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writes:I feel like me and my once called 'best frined' are drifing apart. We are 16 and have been friends for 6 years. Over the time we grow close, particly last year, we became like inseperable. Now just as this new year has started, it feels like we have suddnely been torn apart. I try to talk to her, but she barely talks to me. If she does talk to me, its only answering a question i have asked. She never intiaites convs or topics in one. She use to tell me all her probelms and let me listen and give her support and advice, now she barely tells me ANYTHING! I feel so hurt, because im not very confident in myself, but the one thing i was proud of me for, was that i knew i was good at giving people adivce and listenign to them and understanding, and now she doesnt come to me...she goes to a gtirl who was a total b*tch to her! This girl who is a b*tch, her name is meredith, now when me and my firned were very close, she was always TOTALLY jealous and tried to ruin our friendship. she was so maniplative and cruel to my friend and me. she tired to steal my friend away. yet meredith and my friend always had to compete with each other, they would always have this desire to brag about what they had and to show off there 'best friends'- my firned would always try to show our frinedhsip of to meredith and she would d othe smae wiht her 'best firned'. Now ive come to realise she used me, jsut to make meredith jealous. because now meredith is being all nice to her, shes basicly abandoned me and is all buddy buddy with meredith! i cant believe it! i feel used and dumped.Its like she didnt appricate anything i did for her. Im just so mad at her! that she could do this to me. i put so much effort into our frinedship over the last 6 years and there were some bad points, acutally lot of points where she was selfish and would only talk to me when she wanted to talk about something, she wouldnt listen to me and my probelsm, only hers. but i kept at it..and now im the one who was left alone, like as if i did something bad to her. but i dont think i did. i even asked her if i did anything wrong and she said no not at all.what do i do? im having trouble just moving on from this.
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reader, Kated101 +, writes (22 January 2006):
You should tell your ex-best friend how you feel, if shes any kind of friend at all she will feel awful that you feel so used and walked-all-over and will do anything to make things right. if she doesn't care, then just move on, tell he she's being a total cow and you cant believe you wasted all that time on her. Whatever you do, just don't let her walk all over you. You sound like a really lovely girl and Im sure theres loads of girls who would absolutely treasure a brilliant friend like you. I know, like most girls do, what its like to lose friends you thought would be there forever but as you meet new friends u start to think, hey maybe that wasnt the perfect friendship afterall. You'll make a thousand more friends yet and although you wont forget her, you'll realise that friendships are a two way thing and she wasn't doing any giving. Just keep smiling, don't let her know it bothers you and dont let it get you down. Good Luck and All the Best xKx
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