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writes:Why is it that alot of people have a problem with the question of a woman giving oral sex and letting a man ejaculate in her mouth or her swallowing?I ask it and some feel the need to humiliate or belittle or call me a jerk or use the word "degrading"In sex with my partner, i love her and i go down on her and "swallow" her juices. I don't think twice as its to pleasure my lover.Women would be outraged if when they are close to orgasm a man stops goingdown on them and finishes them with a finger or something less stimulating. Yet women complain that cum is a gross texture or foul tasting and refuse to accept it.There are ways to avoid the texture and taste: taking the penis deep during ejaculation so cum bypasses the mouth, changing diet to sweeten cum's taste, etc.....Its concerning that women will say it's degrading- why? what is degrading about most likely 9 out of 10 times a man wanting this for the ultimate pleasure of the act. thats it. Pleasure.Then women whine saying "you don't have to do something if you don't want to" hello? is that not what women expect all the time from men? yeah.Enough already, lets just enjoy eachother and when its not ideal, lets enjoy bringing our partners to ultimate joy.For those who would suggest its gross and would expect a man to taste it too, yeah they do and will so its not an argument.For those who are happy not having a partner swallow or let you finish in her mouth, thats great, but don't belittle the question by saying" get a life" or there's more to it than that" or respect her.Whats the big deal?
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reader, edlong  +, writes (24 September 2015):
The first time my wife finished me in her mouth I did not even ask her! I probably would never have, to be frank, because I was worried she might be offended. She was giving me head and before I knew it she took me over the edge. When I asked her later she said she just went with the flow. That being said, it was always my fantasy to have my wife finish me off with her hand on her tongue while looking at me. It took me 5 yrs to ask her if she would do it, I guess primarily because people associate that act with porn. I was pleasantly surprised when she agreed and I have to tell you that was the biggest orgasm I ever had. And a few days ago she told me that she'd love it if I finished on her face!So I guess its just a matter of how close you are with your SO and how much you love each other. My wife doesn't mind it at all and says that I can finish in her mouth whenever I want. Guess I'm just lucky.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2009): Make your sh*t taste good be dieting correctly. Then it won't be a problem. TRUST ME. Do a google search. Don't buy pills or any other drug. Do it the natural way. Stop being a sucker and having funky tasting spunk like all the replies below me. Diet = key. It worked for me, why not you?
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reader, BadderzGirl  +, writes (16 August 2009):
Look, I can safely say no girl I've met likes to swallow cum; its feels like slime and tastes revolting so would you like to try it?
People say its degrading probably because women have only just been considered equals to men (well, in places they haven't) and they think doing something yucky to please a guy and it's not doing anything for them is going back a couple of hundred years when women were there to be seen and not heard.
And you say that you swallow your partners 'juices' without a secong thought... most men do as well since a few guys have told me that 'juices' aren't too bad but ejaculate is just...blech.
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reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (14 August 2009):
 The love of my life has never had any problem with taking me into her mouth or swallowing. And frankly, I have performed oral sex on her during her period and never complained because I wanted her to be happy and I wanted her to have orgasms.
To me there's nothing gross about sex if the person you are with is the person you love. So in that context, I think if someone thinks its gross, just think of the man or woman who is giving you pleasure without hesitation and ask yourself why you aren't trying at least to do the same for him or her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2009): It really is a matter of taste...no pun intended!
I would rather have anal sex than oral sex...but that's just me....I do not get turned on going down on a man...I do it only to get him nice and stiff and ready for ME...
But I cannot cum by giving oral....so why should I let him cum??? And before you all shout 69 ....we all know that doesbn't work to completion...or else something would get bitten off!
Or is it just my jaw that clamps shut tight durning a mind blowing orgasm??
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reader, MansonGroupie +, writes (11 August 2009):
 That’s understandable and I think it’s great that your love for her means more than the act!
You say she’s done this for you before but doesn’t anymore, maybe in time and starting slowly (not expecting to cum in her mouth every time), she may indulge you once in a while?
This is tough, I personally don’t know what it’s like to not give a blow job/not swallow…It’s never been a problem but I know of many people who refuse point blank to do it at all.
If you’re happy together you will overcome this. With a little experimentation and patience you should be able to compromise…or maybe even come up with something as a couple which is even more mind blowing that you’ll both enjoy.
Best of Luck and apologies if my last post seemed a little harsh, just saying it how I see things! xx
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reader, Mr. Dutch +, writes (11 August 2009):
Mr. Dutch is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your responses everybody.
I appreciate the time people have taken to read my posts this past week and given their two cents.
I concede that in my situation i could handle this subject better. I haven't pushed my partner for the act, yet have been a little upset and voiced this to her that i once had it from her and now i do not.
I do not want anyone doing something with me that they detest or are not comfortable with. I am happy when she is happy, i love her and that overules an act or sensation.
It is important to me, the act. It will be hard to get past this with her and i am sorry if i sound "childish" its just what i desire most.
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reader, young and opinionated +, writes (10 August 2009):
 I think bad ash nailed it
"basically it's that women don't want to feel pressured into doing anything they're not comfortable with sexually"
Personally, i would preffer not to, not because its degrading or anything, just because it is a slightly unpleasant sensation.
However, if i loved a guy i would do it for him, if he really wanted me to and if he did things for me he didn't enjoy. You have got to have give and take in a relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2009): At the end of the day, you asked , we answered, you wont change everyones opinion, and why do you care what other people think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2009): Don't you think it rather takes the shine off the pleasure aspect for you when she starts gagging and throws up?
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (10 August 2009):
 I understand where you are coming from and if you have encountered people on here who call you a jerk then it seems you have come across some of the more judgemental aunts & uncles on this site.
Now I personally dont mind swallowing in general - its not the nicest thing in the world but if my partner likes it (and I have a glass of water on stand by) then I dont mind doing it. But some women just dont like it, and thats that! Its like anal, thats another 'love it or hate it' situation. My ex loved it, and would want it at any given opportunity whereas I really found it awful and couldnt bear it. It was the ultimate pleasure for him but there has to be a line somewhere - you cant do things you hate just because your partner finds it pleasurable!
There is a fine line between doing something to pleasure your partner and losing self-respect. If you really hate doing something and cannot bear it no matter how much pleasure it gives your partner then its best just to maintain your self respect and not do it. And if your partner loved you then they would respect that, and they wouldnt want to force you to do something you were not comfortable with.
I always think that if your partner really loves you then he/she wouldnt find any pleasure in making you do something you hate! Because the entire time they would be thinking she/he is not enjoying this - and that would be a turn off. Hence why my ex got the boot when he pretty much forced me into anal sex and didnt stop even when I was crying during the act. I think that just shows that this mentality of "ultimate joy" doesnt always work - while sex is hugely important you just have to put your partners feelings and wishes above your own needs for pleasure.
There are always other things men and women enjoy in the bedroom, there is no need to get hung up on one little element of your sex life that your partner wont do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2009): I think it depends on the woman if she finds it degrading or not. However, have you tried tasting cum? I hope not. But it isn't very pleasant tasting...some are worse than others, and the texture...bleh. Try swallowing a bitter tasting, 98.6 degree lugy and see how much you like it.
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reader, BadAsh6705 +, writes (10 August 2009):
 Personally, I don't think it's degrading or disgusting or anything, but it's just something that I don't enjoy doing. I have tried to do it with my boyfriend before, and something about it makes me gag. It's not that it tastes terrible or anything, I think it's just the motion of something shooting down my throat, it makes me gag and I just can't do it. I think basically it's that women don't want to feel pressured into doing anything they're not comfortable with sexually. Also, it is definitely not the same going down on a woman. Yes, there are "juices" there, but it's not as thick and it doesn't shoot down your throat.
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reader, MansonGroupie +, writes (10 August 2009):
You seem a little hostile and may I even say, a tad disrespectful?!
Not all women enjoy the taste/texture of cum, some do. Some find it degrading, others don’t.
I don’t think that any woman should be put in a position where she feels that she HAS to do it, that’s wrong on so many levels!
You say that you’ve tried/would be willing to try cum, would you let a guy ram his penis in your mouth and shoot his load down your throat?? It can be very uncomfortable and, as for bypassing the mouth, that’s verging on deep-throating…Most women are unable to do this without vomiting!
It’s a personal choice and sexual acts should be enjoyed by both parties, no woman should subject herself to an act which she really doesn’t like…that goes for men too, not all of them enjoy going down on women (my ex didn’t) and the issue wasn’t forced…
I know you said not to say this but, seriously, there are bigger issues in the world!
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reader, Jolin  +, writes (10 August 2009):
 well it's not a big deal if you discuss this topic with the women who think that it's not a big deal.
but when you might have brought this topic to the wrong women. That's why you receive negative feedback. I guess that's the case.
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