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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:I am 16 years old and i think i'm in love with a woman teacher. i dont think that i am lesbian or bisexual but i think i really love her. she teaches choir and she is so amazing and she is very attractive. i want to tell her how i feel about her but im scared. what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2012): I am an attractive college professor and I am telling you to not tell her. I have had to remove students I cared about as STUDENTS from my class due to things like this. You will lose her as an amazing teacher if you tell her...and quite frankly, you will not GAIN a thing by telling her other than awkward uncomfortable place for you.She does not see you in this way .
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reader, person12345 +, writes (21 May 2012):
 This is actually a fairly common occurrence, especially among female students. Frequently female students who come from situations where they feel neglected or from alcoholic parents. Basically you become attached to a teacher or some other authority figure in the same way you'd hope to become attached to a parent.
You cannot give in to your feelings and tell her how you feel. She will remove you from her class and you will be watched closely for the rest of your time at school for that kind of behavior. If you want to be able to cope with these feelings, you need to be able to ignore them and to try to get at the underlying cause of the feelings. You need to not hang around after class, seek extra help, or otherwise spend excess time around her. You basically need to try to cut yourself off from her as much as possible.
She does not feel the same about you. She cares about you as a student, but she will never give you what you're looking for. Only fixing whatever underlying problem is causing this behavior can help. If a parent is an alcoholic, go to al-anon. Talk to your school counselor. Try to figure out what it is that is causing you to seek this kind of relationship with your teacher.
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reader, MrWombat  +, writes (21 May 2012):
 Do not inflict your teenaged crush on your teacher.
That's what you should do.
As to why: there are a swag of reasons. The only reason *to* do it is if you think your feelings are more important than other people's lives and careers.
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