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writes: My girlfriend doesn't dress very classy (she like to show off her body). When I first started dating her (we been together for a year now) she wouldn't even dare to dress like a slu*. She wears clothes leave a little imagination and its really bugging me. I want to say something to her but I don't want sound controlling. She doesn't like when someone tells what to do or what not to do. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2009): I think that your girlfriend could be doing this because she wants attention from you. Make sure you're spending plenty of time with her, being afftectionate, and treating her like a lady. I suggest taking her somewhere where she has to dress modestly, and telling her how beautiful she is and how happy that she is yours. Hope this helps!
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (21 January 2009):
 Take her shopping and pick out an outfit or two, something you like.... Compliment her when she wear something you do like.
Most women go thru phases of dressing a little slutty.
And yes it would seem a little controling if you tell her how she should dress, but on the other hand if you don't like it you should be honest. Good communication is key to a good relationship. Is she dressing this way for you? or for strangers?
Does she just dress slutty or does she act slutty too when you are out?
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reader, Chisa +, writes (21 January 2009):
 I wonder if she wants u to say something. u say she didnt dress like that brfore you met..maybe u should just tell her hoe u feel but mske sure u tell her that u arent trying to sound controlling. If she says that it makes her feel pretty then maybe u should reassure her that she is already beautiful and doesnt need to wear revealing clothes for her to see it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2009): just tell her to not dress "slutty". If she says that she doesn't and denies it or seems like she doesn't care about what you think, then she's not a good girlfriend. Tell her to tone it down a little.
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reader, MutantKitten  +, writes (21 January 2009):
 try making a deal with her?
I'm sure there's something about you that gets on her nerves too. You could try...
"You know I feel a little uncomfortable when you wear X, but it's your body, I can't tell you what to do with it...however....if you leave the turquoise spandex tube dress in the closet this month, I promise to wash all my shaved hairs down the drain/not pick my nose and wipe it on the wall/pleasure you orally/rub your feet/watch those movies you love but I hate all this month too."
alternately there's the old buy her a nice NEW item of clothing that she likes but isn't so revealing.
and one I'm ashamed to admit to but will fess up to doing to a past boyfriend.. throw the hated item out/ruin it with bleach and act innocent later. Try to reserve for the worst of the worst and only as a last resort. Also don't do this to her favourite item or she may never forgive you.
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reader, jackie rose  +, writes (21 January 2009):
 if you really like her then like her because she is who she is.and if she dresses like a slut then other guys might want her. maybe she is dressing like that because she wants to be yours only.
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