (read in full...)
Sex is a sacred thing to me and I'm not interested in my fiance's ideas.
Q. My fiance and I have been together for a long time and, since we are both virgins, we decided that we are not going to have sex until we are married. So, as an alternative we will "mess around" by touching and pleasuring each other, but we are ...
A. 19 January 2009: If you're religious, you'll probably be familiar with the Song of Songs?
It's in the book of Solomon if you're not too familiar with it, and it has to do with a husband and wife, and the joy of sex. Many different types of sex acts are alluded to, ... (read in full...)
Is she pregnant?
Q. Today i was texting my girlfriend and lately she has been talking alot about having kids but wat she has said is that she wants to wait but 2nite she has been texting me she is sick and throwing up alot with a bad headache. We had the sex the day ...
A. 19 January 2009: If she's on the pill there is still a slight chance she could be pregnant, especially if she does not take it perfectly.
Having your period (on the pill it's not quite a period, it's a withdrawal bleed") is usually a good sign she's not preg... (read in full...)
How can I get men to notice me?
Q. I am in desperate help here. How can i get men to notice me... men that don't just want to get in my pants. I just got out of a relationship and i thought it was going somewhere, and then a week ago he says, "i know you love me" ((never told him ...
A. 19 January 2009: well self esteem is the first thing you gotta work on, because it's confidence that men are attracted to!
Have you ever thought of doing something like taking a dance class? It's a great social skill, great exercise, and it teaches you to be conf... (read in full...)
Is it ok for BBW's to be Picky when Dating Men?
Q. Hey Everyone. I'm a Proud BBW, single in the dating game. I'm starting to feel bad because I've been turning down alot of men. I know I have a strong preferrence, I try to hold back on it. I like to give all men a chance. Since I was a BBW ...
A. 19 January 2009: Substance is very important, but don't think that by only dating attractive men you're being shallow. For a relationship to work, there has to be attraction too, right? Always live up to your personal standards! You won't be happy otherwise. Good ... (read in full...)
Do you think maybe he likes me?
Q. I am 20 years old and there is this guy who works at the same place as me but in a different department, who is 22 years old. I always catch him staring at me, and when we talk he looks right into my eyes. Whenever I walk past him, his eyes fo...
A. 19 January 2009: Yes. He likes you lots.
Ask for his cell phone number, or his MSN if you're shy!... (read in full...)
Drunk Sex!
Q. It was after I had been out for a few drinks with my mates, I had been texting this boy for ages and we were always talking about doing things but we never got the chance! Anyway, I was talking to him in the bar and before i know it, it was ...
A. 19 January 2009: Haaa, that's a hilarious story! Made my night.
Hope you used protection!
What was his reaction to breaking your wrist?... (read in full...)
Other than asking a girl, how do you know when a girl is truly into you?
Q. Other than asking a girl, how do you know when a girl is truly into you? What are some things to look out for to know if she genuinely cares for me like I care for her?...
A. 19 January 2009: heres some signs that might help
long looks, dilated pupils, flushed cheeks or lips
legs crossed towards you, copying body language or posture (i.e. you fold your arms, she folds hers)
loong hugs.
flirty playfighting
touching her face... (read in full...)
Controlling bowels and anal sex
Q. Hi, ok Im on my thirties and in a very loving relationship of 3yrs. We have a great sex life and enjoy everything together. We've been having anal sex for a while now and I'm wondering if anyone has any advice on how to fully control my bowels. ...
A. 19 January 2009: from what I understand, a little leakage is normal, but having a bowel movement prior to engaging in anal sex can help.
The reason most men and women in porn don't leak is because they fast for 48 hours prior to.... (read in full...)
He's emotionally abusive, and physically as well. He's manipulative, controlling, and a very angry person.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been in a serious relationship with each other for almost four years now. I am 17 and he is almost 18. I do love him, and he says that he loves me. Things have been going sour for awhile now. I'm confused, and would ...
A. 18 January 2009: You should talk to a women's shelter about leaving safely. You're also going to need a therapist after being in an abusive relationship.
You might also want to contact the police about a restraining order if it comes to it.... (read in full...)
Confused about me sexuality and looking at porn.
Q. My question, i guess, is sort of about porn. Okay, so i'm seventeen, and i a little sexually confused. i thought theat by looking at porn i'd get a better answer about whether i was straight, or a lesbian, or bi, or pan, or WHAT! in fact, i enjoy ...
A. 18 January 2009: Nothing's wrong with you!
Actual porn is more of a guy thing.
Guys are much more visual than girls.
Girls like romance, closeness, attraction, not a bored looking girl and a faceless guy rubbing their nasty bits for money.
I bet what you... (read in full...)
When we have sex he wants me to talk about him with another man! What is THAT all about?
Q. Hi there! I have a Q. When me and my bf are horny/playing/having sex he loves me talking dirty which is fair enough but he always wants me to talk about him with another man every time we do have sex. Whenever i talk about him with another man he ...
A. 18 January 2009: I agree 100% with Elizawarder.
He's gay or bi, and having trouble admitting it, even to himself.
If he's bi, there's no reason you can't continue your relationship, but it would be best to have this all in the open. You definitely need a chat.... (read in full...)
It's almost too much now to keep everything straight at work, home, and even with her. Any advice would be helpful.
Q. I've been in this relationship with a single woman for 6 months, I'm unhapply married 30 years. It's getting harder with her when I leave to go home. She keeps saying she wants me to stay, that really makes me mad. Doesn't she realize I that it's ...
A. 18 January 2009: A) stop CHEATING on your wife. Fix the problems with your wife, see a therapist.
B) If you really loved this girl, you would want to be with her full time, not just on sunday mornings. Be honest with your wife and start a new one with this girl... (read in full...)
He likes his ladies thicker
Q. My boyfriends past girlfriends have all been thick and i am the first girlfriend he has had that is thin. He tells me he is unhappy with sex since i am thin but tells me that sex is not everything in a relationship. I still feel like to him it is ...
A. 18 January 2009: Honeeeeey.
There are LOTS better of better guys who APPRECIATE thin women.
No need to be upset that you're not chubby!!
Those exes would probaby die to look like you.
Anyway, any guy who makes you feel bad about your physical appearance, an... (read in full...)
Guys used to line up to date me but now I'm pregnant I'm getting rejected.
Q. So my baby's daddy left me an broke my heart an he's dating an ugly chubby chick now. I'm 7 months pregnant and can't find a guy to date. Guys used to line up to date me but now I'm pregnant I'm getting rejected. How can I get a boyfriend? ...
A. 18 January 2009: I'm just trying to give her all the information out there, cos some people like to omit it... But there's one thing you should think about. Is wanting someone to love you the right reason to have a baby? Children deserve to grow up in a... (read in full...)
Threatened & raped by neighbor, I can't tell my husband
Q. ok i happy to found this site i think it help us to finde answers in all things in our life my english not good but i try do my best :) i was raped by neighbor when I was 14 years and he 25 years i think he play with me like my brother i thin...
A. 18 January 2009: I think you should see a female doctor, who won't tell your father or your husband about what happened to you.
You might have a cut or tear in your anus that could lead to infection. Tell the doctor everything that happened to you, to make sure that... (read in full...)
I just don't know how I can stop pressuring him...
Q. I was with my ex for 4.5 years and we broke up 4.5 years ago. (Ironic, I know.) Anyway, the reason we broke up at the time was because I was only 23 and couldn't be in a serious committed relationship anymore. We really didn't have a "bad" ...
A. 18 January 2009: you seem hyperfocused on this guy.
3,000 miles is a valid reason for not wanting to start a relationship.
You know...you could always try a one night stand in your location...
ask him what he thinks!
You need to calm down about this and focu... (read in full...)
He's too shy to make a move
Q. I've liked this guy for almost 2 years and can't seem to get over him. He's a little shy, so if anyone would make the first move it would have to be me. I can't do it :(. We're such great friends and I value the friendship. I don't know for sure ...
A. 18 January 2009: Strategy One.
when he leaves, give him a hug.
When he starts to let go, hold him for a second longer.
Evaluate whether he's tense and runs away, or whether he's receptive.
If he's shy, it might take him a few times so dont give up at first!
... (read in full...)
Mom doesn't like me talking to this guy
Q. What should I do, my mama don't like the boy I talk to, we are just firends n she don't have a reason to be mad, cause we not seeing eachother. We talk on the phone for 4 or 5 hours on the phone sometimes, yes we got close over the last few months ...
A. 18 January 2009: well, what reason does your mum give for not wanting you two to talk?... (read in full...)
Guys used to line up to date me but now I'm pregnant I'm getting rejected.
Q. So my baby's daddy left me an broke my heart an he's dating an ugly chubby chick now. I'm 7 months pregnant and can't find a guy to date. Guys used to line up to date me but now I'm pregnant I'm getting rejected. How can I get a boyfriend? ...
A. 18 January 2009: Hey hon. I'ma try and write you a helpful answer.
It's understandable that you want your ex back, I'm sure you're scared right now.
Ignore these hurtful people. Your in a bad situation but you have to deal with where you are right now. So yes, a f... (read in full...)
Why do teachers get attached to students?
Q. Woah. So I was reading some past questions... why do teachers sometimes get attached to their students? Sometimes, so much so that they would touch students inappropriately? I don't get that. At my school, we see a teacher in class, or occasionally ...
A. 18 January 2009: oh nooooooo.
recipe for disaster.
If he does fall for you, he could lose his job.
At the most, just try to be his star student. then maybe after you graduate, try and keep in contact. If he's single.... (read in full...)
Was I just a good time to him?
Q. I just recently had sex with this guy that i really liked and i thought he liked me but one night i came over his house and we had sex and now we barely talk at all. Did he use me or what? I need help!!!!!!!!!!...
A. 18 January 2009: You had a one night stand.
Often people don't talk after that.
If you want to rekindle his interest, seductively brush him off. Make him chase you, girle.... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend but he's not big enough for me!
Q. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for a while now, and I really really like him. Everything in our relationship is perfect, except for he has a tiny penis (3" when erect) which cannot satisfy my needs... I don't want to lose him but do ...
A. 18 January 2009: All the nerve endings are located near the opening anyway. What about fingers, tongues, toys, and new positions? Maybe doggie style with a reach around for extra stimulation? Apparently 33% of women will never get off from intercourse, anyway.
... (read in full...)
My b/f hates my past
Q. Hi, I'm very hurt. I've been with my boyfriend for little over two years. In the beginning everything was fantastic. It still is, usually. However he hates my past. I didn't do anything wild. Just normal. But he hates it because this is a small...
A. 18 January 2009: um...controlling much?
What does he care if you two run into someone you kissed??
How will seeing someone you kissed in your past 'ruin everything'?
(ARGHHH That guy you KISSED once is IN OUR VICINITY!! This has Destroyed our Relationship... (read in full...)
How do I find a virgin?
Q. I don't know how to describe this, exactly, but here goes: it took a long time for me to come to grips with the fact that I, as a man who was raised in such a manner that I could not raise my hand in violence to a woman under any circumstances, was ...
A. 18 January 2009: umm...what if they were raped too? does that make them less valuable to you? I think what you want is a truly religious woman. It shouldn't matter if she made a mistake in the past, found 'the path' as you put it later in life after she had had sex, ... (read in full...)
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