Besides condoms are there any other precautions we can take to avoid pregnancy?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for about 4 months now and I would really like to take my relationship to the next level and have sex with him. I am not on any form of birth control, we have a condom. but is that enough? I'm scared something...
A. 9 July 2012: dont have sex. you are too young. wait. There are a bunch of diseases out there.... (read in full...)
It seems like she spends all her time on social media
Q. Hi all I'm really struggling here and need some advice been with my gf 5 years but I have started noticing all she does is bbm text facebook Twitter and I mean from when I get home from work till midnight so I assume she does this all day, by no ...
A. 20 June 2012: im having the same problem with mine. When I come around she changes to another browser. I told her ether she cancels the account are she puts one of our pics on there. facebook is just another free dating site. Dont be blind man... (read in full...)
Is it worth trying to be on good terms?
Q. Hi, my ex broke up with me just over two months ago and things have gotten worse since. It was messy and it ended badly with him hammering home the point that he didn't care about me. He said a load of other stuff that I'm not going to bore you ...
A. 9 June 2012: to save you the pain, just walk away and let him go. unless you two fix the problem, trouble will always come up. give it time and space.... (read in full...)
I'm really jealous about my girlfriend's sexual past... help?
Q. I know that this subject has been addressed somewhat heavily on here, but I still felt as though I needed to discuss my own situation. I am with my current G/F for several months, and this is the first time that I've ever been in love with a woman ...
A. 9 June 2012: I know how you feel. I have had this problem every since i was 16. I 'm 36 now. I would get angry and change the way that I looked at my girlfriends when I found out about their past. When you go into a relationship, dont ask and tell them that ... (read in full...)
What would you do if you found out that your bf/ husband is into transexuality...
Q. Okay I need help/advice.. My mind has been going crazy trying to figure out what to do. Okay here is my story. Today, I used my husband's laptop to check my email and it just happens that his email account was open and out of curiosity i open...
A. 23 May 2011: Ask him about it. Don't put to much into it. My girlfriend watched it one day on my lap top because she never saw it before. I'm straight but i have watched it before. Just curious to see what the hell is going on. I would never try it, just ... (read in full...)
She cheated once. Will she do it again if I forgive her?
Q. If your wife of 5years cheats on you w/her baby daddy. Would she do it again if I forgive her? She confess to me because she felt unhappy with her self. She said it only happend once and that she is sorry? Should I forgive her?...
A. 30 March 2011: I would not forgive her. If she did once, she would do it again. Especially the baby daddy. he will always be there because of the kid.... (read in full...)
Should I tell my husband that his friend is in love with me?
Q. Hello! I been married for 7 years!! We also have the same friends... Last weekend we went to a party with our friends, after the party we got home and went to sleep. About 1am I had a text msg from my husbands friend and it said "I need to talk to ...
A. 30 March 2011: NO! do not tell him. This can cause many problems between every one. Let the friend know that you love your husband and ask him not ever cross that line again. Send a text to have proof in case something pops off.... (read in full...)
She tells me she loves me, but she hasn't stopped hanging out with this other man! Should I move on?
Q. Dear Cupid, After three years of being with my girlfriend, things have somewhat fallen apart. Throughout our relationship we have faced challenges, most of them from her children going through that 'rebellious' stage and causing us both a lot of...
A. 23 February 2011: Move on man, I have experienced the same thing. I found out a lot when I went through my ex's email. We have been together for 3 years and I discovered that she was communicating with other men. Your women is interested in the other man. She is ... (read in full...)
Why does my partner lose his erection during intercourse without ejaculating?
Q. My partner loses his erection during intercourse without ejaculating? Why? I did not have a this problem with my previous partner! ...
A. 23 February 2011: It could be his diet. He may be tired. No joke but if he is masturabating alot, that can affect him being with you. Tell him to take ginsing, and vitamin e... (read in full...)
We both admitted the spark is gone what do we do now?
Q. Iv been with my boyfriend for a about a year now, but the last few monts have been very tough as weve had a few break ups, then got back together! He has a 3 year old child whom he see twice a week as his ex is a bit of a handful. Just before new ...
A. 23 February 2011: Walk away and don't pick up some one else's baggage. Being a man my self, I promise you that he is sleeping with his ex. Don't get involved in nonsense... (read in full...)
My gf hates when I talk to my friends! I can't take it any more! What do I do?
Q. Hey guys I'm 26 and my gf is 20. We have a two year old daughter together and had one hell of a relationship. It turned ugly a few times and had to get my parents to come help us out and referee it. We live together and we tell each other i love ...
A. 23 February 2011: You are not married but you have to consider her feelings. You have to understand that she is young and may need some growing up to do. It's all about trust. Why want you invite her to hang out with you and your friends one night. She may feel ... (read in full...)
Older Women are Dating Younger Men Today
Q. One question which is quite interesting but is also quite personal is how did their own relationships go in the past? Why are the older women dating younger men? Were there problems, did something happen in the past that has stopped them from dating ...
A. 16 February 2011: I'm 35 and my girlfriend is 49. She is wonderful, but problems still occur.... (read in full...)
I just found out my wife had 2 "friends with benefits" around the time we were dating. How can I deal with this?
Q. I've been happily married for ten years. I thought I knew of all my wife's past sexual partners and some details, even the ones she cheated on me with, but I got past all that and have not had any problems. Recently, I found out about 2 friends ...
A. 16 February 2011: I feel you man, I know that it's hard. You have to pray and forgive her. It will make getting over the past easier. It will be hard, but you have to trust her now. 10 years is a long time ago, but I know that it seems as if it happened ... (read in full...)
Tired of having sex on her terms. What can I do?
Q. Here's my dilemma: I've moved in with my girlfriend of 14 months. She's had numerous (unknown number) lovers in the past, and she has been my first and only sexual partner. I DON'T want this to be a retroactive jealousy post, but what ...
A. 10 February 2011: Never let a women control you with sex. Turn her down and make her feel that you can get it else where. During conversations, mention other women.... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm being led on and used.
Q. right so I was going out with this guy when I was 15 and he was 17- we went out for 18 months but split due to arguments and my trust problems as I had been told he cheated on me!. we broke up for about 4 months but in that time we hated eachother ...
A. 10 February 2011: Save your self for that special guy when you are at the right age. Dont forget one false move can cost you your life. There are a lot of diseases out there. People will hurt you. Dont let know man make you make a bad decision.... (read in full...)
We started exploring kinks and now I'm feeling that things are out of hand
Q. So me and my girlfriend are fairly kinky and I know she likes BDSM (since a friend took her to an event last year) so I asked her if she'd like to go to a rope workshop in a couple of weeks.. This tipped over a few more dominoes than expected, s...
A. 10 February 2011: If you are wreck now by her talking to people. Wait until you see her sleeping with another man and she is enjoying it. You better leave that alone. It may change the way you two view each other.... (read in full...)
Stingy boyfriend! Am I asking for too much?
Q. Have been with my bf for 7mths.i like buying him gifts,but he never gets me anything.he says girls are not suposed to be spoiled with gifts and money.he complains about being broke all the time,but i know he gets 2 have money most of the time.we are ...
A. 10 February 2011: you have to understand most college students or broke. Gas is high, food is high. Dont stress about buying him anything expensive. Get a card from the dollar star along with some chocolate. Ask him if he wants to exchange gifts. Simply just go ... (read in full...)
Is there any way to salvage a friendship from this mess?
Q. Well, there is a much longer story, that I already explained earlier (http://www.dearcupid.org/question/her-family-situation-has-made-her-push-me.html) with lots of vital information, but I'll skip most of it: Basically, a longtime friend ended ...
A. 10 February 2011: She probably felt guilty for sleeping with you. that is not on you. thats her insecurities. Dont try to fall in love with damage goods (hurt women) Every women that you sleep with is not made to be your women or girlfriend. If she is pushing ... (read in full...)
Has she lost interest? Changed her mind?
Q. i would greatly appericate the help you would give me, and the advice. I have been going out with a divorced lady for about a month now.she is cool, smart, funny, good work parties, she has a hard exterior but a soft interior, shy, and single. ...
A. 10 February 2011: its not that she has lost interest in you, she simply may not be interested in loving or trying to get close with any one at this time. The worst thing for you to do is fall in love with damage goods. When women break up (and some men) they focus ... (read in full...)
I only have $50 to spend for Valentine's Day!
Q. So I'm broke for valentines day I just lost my job and I don't know what to do we don't live together so we can't do anything like breakfast in bed or a romantic bath help please! I only have like 50 bucks thanks in advance !...
A. 4 February 2011: man its not how much you spend, its your thought. women just want to be thought of. Hand write a love letter, buy 1 rose, go to a cheap restaurant (i go to cheddars) Go to the dollar movies, or a early discount movie. dont break yourself... (read in full...)
I've never given a gift to a guy before and I'm confused!
Q. Hi everybody...i been with my boyfriend for a month an things are good an as we all know valentines day is around the corner....an I need all of you alls help...whats a good gift to get for a guy?...HELP ME...ive never gave any guy a gift for for ...
A. 4 February 2011: get a nice card and some chocolate. keep it simple and cheap.... (read in full...)
Is it normal for men to pull away when their wives need comfort?
Q. I have been feeling down a little these days due to family issues. I would think my husband would be a little more comforting but instead he is getting more distant. Is that normal for him to distant himself or is it me just in need of extra ...
A. 4 February 2011: Well maybe you need to talk (communicate) to him and let him know whats bothering you. A down and negative person will push a person away, especially if they do not know what is wrong with the negative person. No person wants to be around an ... (read in full...)
I don't know what to say when he's back and forth, yet as his friend, I feel like I've got to say something.
Q. A friend who's getting divorced told me that his wife (who he does not have any kids with) will still come around because "that's just what we do." (they've been married less than 10 years, but been off and on for over 20 years. Is it weird fo...
A. 4 February 2011: Dont get involved. Stay out of there relationship. If they break up, you could placed with the blame. I learned this when i was 20. I tried to tell my brother who dropped out of college behind his girlfriend who now is his wife. It only pushed ... (read in full...)
Our personalities are drifting apart but she can't see it. I feel I need to leave.
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for nearly 3 years now, things are excellent, she is almost perfect and a guy like me couldn't ask for any more from a girl, she knows all the ways that make me happy. The problem im having is that our personalities ...
A. 4 February 2011: I feel you, i was in the same situation. If she is good to you, you have to fall back in love with her. Focus on the good things that she has done for you. Focus on all of the special things that she has done for you. you may need to give each ... (read in full...)
I want them to be my friends but thing aren't going well!
Q. In my main group of friends there are 4 of us (fake names: me, zoe, kate, pheobe). I also have another best friend(helen). Zoe has been my best friend for almost all my life, pheobe i have known for ages but only recently become friends and kate who ...
A. 4 February 2011: Young lady, True friends will always have your back. Sometimes people who we think are our friends, are not our friends. Friends come and go. True friends last for ever. Sometimes you have to walk away from people to have a peace of mind.... (read in full...)
So what comes next? I don't want to jump right into sex so do we start using our hands next?
Q. Alright. I'm 24 and I've been dating a guy (26) for a little over a month. I like where things are going with him but am a little uncomfortable with the idea of sleeping with him just yet... it hasn't been proposed but let's face it, it's on his m...
A. 4 February 2011: Babe, romance is not a 1,2,3 step program. You both are adults. Do what you both are comfortable doing. if you are not ready for sex, then dont go there. Using your hands will only make him feel that you are teasing him. Keep everthing above ... (read in full...)
I know in my heart that I deserve better. But I love him.
Q. I really don't know where to start. this is a long story so please brace yourself. Im really confused and honestly don't know what to do. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. Hes my first bf (Im 18 and were the same age). I want to expla...
A. 4 February 2011: Run! Dont waste your time! I will never deal with a women and her ex. You will be the odd one out. Love yourself more than you love him... (read in full...)
Why do I get soft halfway through sex?
Q. What could it be if halfway through sex I go soft? It will get hard again if given time, but I'm not sure why it does it at all? ...
A. 4 February 2011: you need to drink more water. get more rest. take some vitamins and ginsing. Vitamin E is good also for blood circulation. Build up your stress level by working out (jogging). Dont masturbate (jack off) this takes away the sensitivity from ... (read in full...)
We love each other but lately we're arguing all the time
Q. Ok so I've been dating this guy for almost 3 years now. About a year ago, we started talking about getting married...but he recently told me he wants to wait until he's done with school and has a job (we are both mid-twenties, I graduate in April, ...
A. 4 February 2011: he may need space. ask him if he has found out anything about you or if you have done something to him that you dont know of. write him a letter or text explaining to him how much you like him and what he means to you. If he does not respond, you ... (read in full...)
Why do I make others feel miserable, and push them away? How can I stop this negative behavior?
Q. I've been raised in a family who regularly criticizes other people for the way they dress, talk, how much they earn, hair color, number of fingers and so on; you get the point. Thing is, they've never encouraged me when I did something good. In ...
A. 3 February 2011: you will surely be alone and by your self. you have to think back and determine were your hurt or disappointment has come from. If some one has hurt you, you simply has to forgive them. Some one probably has done something to you and you carry ... (read in full...)
I want to move onto the next stage with my boyfriend, how should I let him know?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. I love him so much and I know he's someone I'll be with for a very long time. He does everything for me and I really would be lost without him. However, lately I feel that I want to go onto the next...
A. 3 February 2011: dont complain but tell him that you love him and you want a stronger commitment from and with him. tell him that you always dream of being with him more and ask him how does he feel about it. He may be simply be happy with what you two have.... (read in full...)
Recent events rehashed memories of when I was abused by a relative. My father would never hurt me, but now I distrust him!
Q. So this question is nothing about dating. It's just a feeling I'm experiencing and would just like to know if I'm over thinking or what. I'm twenty and knowing that, my parent's friend, who happens to be married and has a kid, came on to me. H...
A. 3 February 2011: The first thing that you have to do is FORGIVE the other guys for what they did to you. you have to forgive them for how they hurt and made you feel. You need to speak to some one. (your parents) Tell them how you feel. The uncomfortable ... (read in full...)
My sister and I just don't get along!
Q. Ugh. So much stuff has been going on. And I don't think I can handle it anymore. All that therapy I was going to; stopped. And stuff just didn't get better. Even with the Therapy. So Jan 20th, I graduated. Very happy about that. And My Birthday ...
A. 3 February 2011: my father use to tell me and my brother to treat each other just like we treated our friends because we treat our friends better than we treat each other. I have 7 brothers and I have not spoken to 5 of them between 5 and 8 years. Sometimes you ... (read in full...)
When taking it slow...should I try and hold her hand when we hang out or kiss her or anything?
Q. i met this girl through my cousin, we started talking and stuff, and finally she asked me one fri night to come out and bowl and have a drink with her since my plans fell through. so i did and we had A LOT of fun, we danced, flirted, and at the end ...
A. 3 February 2011: yea take it slow, enjoy the ride. take it slow and have fun. Hold her hand and give her a big hug everytime that you first see her. Sex will always be there but focus on being the best friend to and with her. Friendship will always streghten the ... (read in full...)
My married lover had a stroke, but we still want to be together. How can we make this possible?
Q. Hi, I've been married for quite a few years, but I have always known I married on the rebound from my first marriage, which also was never right. The reason for this is that there was always someone else that I loved, but I never explored it as I ...
A. 3 February 2011: Miss save your self the agony, pain, and stress. you deserve peace at your age. Use all of the knowledge that you have obtain through out the years and think this through. You have to be sure about your feelings before you make BIG decisions ... (read in full...)
Should I continue pursuing this girl or pull the plug?
Q. I'm in a quasi-relationship and I'm unsure if i should continue pursuing this girl or pull the plug altogether. I've been seeing this girl, but it got off to a rocky start. We had 2 dates, and then on the 3rd she said that she wasn't ready for...
A. 3 February 2011: you do deserve more. she does not want to be with you. Dont give her so much power. There are a lot of beautiful young ladies out there. Find a women who will love and like you for you.... (read in full...)
She is unhappy and nothing I do seems to work!
Q. So me and this girl have been dating for a year now, and she is wonderful and amazing.. but lately she has been going through alot with life issues, such as having to move far away, hating her job, and etc. and we've talked about it a lot and she ...
A. 3 February 2011: Two suggestions for
1. if you love her, you can be supported and stick it through. If she is misreable, your are gonna be misreable. Thats not a way to live. Try talking to her and ask her to open up to you about her problems.
2. Some people ... (read in full...)
Should I be ok with my girlfriend sleeping in another guy's bed?
Q. My girlfriend went to a sleepover with her guy friend, since he supposedly dosent have a guest room, she has to sleep on the same bed as him, should I be fine with that?...
A. 3 February 2011: Little homey. Come on man. You know the answer to that already. NO! man wants his women sleeping in another man's bed. You need to set some boundries for her.... (read in full...)
He called me his ex's name!
Q. Last night my boyfriend and I were in bed and I was kissing him and he turned round and said 'No *****' (Not my name) so I imediately jumped up and said what did you just call me?? He tried to grab me and hug me and said sorry but at least I was ...
A. 3 February 2011: dont put to much into it. he probably had spoken to her and she was in his subconscious. but i will tell you such as i tell the males that you should not have to deal with your boyfriend talking to his ex. i believe that the past should be the ... (read in full...)
Is he avoiding/ignoring me because I wouldn't have sex with him?
Q. Just wanted to get a guy's perspective on this: I've been dating a guy for about 2 months, we seemed to get along, joke, talk about sports (yes I like sports), and he's been affectionate with me, however we haven't had sex. He's been dropping hi...
A. 3 February 2011: well you dont want a man who only wants you for sex but that is a big part of a relationship. You have to talk to him and explain to him why you do not want to have sex and why it is important to you to practice abstence. He may feel that is him ... (read in full...)
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