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writes: Okay here it is. I like this girl who is 16 and I'm 12. We slowly started being friends when we met at my school and started talking online after school and talk for a long time, for probably about like 4 hours and after a while of that she gave me her phone number and now we hang out and talk most of the time now besides school.She's said "when I'm down writing my book {she's writing a book about her life so far} and become rich and famous you can have anything you want, and we could go anywhere you wanted to go", so after that and a few other things that happened after that some of my friends said that we were going out and it was in front of her and she didn't deny it, so I've been really confused and wanting to know what you would do? How you would do it? And just anything you want to say I guess, if you want to help out a 12 year old and his problems :] Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2005): Listen, thats whats happening to me now, but I'm 15 and he's 12. He's already asked me out 3 times and all 3 times, I said no. He's too young. But sometimes he can be a really great friend. He's always defending me against other guys and cussing out other guys when they talk to me, but I guess thats all right because at least I don't have any problems with any guys I dont want to date. I think you should go for it but be careful about the age. Dont do anything you will regret later because since she's 4 years older, shes most likely ready for things that you haven't even thought about. Go ahead and do what makes you happy! Just listen to your heart.
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reader, rphillips +, writes (16 May 2005):
You have to remember that she is four years older than you. She is in high school and you are still in grade school. I would say that based on what you have written, you are just friends.But being friends is a good thing. She is going to be busy with homework, after school activities, plus just the stress of growing up. She can use a good friend.Not to mention, soon, you will be going through all the same things and you will need a friend also.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2005): It sound like this girl really likes you, Be careful you are 12 and this girl is 16,she could get in to trouble if you do any thing illegal.Ask her what she wants from you and where you stand.
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reader, Michaela +, writes (16 May 2005):
Well strictly speaking, you're just mates, but from what you have explained there is a spark between you two. I think that is really good. But the age difference could be a problem. Have you thought about what your mother would say? all I would say is be careful because she may be ready for things that you are not. Ask her how she feels and if there is a future fo the two of you in that way. then make your desicion.
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reader, Kated101 +, writes (16 May 2005):
You need to talk to her. Do you like her as more than a friend yourself? Don't assume anything, thats the way people get hurt. Just have a talk to her, bring up the idea of going out. Maybe she didnt deny you were going out because she thought you were such good friends that this would just sound ridiculous to you, I know I've done that in the past. I hope this helps. As with most situations, you just need to talk. K x
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2005): I think you should just be mates and ddon't ruin your friendship cause when you start goin gout and one of you dumps the other there's no going back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2005): Hi hun.The easiest way of knowing for certain is simply to ask her.The worst thing that she can do is say no you aren`t going out together.Girls can be tricky to figure out especially at 12 years old.You need to remember though that she will soon be leaving school if she hasn`t already and that things could change between the two of you when this hapens.She may simply want to remain friends with you and that wouldn`t be such a bad thing would it as it sounds like you both get on really well.I hope this is of some kind of help to you take good care of yourself and good luck hun.
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reader, tazmanya +, writes (16 May 2005):
Dear TeenageDo you want to be friends with this girl or do you want something more? If you can answer this question honestly then it may be in your best interests to share this with Miss 16 to ensure that you two are on an equal understanding. There can be no room for guesswork or assumptions here when it comes to relationships or friendships. It it would probably be a good idea for you and Miss16 to clarify your expectations of your friendship/relationship so that neither one of you becomes confused and so that you can continue in an appropriate manner. It is also helpful for you to communicate to outsiders the nature of your relationship and expose your availability or unavailabilty as far as relationship status is concerned. Good luck!
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