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female
age
41-50,
*pumie
writes:Hi every one, I grew up being a christian, never dated till I was 25 waiting for MR right only to date MR wrong. My first bf was 2yrs younger than me so I left him and worse part I found out he had a gf. My recent 1 lied so we dated until I found out that her gf is having a kid with him after we've dated for 3yrs and the kid was 1yr old an they separated cause she was 5yrs older than him an has an 18 yrs old son. I then called it off, bt he didn't give an I was still inlove, then we went 4 a blood test after we picked up what we left off. My question is why I have such sad life even at home I'm looking after everybody I can't even plan my own life. I'm stuck and sAd just want to know what went wrong I don't even love to cheat or have different man but I have carry heavy burdens like these. What went wrong?
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reader, MrWombat  +, writes (20 May 2012):
 I kind of have a similar story - grew up christian, thought that Jesus would sort things out for me, relationships-wise. I was wrong. God doesn't match up right people, and he doesn't stop wrong people matching up. Far as I was ever able to tell, he does nothing.Truth is: part of the reason I never wound up with many girlfriends of getting married was that I didn't take care of myself physically. I was (and I suppose still am) a pale overweight unfit nerd. I wish I could go back to the young man I was, crying and praying "Why God, Why?", and shake him and show him a mirror and go "Duh! Duh! Dude, like duh!" Oh, they can all say to me "MrWombat, you should not be giving the grls advice that might give them an eating disorder" but jeez, if that's what the problem actually is then any other advice is just BS, you know? If that's not the issue, then I dunno. Alls I knows is that doing nothing about it achieves nothing. Waiting for the right man to come along counts as doing nothing. Find an interest. Get out of the house and *do* something.
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reader, mpumie +, writes (9 May 2012):
mpumie is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks wombat. Its not about being swept but I just wanna get someone who can be able to work with me to build a better life. Its so hard to be a christian that has planned her life this way but find yourself in difficult situation unlike those who are not get everything easy. Imagine to be with a person who has children when u don't, earning less than u. At home I'm the bread winner. When am I going to find my life.
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reader, MrWombat +, writes (9 May 2012):
I think that the root cause is that you think that the way to be happy is for Mr Right to swoop into your life and fix everything for you.
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