Should I kiss her next time we're together?
Q. I am a 16 year old bi female. My ex and I have been friends on and off for the past 3 months. She recently left again a week in a half ago, but on Friday she texted me saying, "I miss you like crazy. I miss hanging out and coming over, but I'm not ...
A. 21 May 2012: The main issue is that you have identified yourself as bi. If she is gay, then you may wind up hurting her.... (read in full...)
My prom date just updated her status to 'in a relationship' and now I'm wondering if I should talk to her about it or just go with it?
Q. Dear Cupid, basically i'm really confused at the moment. I am taking this girl who I've liked for a long time to my end of year prom and was really looking forward to it. However I have always been wary whether the feelings were mutual and just ...
A. 21 May 2012: "just earlier today I saw on facebook that she is now in a relationship with another boy"
Well, obviously she can't go to the prom with someone who isn't her b/f. Speak to her. Try not to be snarky. Try not to say "oh, and just exactly when wer... (read in full...)
My wife has guy friends and our sex life is terrible! should I give up?
Q. Hello All! Need some help with this one. My wife of 4.5 years wants to be able to spend the night at guy friends house. Heres the story, Throughout our relationship she has always had a close guy friend. Usually guys that will dote on h...
A. 21 May 2012: "Should I continue to give this relationship my all or just leave somebody that probably will never change and continue to switch from guy friend to guy friend?" Yeah, doesn't sound good. *PLAN* your divorce. Don't let it just happen. PLenty o... (read in full...)
How do I get him to give me more sex?
Q. I'm 33, my boyfriend is 31 and we've been together about 10 months. We only see each other on the weekend because we live an hour away from each other. He usually comes and stays at my place Friday night thru Sunday. Pretty much since the beginning ...
A. 21 May 2012: What N91 said.
"really? You could satisfy all these girls? Thats interesting"
Snark is not a useful way of conducting a relationship, really. You're 33 - you don't have an excuse for not acting like an adult.... (read in full...)
FWB with my best friend. Is this going anywhere?
Q. Hello everyone, I'm getting into a situation and i need your advice! Like so many other before me, i'm sleeping with my guy best friend. We are very close and this happened once and we said it shouldn't happen again. Long story short, we sleep ...
A. 21 May 2012: "Long story short, we sleep together from time to time. I'd say once every month." In other words - this relationship is being driven by you and your menstrual cycle. Once a month you get horny, or perhaps lonely, and do the bad thing. YOU are u... (read in full...)
I feel like my friend is trying to get as close as she can to my b/f without being a homewrecker!
Q. This might be long so bear with me. A little background: She's my close friend, and she used to like my boyfriend a lot, but he rejected her but they're best friends. So today, I recently found out that on Saturday, my friend had called my boyfri...
A. 21 May 2012: Yeah, they're totally cheating on you. Even if he isn't doing anything yet, she's working on him and will get what she wants. All it takes is time.
Get a lawyer.
Oh wait - you're a teenager at school?
Yeeeees, well, this is the kind of thin... (read in full...)
Facebook misunderstanding--does she think I am stalking her?
Q. Sometimes I wish there is no such thing as facebook. Why? Because a 4 months ago I met this cute girl at a party and Ive sorta had a crush on her ever since. Just recently I look her up on facebook I dont friend her because im a bit shy. Two days ...
A. 21 May 2012: Well, since she friended you, obviously she's afraid that it looks like SHE is stalking YOU!
Obviously!
What else could it be? Your a great guy! It's only natural that she would try to track you down after meeting you once!
While you were ... (read in full...)
Am I naive in thinking that on a first date nothing more than kissing should happen?
Q. am i naive in thinking that on a first date nothing more than kissing should happen? My friends and I were discussing this today and when I said i would never sleep with someone on the first date, they all said they wouldn't rule it out... But ...
A. 21 May 2012: You are 18-21. Maybe you can hold out a bit right now, but in about three years if you don't put out then there's plenty of girls that will. These are just the realities.
Rather than asking what's normal or usual, you need to ask yourself what you... (read in full...)
Should my ex-boyfriend and I remain friends?
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up just recently. It is not due to a character mismatch or betrayal or anything. It is because of differences in religion which is why we are finding it very hard to let go. Should we remain as friends or should I totally ...
A. 21 May 2012: Tricky.
Have you considered that he might be right and you wrong about God? It's not something that religious people often think to ask, so I thought I'd throw it out there.
... (read in full...)
Have I been placed in the 'friend zone'?
Q. Theres a girl who I've recently gotten to know. . .Ive caught her looking at me many times when we are at meetings for some extra curricular events, but i dont noe whether that is because she is trying to see if im looking at her. We've spoken every ...
A. 21 May 2012: Hmmm - maybe ask her? "Babe, I kinda lik you, but if you have friendzoned me then it's over". In a teasing, nonserious way, of course. Then follow through on your actions. If you don't get positive about what you want from her, then she hasn't ... (read in full...)
How bad has porn addiction got to be before you dump someone?
Q. How bad has porn addiction got to be before you dump someone? I would like to hear other people's stories.... I had a bit of trouble with my boyfriend at the beginning I know he's not as bad as my first boyfriend but he masturbated everyday he ...
A. 21 May 2012: How much say do you have over his sexuality? Do you own him? Are you gatekeeper of his cock? Says who? Would you let him tell you not to read "romance" novels?... (read in full...)
I'm crushing over my teacher. She's amazing. Should I tell her?
Q. I am 16 years old and i think i'm in love with a woman teacher. i dont think that i am lesbian or bisexual but i think i really love her. she teaches choir and she is so amazing and she is very attractive. i want to tell her how i feel about her ...
A. 21 May 2012: Do not inflict your teenaged crush on your teacher.
That's what you should do.
As to why: there are a swag of reasons. The only reason *to* do it is if you think your feelings are more important than other people's lives and careers.... (read in full...)
I was expecting gratitude and thanks for saving her from eviction, instead I am almost being punished!!
Q. I have a friend who I have been pursuing for over a decade. Every year we get to a stage where we get really close and intimate but i just wait knowing that she will soon distance me. I have learned to accept that this will happen and come to ...
A. 21 May 2012: Oh! Ok, that's different, then. But she's still stringing you along, it's mainly a matter of degree. Try to get more than one string to your bow. She won't respect you while you depend solely on her for sex/companionship. Giving them free money ... (read in full...)
How come I get hurt or burned in relationships?
Q. I've been so confused lately i have no idea what to do. My ex and i broke up a month ago and i recently found that he was going out with my best friend. A couple days ago they broke up and now he want's to rebuild our relationship by being friends....
A. 20 May 2012: Your ex ... oh! You're a teenager! Well, that explains everything.
You are taking this stage of your life waaaay too seriously. This sort of drama is pretty normal. Just remember to give it up once you get a bit older - many people forget to.... (read in full...)
Am I being played by letting him woo me all over again?
Q. Ok so after four months of being broken up my ex contacted me to tell me how mich he missed me and that he missed everything about me and has thought about me everyday since the split which was his decision. We were together for about a year i meet ...
A. 20 May 2012: So he dumped you and wants you back. Cool. What do ***YOU*** want?... (read in full...)
What do I do about this cheating man?
Q. I am ashamed to say I had a affair several years back and it resulted in my having a son. The man in question is over twice my age at 55 and has three grown up children. After publicly denying everything he then try's to ring and failing that starts ...
A. 20 May 2012: False accusations? Don't ask the internet for help - find a lawyer and get some real advice.... (read in full...)
What are some things to talk about with my gf?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been togather for almost three years now. will be three years june 15th. And i know everything about him. We are running out of things to talk about. We live togather in a apartment so the only time we are away frm each ...
A. 20 May 2012: Yeah - this is pretty common. I think one of the reasons people have kids is to have something to discuss. It works for 20 years, then they look at each other and go "so...".
Maybe join a club? Toastmasters? Take up a sport? Book club? Evening ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is getting on my nerves and making me paranoid
Q. I think I'm going crazy! My boyfriend is getting on my nerves and making me paranoid. We seem to have 2 different ideas of commitment and relationships. Most of all my lack of trust with him right now is ugly. He says he wants friends but he's only ...
A. 20 May 2012: This made me LOL. Your bf sounds like a playa. Keep him if that's what you want, but he isn't going to change. Why should he? ... (read in full...)
I want a girlfriend maybe but not kids. Does this mean there is something wrong with me?
Q. Is there anything wrong with wanting a girlfriend but NEVER wanting kids? Am I being too unflexible? Should I compromise my belief to some extent? How does this work?...
A. 20 May 2012: No. It's pretty usual these days. What's also pretty usual in that situation is for your SO to have an oopsie with contraception.
Just letting you know.... (read in full...)
Why does my dating life suck?
Q. Hi every one, I grew up being a christian, never dated till I was 25 waiting for MR right only to date MR wrong. My first bf was 2yrs younger than me so I left him and worse part I found out he had a gf. My recent 1 lied so we dated until I found ...
A. 20 May 2012: I kind of have a similar story - grew up christian, thought that Jesus would sort things out for me, relationships-wise. I was wrong. God doesn't match up right people, and he doesn't stop wrong people matching up. Far as I was ever able to tell, he ... (read in full...)
How do I get my Bf to respect my opinions? And stop him telling unfunny jokes?
Q. Hi, thanks for taking your time to read this! So, I've been with my current boyfriend for a little over seven months now, and overall; he makes me very happy. We click very well with each other and we have a lot of similar interests. Th...
A. 20 May 2012: "Sometimes I feel as if when I get into an argument with him- he immediately denounces what I have to say and proceeds to tell me that I'm being irrational or illogical." Well - that's the way that men argue. I'm hearing: "sometimes I arg... (read in full...)
How often do you see or speak to your FWB?
Q. Hi thank you for reading this I am in a fwb arrangement I was just wondering how often you see or speak to your fwb as I only see mine once a month if that sometimes even though we live very close to each other I have asked him if he still wants to ...
A. 20 May 2012: The "F" in "Friends With Benefits" stands for "Friends", not the other F-word. A person you see once a month who replies that maybe they do, maybe they don't want to continue seeing you is not a friend.
See this for what it is. Choose how you want... (read in full...)
I was expecting gratitude and thanks for saving her from eviction, instead I am almost being punished!!
Q. I have a friend who I have been pursuing for over a decade. Every year we get to a stage where we get really close and intimate but i just wait knowing that she will soon distance me. I have learned to accept that this will happen and come to ...
A. 20 May 2012: Mate, you have a bad, bad case of White Knight-itis. This woman does not love you, never did love you, will never love you. The reason she is pushing you away is precisely that you have gotten a little close for comfort. A woman decides within a... (read in full...)
Should I remain at home? I'm so scared of leaving home. It's scary.
Q. The time has come for me to be an adult and im so scared. I don't know how to grow up and do for myself because im the only chilf and i use to being well taken care of. Next to all that issue is that im shy and i don't even get out as much. be...
A. 20 May 2012: Relax, dude. You'll be fine. Don't stay at home and hide in the basement. After you throw up a bit from nerves, move and go to college. You won't be the only one looking for friends.... (read in full...)
This has never happened before, not like this.Was this fluid what I think it was? Sperm?
Q. I met a chick almost 2 months ago, we have been great together, mazingly great. I've fallen for this chick and I'm getting the feeling she's falling for me. We're not going out or anything, but we do make out, a lot. I can tell when she's miss...
A. 20 May 2012: Sounds like a retrograde ejaculation. Semen gets up into your bladder and goes - well - like it does in water. Comes out kinda chunky. I've had it happen maybe two or three times.
Caused by the sudden change in your sex habits? Yeah - that's b... (read in full...)
I want a divorce and my wife doesn't!
Q. my wife always fights with me even on small matters ....we are lived sepeart now and has a baby of 2 yr old lived with his mom...now i wants divorce but my wife does not wants it ...so what can i do now.....pls pls help me...
A. 20 May 2012: So, your wife abandoned you and kidnapped your child? See a lawyer.... (read in full...)
Why does my G/f contact her ex everytime we fight? What is he trying to prove by buying her a first class ticket? What does she still want from him?
Q. Ok, so my girlfriend and I have been together for a year. Before that she was with a guy for a year and lost her virginity to him. Which im a little jealous of but oh well. She broke up with him because she said she got bored with him and never ...
A. 20 May 2012: Dude, your g/f is a drama queen. If she's accepting first-class tix from her ex, then she's also probably a whore. She broke up with him for a bulshit "i was bored", and now she's all "you don't luurve me enough" at you. Start looking for your... (read in full...)
Am I a bad friend? Should I let go of this one?
Q. I have a friend that I had a brief liaison with but she ended it and we decided to be friends. This was about a year ago. At first things where ok. I struggled with feelings and had my moments because she really hurt me. But I am better (well I ...
A. 11 May 2012: Dude, you are being mega stupid. Read your own post, and pretend that someone else wrote it. Realistically, where do you think things can/will go on from here? Yes - that's right: nowhere.... (read in full...)
Should I be room mates with a girl I have feelings for?
Q. Looking for advice. Im a male with a female friend. She needs a roommate near our university and is considering me. Problem is i gave feelings for her (we flirt a lil but nothing serious). So i dunno if being her roomate is a good idea. Since i ...
A. 9 May 2012: If a girl is going to have sex with you, she decides on it in the first few seconds. You have been friendzoned. This girl will never, never have sex with you. Ever. That's the reality, you need to face it.
Sharing a room with her means watching... (read in full...)
Why does my dating life suck?
Q. Hi every one, I grew up being a christian, never dated till I was 25 waiting for MR right only to date MR wrong. My first bf was 2yrs younger than me so I left him and worse part I found out he had a gf. My recent 1 lied so we dated until I found ...
A. 9 May 2012: I think that the root cause is that you think that the way to be happy is for Mr Right to swoop into your life and fix everything for you.... (read in full...)
I feel like my friend of 11 years is replacing me!
Q. My best friend (let's call her Lily) and I have been joined at the hip since we were four. Now, eleven years later, I feel like I'm being replaced by someone(Sophie) who is constantly treating me like an idiot. Sophie has been in our friendship g...
A. 9 May 2012: "Don't put all your eggs in one basket", as the old saying goes. The football thing - sounds like you just plain don't share their interests. You and they are not 11 anymore, and what brought you together as 11-year-olds might not be enough ... (read in full...)
He keeps breaking up with me every few weeks. Should I end things?
Q. I am in a relationship with this that used to be my late first ex boyfriend's best friend. Now this BF of he sounds like he is insecure I don't know, he likes breaking up with me for few days or weeks, he broke up with me two weeks back, but we ...
A. 9 May 2012: "I am 100pc sure he doesn't have someone else beside me"
LOL. Use this dude for sex, get on with the rest of your life. Which may include a *real* BF, along the line.
Heck. It's what he's doing to you.... (read in full...)
I'm confused about my orientation, and I don't know what to do?
Q. Hi, I'm 14 and I'm having some problems with my sexual orientation. Please bear with me, this might be a little long. So, okay, around last year me and my siblings broke out of our mom's religion after the world didn't end. I didn't truly beli...
A. 9 May 2012: 14? Obsessing over sex orientation and you are 14? Maybe leave the whole "having sex" thing alone for a year or two?... (read in full...)
My husband has gone from an amazing lover to not even wanting me
Q. Please help me! My husband has gone from an amazing lover to not even wanting me. He's even gone as far as going into the other room to watch porn instead of waking me up for sex at night, which I'm up for. It's killing me because he used to love ...
A. 9 May 2012: Have you gotten fat?
If not, then the usual solution if one of the partners has a difficult kink is *communication* - which does not mean you haranguing him - and negotiation. We do it my way Tuesdays, your way Sundays kind of deal.
... (read in full...)
How can I get closure when she won't give it to me?
Q. Hi All, Long story short, a woman I was dating for about 8 months and whom I supported financially and emotionally turned out to be using me and was seeing and sleeping with another man (who was separated but not divorced from his wife). I was crus...
A. 11 March 2012: Accept that in the movie of her life, you never were her leading man, her co-star. Her hero. That was this other guy. You were a supporting actor, your job was to pay the bills and be "receptive listener" so she could monologue.
Leave her. Fin... (read in full...)
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