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writes: Hi,I'm 27 and my sister who is 12 is dating this guy who she ment at a dance this October that just passed.The problem is they didn't know each other at all before the dance. My sister, being the idiot she is, saw him walk by and told one of his friends she wanted to go out with him. So within seconds they were dating and didn't even know each others names! All her friends say she could do better and dump him. I met him a few weeks ago and he seemed like a nice boy, but then again he didn't say anything to anyone! My sister was telling me the other day he never got her a present for Christmas or Valentines Day. He told her that he did but forgot to give it to her. She also told me she would want him to call and talk to her more but she told me she wouldn't want to crowd him and ask for too much. Shes my sister and I would like to help her out with these problems and questions shes asking me. So what advice should i give her? She also was asking me whether she should dump him or not just because her friends and parents don't approve of him. Please give me the best advice you got!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question hey guys this is the female writer and i just want to say she told me he has had girlfriends before.My sister also has dated 5 or 6 boys.She also kept asking me if it would be rude of her to ask him to call her more.I told her it wouldn't be but what do you guys think?
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reader, Kated101 +, writes (28 February 2006):
First of all, she's 12 years old, whatever happens, she'll have forgotten this boy in 3 years time so don't feel like the adivce you give her could do any kinda terrible damage!
Secondly, tell her she shouldnt feel pressured into breaking up with this boy because of parents or friends but if he isn't making her happy, isnt she better of finding some that can? Also, remind her that her friends will always be there while boys will come and go so if it's causing any trouble between her and her friends, the boy should be the first to go!
Tell her that he's probably very shy and he's worried about scaring her off by phoning her, buying her presents etc. Maybe he hasn't had a girlfriend before and he's not really sure what to do!
Most of all, she's young, she's got a million other relationships ahead of her and let her know she shouldnt get stressed out by this one!
I really hope this helps a little! xKx
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reader, Seratuki  +, writes (28 February 2006):
 Well. She's only 12, and by the sounds of it, this boy is the same age? She isn't an "Idiot" for doing what she did, at her age children, especially girls, like to pair off, and it doesn't take more than a cute face to cath there attention.She's a child, and this boy will most likely be one of the many she will date before she settles down.So you need to explain to her that you understand how she feels, but that she needs to decide for herself what she wants to do, not just follow blindly behind her freinds who probably know less than she does about this boy.Just let her know that she has years to find the right guy, and she shouldn't settle for less than what she deserves.HTH
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