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writes:Hey guys, I am a 17yr old female, and I have been updating you on my love for my female boss. Well, gosh, think I really stuffed it up this time! I told her how I felt after New Year, as I felt like I need to get it off my chest, going in to a New Year etc. However, I made it clear I didn’t expect anything to happen and that I knew she couldn’t feel the same, and that I just needed her to know. Well, at first she seemed cool about it and said we could just forget about it and work together as normal. After a week or so she is being cold with me and trying to avoid me. I know I should just quit, as it's the obvious thing to do but I’d miss her so much, and I love my job and colleagues. Any advice on what to say or do would be much appreciated. Thanks very much, love and hugs xoxoxo
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2006): I was in a similar situation, im 22yrs old and i also fell in love with my boss, i also told her how i felt she took this very well and told me that she was fine with this and she could handle being around me, the maybe a week or two later she went all funny on me and stopped talking to me, i was a mess.. I didnt know what to do. I found out the reason that she couldnt talk to me was because in her mind she was having thoughts about me after i had told her this and felt very guilty in her own mind for thinking about it. We started talking again i avoided bringing up any conversations on my feelings or thoughts. One night i was out and had been drinking and i started sending messages to her mobile, about how i still loved her and how beautiful she was.etc. When i saw her at work the following week i spoke to her about the messages and she was fine with it, she said she had fun messaging me. I asked her to hold my hand and she did so, we started spending lunches together and now we are actually together after only 1.5months, its going really well. Working together has its good and bad points, i know that everyday i will see her, but i cant openly touch her. You need to go thought the bad before it gets to the good, just hold on and make sure she doesnt have a chance to forget about you. Im still in shock that this actually happened considering that she is older than me and married with 2 children, she has in this short time called off her marriage. I hope that things work out for you! Best of luck =)
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reader, Chloe The Genius +, writes (13 January 2006):
Well, if you really want something to happen you should talk to her about how you feel and how she feels.
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reader, Kated101 +, writes (12 January 2006):
Just ignore her. You told her how she felt and although I expect she tried to handle it in an adult way she's probably just embarassed and a little confused right now.
Lots of people try to avoid things just because they don't understand them. Just because she can't find a way to deal with what you said in her own head doesn't mean you should have to leave a job you love! You did the right thing. Just ignore her, enjoy your job, enjoy your life, Keep smiling, BE HAPPY! :O)
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