I want them to be my friends but thing aren't going well!

A female age 26-29, anonymous writes:

In my main group of friends there are 4 of us (fake names: me, zoe, kate, pheobe). I also have another best friend(helen). Zoe has been my best friend for almost all my life, pheobe i have known for ages but only recently become friends and kate who is meant to be my friend but she hates me and helen and is always telling us horrid stuff and other people horrid stuff about us. But now they are starting to leave me out! In PE, because there are four of us we go in pairs or if we go in a four we go together. But today they tried to kick me out of the group for this really unpopular boy who they don't even like. I honestly thought i was going to cry because when i told them they were supposed to be my friends and asked them why they left me out they said it was because i didn't hang out with them anymore. Which is a lie! I sat at the table with them for most of lunch and talked to them but then i wanted to talk to helen so i went with her for about 5 mins. I also sometimes leave them because kate is making me feel bad and upset. And in one lesson we all sit in a row and the teacher doesn't mind where we sit. At the moment it goes like this(where we sit): Pheobe, me, Zoe, kate. But today pheobe asked me if we could swap. I said no, because i knew that if i was on the end i wouldn't be included at all in their conversation. I want them to be my friends and i would find some new people to hang out with(i have quite a few friends) but everyone already has their own friends group. I don't know what to do, it's been making me really upset and i've been crying a lot more than usual. I don't have any self-confidence anymore and i just breakdown. What can i do? Is it worth telling an adult or is that just silly?

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