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writes:Whats your opinion....can a relationship survive or be strong when sex is not involved?...am asking cos i dont wish to have sex until i get married.thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2013): It will only work if both people have the same opinion on it, so your partner will also need to want to wait until marriage. If not, it can cause resentment which will eventually destroy your relationship. It's true that lots of people expect sex before marriage these days, but there are also still many who want to wait. It might narrow your pool of potential husbands a bit, but you have a right to wait just as much as someone else has the right not to, so you will need to look for someone who shares that view. Social groups based around religion would be a good place to start.
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reader, largentsgirl89  +, writes (21 July 2013):
 Most definitely.
I think that a relationship is based on more than just sex and if you find that right guy/girl and they are willing to wait until you're married to become physically intimate with you, then yes it can work.
There are more types of intimacy than just sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2013): Yes, a relationship can survive just fine without sex...as long as both people involved agree they don't need or want it.
I've been married for nearly 4 years, and my husband and I have never had sex. We're both asexual, but love each other enough to want to spend our lives together anyway. So we live together, and do everything else like a normal couple, just without the sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2013): Yes a relationship can survive without sex and many do. If you prefer to remain a virgin until married, and you are actively dating someone; wait until the subject of sex comes up. That is the time you must tell him that you do not intend to have sex until marriage, and ask him how he feels about.
In your age group, the vast majority of young males want sex in the relationship, and the lack of it is a deal-breaker.
That doesn't mean he will not settle for making-out. If he really likes and respects you, he will honor your wishes and he will resist his own desires to be with you.
Don't expect too many long-term relationships under your own conditions.
It takes two.
So, prepare to move on if the guy you're dating isn't willing to date without sex.
You have a right to your decision, stand by it.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (20 July 2013):
 You've really asked TWO questions... and here are those questions (inferred), and their answers:
1. You CAN refrain from having sex until/unless you are married. Your choice....
2. Once in a marriage or intimate relationship, you CAN refrain from sex if you and your partner CHOOSE to have a relationship/marriage which does not include sex.... HOWEVER, IF one of you DOES wish to have sex as a part of that marriage/relationship... and the other does not (wish to partake of sex), THEN that marriage/relationship is doomed....
I've opined a couple of times on this matter (sexless relationships) and don't believe I've seen any rebuttals of that position.... (Been there; done that, myself!)...
Good luck....
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