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writes:I am a 16 year old bi female. My ex and I have been friends on and off for the past 3 months. She recently left again a week in a half ago, but on Friday she texted me saying, "I miss you like crazy. I miss hanging out and coming over, but I'm not allowed to come back because I said to myself I wouldn't." and "I don't know what it is about you. I hate it, but then again I don't. I can't take it...I need you." We are friends again, but we both still like each other because when she spent the night she told me whenever she is with me, feelings come back. She had me sleep next to her, so I started playing with her hair and she kept looking up at me. We aren't dating because she claims that she loves her girlfriend, but I don't think she loves her because if she did she would not still like me. When she comes over she teases me and flirts with me. Last night she said, "If I were you, I wouldn't care if the person I liked was in a relationship, I would kiss them." A while after, she left and asked for a hug, so I gave her one, and she held on tightly not letting go. She walked out my door, and said something so I chased her out to her car and ended up giving her another hug. It felt like she wanted me to kiss her. I don't want to hear how 'I should find someone better' I love this girl. I just want to know if I should kiss her next time we're together?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2012): I think this is a situation that will bring you more pain than anything. If she really loves you she should end her current relationship. If she doesn't she is cheating on her girlfriend with you. Imagine what she's told her girlfriend, you're just a friend etc. Like all the previous readers said stay away from someone who is willing to cheat, find someone better. There's plenty of fish in the sea.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2012): if she claims she loves this girl but is cheating with you, maybe she claims she loves you but would cheat with her? think about it?
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo  +, writes (21 May 2012):
 I know this isn't what you want to hear but no you shouldn' kiss her and would you really want to be with someone that is willing to cheat?
Even if she is not in love with this gf she has it does not make it ok for her to flirt with you or to cheat and it really does not say a lot for her character.
To me it sounds like she is playing you a bit, she has a girlfriend and you there as well, the best of both worlds.
If you like her as much as you say you need to tell her you want to be together as a proper couple or not at all as you are worth so much more than games and being a bit on the side, if she really cares then she will understand why you need this.
hope this helps.
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reader, MrWombat  +, writes (21 May 2012):
 The main issue is that you have identified yourself as bi. If she is gay, then you may wind up hurting her.
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