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writes:I've liked this guy for almost 2 years and can't seem to get over him. He's a little shy, so if anyone would make the first move it would have to be me. I can't do it :(. We're such great friends and I value the friendship. I don't know for sure if he has feelings for me and I don't want to ruin anything between us. But at the same time I'm dying with curiosity...:)How in the world am I supposed to move on?!!!
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reader, MutantKitten  +, writes (18 January 2009):
 Strategy One.
when he leaves, give him a hug.
When he starts to let go, hold him for a second longer.
Evaluate whether he's tense and runs away, or whether he's receptive.
If he's shy, it might take him a few times so dont give up at first!
Strategy Two.
arrange drinking.
Give him a quick kiss
See how he reacts.
If good- then go with it.
If not good - you can always blame it on the alcohol!
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reader, getright11 +, writes (18 January 2009):
 Question, do you think he really likes you? or are you making yourself belive he does. time can do that to a person. and i know this may be harsh but yes. he may not like you hes probably just being nice becuase you guys are such good friends. but i dont know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2009): Dying with Curiosity,
What's the old saying? "You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink."
Do more than vaguely hint at your attraction but don't literally jump into his arms and confess your undying love. That way you won't ruin the friendship with a sense of "clinginess" or continue this case of purely plutonic friendship. If he values his relationship with you as much as you value yours with him, then he will be at the very least intrigued with your attraction to him. You should know him enough that this worry of ruining the friendship would be minimal at best.
Be forthright with this shy fellow, he might just surprise you if you just give him a little push.
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reader, PunkyPippi +, writes (18 January 2009):
 Tell him how you feel. If you've been hanging out for 2 years and he hasn't had a love interest he's either waiting for you or he's gay. Once you tell him, you'll either take it to the next level, or things will be weird for awhile and then you'll be able to friends again- this time you will know where you stand.Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2009): girl, to tell u the truth, just do it. if u dont want to confront him, then hold his hand, and start curesing it. that will give him enough confidence to make the first move
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