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writes: Ok heres the thing. a few months ago my uncle died and i had trouble dealing with this. as a result i slit my wrist leaving me with a nasty scar. i never told anyone. the other day in school my best friend noticed it and could tell what i had done but she still questioned me. i told her that i scraped it on the edge of a table but she wasnt convinced and is angry with me. i dont know how to tell her the truth without her walking away when i need her. please help..xx
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (22 January 2006):
 Nobody worth having in youe life will walk away from you for something you did when you were going through such a hard time. We all cope with problems in different ways and, although this was obviously a dangerous thing to do to yourself, no one has the right to judge you for that.
I think you should tell the truth to your closest friend. She's obviously curious and may feel upset that you feel like you can't talk to her about stuff. I think it'll do you good to have someone to talk to as well. It will bring you both closer.
Hope you make the right choice for you, remember this is your business and nobody has the right to know. But friends are important to us and they are there for times like these. Good luck
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reader, Kated101 +, writes (22 January 2006):
If I am completely and totally honest, I'm acctually shocked that someone you call your best friend has the cheek to be angry at you because there is something you dont feel ready to share with her. If you think she knows what the scar is, I think you should talk to her, tell he its something personal and you're just not ready to talk about it yet. If she can't accept this then I can't see how she can be much of a friend. I hope you have recovered from your self-harming and I wish you all the best. Love xKx
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reader, xLx +, writes (22 January 2006):
It's such a horrible feeling to want to hurt yourself. I've never done it myself but have thought about it in the past when I was a teenager. I think you should tell your friend but only if you trust her not to say anything as you don't want your business spread round school. And I think you should talk to your parents and ask them for support. You must talk to someone you can trust, If you don't it will lead to all sorts of other problems. It's always hard dealing with the loss of a loved one, people die every day and we know that everyone is going to go some day but knowing this it and never gets easier lossing someone. I raelly hope you have someone you can share your problems with because else you'll keep hurting yourself and the cuts will get deeper and before you know it you won't be able to stop. Go to the body shop and get some whaet germ oil or cocoa butter which will help heal the scars. Hope you'll be ok and value yourself, time is a great healer all the best xLx
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reader, willywombat +, writes (22 January 2006):
 Your scar is personal to you, and if you tell her why it is there who is to say she won't tell anyone else. And if she does can you live with that or the teasing/ bullying that may come after?
If she is any type of friend then if you tell her (when she asks again) that you really don't want to talk about it, she should respect your wishes. It is all new and raw at the moment, but things will get better, trust me on this.
Please don't self-harm when you are grieving. It helps no one. Do you have anybody you can talk to about this? Bereavement is a difficult time, I have lost my Dad, Aunt, grandad and brother in the past 3 years and I fully understand what a horrible, bleak and friendless thing it is to suffer. Please get in touch with CRUSE Bereavemnet counselling or if you are not in the UK whatever is the organisation in the country you live in.
Talk to a friendly adult who can give you better guidance than I can from the other side of a PC.
Honey, it gets easier as time goes on. I am not saying you will stop hurting, but the hurting will ease a little.
Big Hugs.x
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