My little sister is asking me questions and I need advice on how to help her with some proper answers.
Q. Hi,I'm 27 and my sister who is 12 is dating this guy who she ment at a dance this October that just passed.The problem is they didn't know each other at all before the dance. My sister, being the idiot she is, saw him walk by and told ...
A. 28 February 2006: First of all, she's 12 years old, whatever happens, she'll have forgotten this boy in 3 years time so don't feel like the adivce you give her could do any kinda terrible damage!
Secondly, tell her she shouldnt feel pressured into breaking up with... (read in full...)
I'm scared to tell him I love him because he has a gf, already.
Q. Im in year 10 in high school and 3 weeks ago i was going bout with this lad we only went out for about 4 days but i was so happy. I used to meet him everyday at break and lunch and me, him and his best mate went into town after school a couple of ...
A. 28 February 2006: You should definatley mention that you wish the two of you hadn't split up. Just say something like "it's a shame we broke up I had a good time with you" or something along those lines. If you're too shy to say it to his face, maybe you could say it ... (read in full...)
He kissed me when he was drunk-does he like or am I reading too much into this?
Q. i really like this guy that i work with and every time we go out drinking we end up kissing, but when we are sober we only hug, but he hugs everyone!a year ago (when drunk) he told me he liked me but nothing has happened since,did he mean it? i'm ...
A. 28 February 2006: I'd say don't read too much in to it because, well everyone knows what guys can be like eh especially when they're drunk!I think you should bring the subject up casually, have a laugh about it and move on. If it was a year ago and he hasn't ... (read in full...)
An eye for an eye... ?
Q. I'm having heavy petting sessions with a married associate of my ex-husband's. They are okay associates. My ex and I are working on reconciliation in regards to our relationship. What troubles me is that I enjoy the other guy's company both ...
A. 23 January 2006: To me it sounds as if this reconcilliation is a mistake. You obviously want to explore your single life more, meet some people, have some fun. Theres no reason for you to feel guilty just because you want to enjoy yourself.
However, I do beli... (read in full...)
Really clicked with the girl, and her family have met and like me. Should I tell them I'm 9 years older than her?
Q. I could really do with some people's opinions. Before Christmas I met a 17 year old girl and we clicked straightaway. We have loads in common, and have hardly been apart since. I have met most of her friends and seem to get on really well with...
A. 23 January 2006: If you're worried about it maybe you should get your girlfriend to talk to her mum about it before this issue is raised?I dont think you need to make a big issue out of the matter. If everyone her mum likes you as a person she's no reason to ... (read in full...)
I had sex without protection on the first day of my period. Could I be pregnant?
Q. Could I get pregnant if i had sex with my bf while menstruating? without protection. I was having my first day and had sex with my partner and now im worried i could be pregnant. any advice. thanks...
A. 23 January 2006: Although unlikely there is a chance you could be pregnant. The best thing to do if you have any doubts at all is take the morning after pill. Be careful in future. xKx... (read in full...)
I never lied before but now I have, how can I get him to trust me again?
Q. i have a boyfriend and we started out bestfrinds for ova 7 months before we confessed out love to eachother and desided to make this to what it is now, the problem is that we was keepin our relationship secret because we have a business relationship ...
A. 22 January 2006: To be brutally honest I think he's being a bit of an idiot. Has you telling the girl acctually done any harm? If not why is he so concerned that you told her?
I don't think you've done anything wrong at all, he can't of expected you to sit back and ... (read in full...)
Scared to be his girlfriend in case it ruins out friendship!
Q. Hey um ima get to the point i'm fifteen and i've known this boy since i was 4.. and since last year when he'd come over we'd kiss but he ad a girl friend and he broke up with his girlfriend and they dispise each other with a passion and since then ...
A. 22 January 2006: If you really like this boy then I think you should give it a go. Say to him that you like him alot and want to be his girlfriend but whatever happens between you two you will always be friends. I know it may not always work out like this, but I'm ... (read in full...)
Does he fancy me or not?
Q. Theres this boy, Chris, and on New Years eve he told me he thought i was well fit. Then the following week at school, every1 found out that i fancyed him, and he was being nice. That evening tho, my mate,, Grace, saw him on the street and he said ...
A. 22 January 2006: Right I can totaly remember this situation from school and I may be wrong but I reckon this is the situation. To me, he quite obviously fancies you, probably quite alot.
When your friend told him that you didn't fancy him he went into a typical guy ... (read in full...)
Have I "idealized" my old boyfriend? Should I way for him?
Q. Hi! I am in love with two guys. One i've been with for 6 months and i'm sure I was in love with until an old flame who lives abroad showed up. He is away for over a year and I won't be able to see him. The local guy I know i could love but I ...
A. 22 January 2006: I don't think what you're experiencing is love, I think it's more, just like u said, the flicker of an old flame. Don't risk what you have on this feeling you have, especially if you know your relationship with the man you're with now is strong. You ... (read in full...)
My ex-best friend now confides in the girl who used to be a b*tch to her... How can I move on?
Q. I feel like me and my once called 'best frined' are drifing apart. We are 16 and have been friends for 6 years. Over the time we grow close, particly last year, we became like inseperable. Now just as this new year has started, it feels like we have ...
A. 22 January 2006: You should tell your ex-best friend how you feel, if shes any kind of friend at all she will feel awful that you feel so used and walked-all-over and will do anything to make things right. if she doesn't care, then just move on, tell he she's being ... (read in full...)
Should I tell her the truth about my scar?
Q. Ok heres the thing. a few months ago my uncle died and i had trouble dealing with this. as a result i slit my wrist leaving me with a nasty scar. i never told anyone. the other day in school my best friend noticed it and could tell what i had done ...
A. 22 January 2006: If I am completely and totally honest, I'm acctually shocked that someone you call your best friend has the cheek to be angry at you because there is something you dont feel ready to share with her. If you think she knows what the scar is, I think ... (read in full...)
He never rings me or makes an effort to see me. So, we're on a break. Meanwhile, I've found someone else...
Q. Hi, well I have a bit of a dilemma! Im 16,and my boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me around 5 months ago. Now I thought I was doing great trying to get over him, even though he got a new girlfriend 2 weeks after we split up. Since then I've sta...
A. 22 January 2006: First things first, leave the "ignorer" before he hurts you, the last thing you want is to get hurt again. Then, Im not sure what you think, but maybe you should spend some time single, maybe see some other boys occassionally but nothing serious. ... (read in full...)
Hate the idea that my old ex has got a new boyfriend! I can't say that, though, so what can I do?
Q. I'm 16 and I know it's jeaolusy, but my ex-girlfriend just got a new boyfriend. I still like her I can't stand seeing them together. I want to tell her the truth but I can't. What do I do?...
A. 22 January 2006: I know its not what you want to hear, but you can't really do anything. If you tell her how you feel, she wont thank you for it. I think the best thing you (though it might not seem possible right now) is try to forget about her and turn your ... (read in full...)
Why is my girlfriend so happy to be around me, if we're on "a break"?
Q. Myself and my longterm girlfriend are on a break at the moment (she asked for the break). It has been going on for a little short of two weeks now. I met up for a chat on Monday and we ended up in my apartment kissing on the couch. I suggested ...
A. 12 January 2006: I know this isn't what you want to hear but I'm just curious if there's other guys in her life? Could she have askd for a break because although she want the love and affection you give her, she doesn't want to be held responsible if she happens to ... (read in full...)
Can't tell if my online-dating guy just thinks of me as a chat friend...
Q. I met this guy on a dating site about a month ago. We have been talking ever since, and I really like him. The problem is I think he just thinks of me as a friend. Like, the other day he was complaining to me about how when he goes to the bars and ...
A. 12 January 2006: Definatley ask him, it's the only way. Just bring it up casually in conversation. If you're worried that you'll be embarassed about it; if he says no just go "oh no no I was just making sure incase you had the wrong idea" ha pretty sneaky eh? ;o) ... (read in full...)
Told my boss that I was attracted to her, but I think I've stuffed things up!
Q. Hey guys, I am a 17yr old female, and I have been updating you on my love for my female boss. Well, gosh, think I really stuffed it up this time! I told her how I felt after New Year, as I felt like I need to get it off my chest, going in to a New ...
A. 12 January 2006: Just ignore her. You told her how she felt and although I expect she tried to handle it in an adult way she's probably just embarassed and a little confused right now.
Lots of people try to avoid things just because they don't understand them. Just... (read in full...)
He hangs out with his friends more often and I'm feeling left out..what should I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been in a serious relationship for 2 almost 3 years. At first we were the best of friends and he'd see me on a daily basis, but for the past few months he's been hang out with his friends a lot and I feel left out at times. I ...
A. 12 January 2006: Sometime as relationships develop one or both of the people in the relationship need time to expand their horizons a little. Perhaps he's worried that he doesn't exist outside of a pair anymore and just wants to know that he can still enjoy himself ... (read in full...)
I can't stop thinking of my ex. Should I risk my current relationship for my ex?
Q. I'm realy confused! I'm going out with a guy that i think i love but lately i've been thinking about my ex . I've been dreaming about him and i cant stop thinking about him. should i risk my current relationship for my ex? ...
A. 12 January 2006: A guy you 'think' you love? If you don't know for sure that you love him maybe you should be questioning that before you think about anyone else. Just look at him and think about the things you love about him and being with him. If you think it's ... (read in full...)
What did I do? He seemed interested, then he just disappeared and started hanging with someone else!
Q. Why are guys so fickle? This guy I didn't even know at school (I’m 16) sought me out and started talking to me on instant message. We kind of hit it off and he came over and hung out. All his friends said he liked me. Then he started never being ...
A. 12 January 2006: You said it yourself...guys are fickle...especially teenage guys. Forget about him. However, if you really want him bad, just remember that boys always want what they cant have. Act like you never even knew he existed and then see what happens, ... (read in full...)
It really bothers me that my girlfriend had sex with a real sleaze before me. How do I get past this?
Q. This is really hard for me to talk about because I’d rather not even think about it. But I need to know how to cope with this, for the most part I’m over it but it always keeps coming back to play on my mind. My current girlfriend, whom I love dea...
A. 12 January 2006: I've been in this EXACT situation but from the other side. I think it's important that you never let your girlfriend know how much this troubles you, I was with a real sleaze before my boyfriend came along and now all I can do is wish that I'd ... (read in full...)
I am seeing both of them and I don't know what to do
Q. help me!I am in love with two brothers. I use to date the older brother for about a year, i was really in love with him, but he wasnt ready to settle for me. so when i found out the younger brother had a thing for me i was quite surprised. i gave up ...
A. 9 January 2006: Firstly, get the older brother to do a DNA test to find out if he is the father. If your current boyfriend is not the father then you have to come clean straight away because your son comes before anyone else in this situation and you need to know ... (read in full...)
He's thinking over going out with me, but was I too forward asking him out?
Q. hiya! I have this crush and I just asked him out. He is thinking about it at the moment but do you think I have done the right thing to ask him out cos he is a year older than me? I am 13 and he is 14, is that wrong of me? Should I be going out w...
A. 5 July 2005: Awwwww how sweet, its perfectly fine going out with someone older if you really like them. If he does say no just say to yourself "his loss" and remember, no boy is ever worth your tears and the one who is will never make you cry. Then all you have ... (read in full...)
I'm 12 and the girl I like is 16. Are we friends... or something more?
Q. Okay here it is. I like this girl who is 16 and I'm 12. We slowly started being friends when we met at my school and started talking online after school and talk for a long time, for probably about like 4 hours and after a while of that she gave me ...
A. 16 May 2005: You need to talk to her. Do you like her as more than a friend yourself? Don't assume anything, thats the way people get hurt. Just have a talk to her, bring up the idea of going out. Maybe she didnt deny you were going out because she thought you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend hugs other girls, but not me...
Q. Why wont my bf hug me when he sees me, but he hugs other girls? ...
A. 14 May 2005: Im thinking one of three things, he's either trying to get you to dump him by acting like an idiot, he's gay or he's really nervous around you because he likes you so much. I havent met the guy obviously so I dont know but Id have a think about ... (read in full...)
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