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writes:I have been dating my boyfriend for about 4 months now and I would really like to take my relationship to the next level and have sex with him. I am not on any form of birth control, we have a condom. but is that enough? I'm scared something will go wrong, I don't need to get pregnant. Is there any precautions we can take to make sure we don't get pregnant?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2012): First of all, four months, 16 or 17 years old and you wanna have sex? My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years, I'm 16, he's 17 and we're waiting until next year to have sex.
Birth control is supposed to be very effective, I plan on getting on it next year. I've done a lot of research..you should too. Find out what kind is best, tips, warnings, pros and cons then go see your doctor. Good luck.
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (10 July 2012):
go get the pill or else some other hormonal contraception from the doctor... condoms are not great for pregnancy prevention to be honest
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (9 July 2012):
 I would recommend Birth Control Pills, or an implant of some sort.
In other words, a hormonal way to stop ovulation so that without an egg to fertilize, pregnancy can't happen....
Condoms IMO are not so much about Birth Control (although that was the original intent) as disease prevention...
Birth Control in my opinion needs to be well thought out and considered and should be hormonal to have the best level of protection.
IF you say you can't see a doctor (too embarrassed) then I suggest that you are not ready to be sexually active.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2012): OP the next level isn't sex, I don't get where people get that idea from, as chigirl said start off by taking the time to explore each others bodies in other sexual ways first.
As far as contraception goes, see your doctor to talk about specific treatments like the pill that you can get to increase the protection, they'll know your body best and what you can and can't take. The pill is quite a serious thing to take, while most women think the benefits outweigh the side effects there's a growing body of evidence to say pumping hormones into your body to decrease fertility is not a good thing in the long term. Some women have very nasty experiences of the pill and as a previous poster stated Plan B is only an emergency thing and you're always better off not needing to take that in the first place.
The best person to talk to about your options is your doctor.
As a guy I'm glad I don't need to take any hormones or pills or any of that. When I want to be 100% certain I don't make a girl pregnant I wear a condom and pull out, I don't know anyone who has become pregnant using those two at the same time but you're a girl and can't rely on your boyfriend to not get carried away.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (9 July 2012):
 Yes, get yourself on birth control. You can also have him pull out before he comes, when he also wears the condom! The pull out method is NOT a safe method, but it can increase your protection if you use it in addition to wearing the condom on. He should never enter you, or rub up against your vagina, without a condom already on.
But if you want to move things to the next level, and have sex, you should start off with something other than intercourse. I suggest you start off by just being naked together in bed, look at each other, touch each other, and get comfortable about being naked together. Then you can experiment with touches and kisses on different parts of your body. This is also sex. You touching his genitalia, or him touching you, is sex. You do not need intercourse/penetration in order to have sex. I suggest you leave intercourse for last. Do the other sexual things first.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (9 July 2012):
 I agree with C. Grant...along with the condom, you could use the contraceptive foam. I have used both together and never had any issues. You can find the foam at the drug store probably right alongside the condoms.
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reader, dmartin89  +, writes (9 July 2012):
 Go to your doctor and ask him about the pill, shot and implant. These will stop you ovulating. You cant get pregnant if there is no egg to fertilize! The pill has been fantastic for me, i'd really reccomend it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2012): Yes, you can also go to the doctors and get the pill.
As well as that, use a condom whilst having sex too, that should be sufficient protection (mind not to miss a dose of the pill if you go on it and make sure u don't tear or pierce the condom while trying to put it on)
You should be fine that way if all goes accordingly.
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reader, C. Grant +, writes (9 July 2012):
 You could add contraceptive foam, which is available from pretty much any drug store. That gives you an extra margin of safety, particularly if the condom were to break.
There are lots of other things you can look into, but they tend to require a visit to the doctor.
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reader, Leodjoneluv +, writes (9 July 2012):
 dont have sex. you are too young. wait. There are a bunch of diseases out there.
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reader, MissTellAll +, writes (9 July 2012):
 A condom is enough but if you're really worried ypu could wait just a little while and go get fitted for a diaphragm or even get yourself on the pill, the patch, the shot, the implant. Nowadays there are countless ways to prevent pregnancy and if you're really feeling uncertain look into one of them. There are also lubricants with spermicide in them that will not only make your first time more comfortable but also help in killing any of those lottle sperms that may escape the condom. Spermicide is just the icing on the cake though so never depend on it solely.That being said, most people I know do only use condoms, including myself, and none of us have even had a pregnancy scare. If the condom breaks you can always take the Plan B pill and stop the possible pregnancy before it starts, but that is not something to do very often because of the effect the hormones in this drug have on your body. Sorry for sounding like a sex ed class, but there ya go. Good luck and have (SAFE) fun taking things further :)
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