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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi all I'm really struggling here and need some advice been with my gf 5 years but I have started noticing all she does is bbm text facebook Twitter and I mean from when I get home from work till midnight so I assume she does this all day, by no means do I think she's cheating but what is this behaviour? Beginning to seem like a common curse of my generation or something more (my gf is 20) she gets very defensive if I bring it up and says she will do what she wants but seriously I feel so neglected and alone, talking to her ain't going to work but I need perspective on where this behaviour comes from you may say ditch her but obviously the situation is never that easy thanks in advance
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reader, Leodjoneluv  +, writes (20 June 2012):
 im having the same problem with mine. When I come around she changes to another browser. I told her ether she cancels the account are she puts one of our pics on there. facebook is just another free dating site. Dont be blind man
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (20 June 2012):
Hi there. Yes, it definitely does seem to be a way of life for many young people these days, doesn't it?
Does your girlfiend work?
Or does she have young children to look after during the day?
If there are no children, well then it might be time for her to look for a part-time job, to keep her busy during the day.
It seems like perhaps internet chatting, might her only form of communication when you're at work, with the outside world.
She must surely call on the telephone, some of her real friends, does she?
Does she meet any of her close friends for coffee sometimes?
When you are home there, internet chatting is very antisocial behaviour by her, isn't it?
You are a real person, who is physically there with her, so why can't she have a real conversation with you?
Honestly, sometimes these days, internet chatting is really bordering on an addiction. Don't you think?
Well it is certainly an obsession, that's for sure.
Why not take her out for dinner to somewhere inexpensive one night a week, at least it gets her out of the house.
And away from the computer for a couple of hours!
Then you can have a real chat together about how your days have been.
You could ask her what she did today, and see what she says.
The main thing is you don't want her to think you are criticizing her for doing it.
It does sound like boredom is a big part of the reason she chats online the way she does.
Well, boredom and loneliness together.
It sounds like she has no real direction in her life and is feeling a bit lost.
So the real answer, is for her to do more with her life.
Finding a part-time job would at least get her out of the house for sure - for a couple of days a week.
So it breaks the cycle of her constantly talking online.
PLUS, it gets her talking to real people every single day that she works there.
And so she can be a part of real conversations.
It can be very isolating when you are at home all day alone.
There is only so much television you can watch.
If you could encourage her to begin some interesting hobbies that take he out of the house, and there she will meet a whole lot of people, whom she can make friends with.
It would certainly fill some empty voids in her personal life.
It's worth considering.
The basis of why she is doing all this internet chatting, is mainly because she doesn't have enough to do.
Or rather, not enough interesting, fun and exciting things to do.
This is the real clue, to your solution, once and for all.
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