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writes:The time has come for me to be an adult and im so scared. I don't know how to grow up and do for myself because im the only chilf and i use to being well taken care of. Next to all that issue is that im shy and i don't even get out as much. before i graduated high school i was ready and had big dream in my especially since im going to college. But now since ive gradutated high school the time has come. And I don't know how to do for myself at all. Im scared and even feel like crying. Im scared to even go get job applications because im afraid of rejection. Don't even know how to order a pizza. I guess im spoiled rotten. And im going to a community college in the fall and i will be staying with relatives. but i wont get the same home treatment.i'll been 30 minutes away from home but there is no place like home. and gas is too high for me to run back and fourth when i dont feel right being away. being away i wont feel right and plus ive never been away from home more than a week or two. Next thing is that i have no friends in my new location. I wont have no one to talk to. I feel like i will be ok if i had friends but i dont have that and its making me sad and depressed. Ive been the only child and im tired of being alone with no friends. Im scared and i dont know what to do. Should i stay at home?
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (20 May 2012):
 You've just led a sheltered life, that's all. Of course you're apprehensive because you don't really know what's out there and you are unsure of what to expect. Its ok to be a littled scared, but don't let it cripple you! Think of this as a whole new start, as an adventure! Take little steps and relish in the thought that you will be learning and growing! Your relatives aren't mom and dad but certainly they will care about you if you really have a problem, and hey, mom and dad are only 1/2 an hour away. Call your parents if you are lonely but please get out there in the world and live. It'll be scary at first but I promise after you learn how to do things on your own you will be proud and feel exhilerated..I promise! I was like you too when I graduated from high school at 17. I moved a 1/2 hour away to go to college and had to get a job, make new friends. And you know what? I had a ball! You will too..so take a deep breath and prepare for a whole new life. Good luck! You'll be just fine.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (20 May 2012):
 Maybe it's time for you to ask your parents to show you a few life skills before you do leave home.
Simple budgeting, learning to make a few simple meals and perhaps learning how to use a washing machine might give you a confidence boost.
None of these things is particularly hard to learn and are essential for taking care of yourself.
How will you earn money once you have left, or are your parents giving you an allowance?
It's natuaral that you won't know anyone when you go to a new area but when you start college there will also be other people there looking to make new friends, so everyone is at the start.
I am not surprised that you feel so scared but you need to begin thinking like an adult and get a grip of some simple coping mechanisms...your parents will probably feel very proud of you if you approach them and ask for help at this time.
I sent two kids off to college but I made sure they knew how to make a few simple meals and how to shop on a budget. I also taught them how to sort and wash their clothes (it took about 20 minutes to explain the whole process, so you can learn a lot on a short space of time)
This is not only a scary time for you, it's also exciting and a kind of test for yourself, to see how well you can survive...embrace the change because it will lead to an independant and happier future.
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reader, dougbcoll +, writes (20 May 2012):
 no don't stay at home. the best thing that could happen to you is staying at a relatives place away from home. they will treat you good but different , and let you grow up . your parents meant well while you were growing up but did not help you by not letting you make decisions , choices , and work.
you will make new friends after you get moved.
you are just worried about a big step in your life.
you will be fine, and see things work out .
getting out on your own will help you build confidence , and mature .your parents met well but over protected you.
no you should not stay at home , you will be in the same place a year, two years , ect, ect. it will be for your benefit to get out from under your parents place, and do for your self.
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reader, MrWombat  +, writes (20 May 2012):
 Relax, dude. You'll be fine. Don't stay at home and hide in the basement. After you throw up a bit from nerves, move and go to college. You won't be the only one looking for friends.
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