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writes: help me!I am in love with two brothers. I use to date the older brother for about a year, i was really in love with him, but he wasnt ready to settle for me. so when i found out the younger brother had a thing for me i was quite surprised. i gave up on the older brother and went for the younger brother, well now i have been with the younger brother for almost five years and about two years ago the older brother made a pass at me and we have secretly been in a relationship the last almost three years. i have a three month old son and i dont know which one is the father. i know this sounds awful but the younger brother knew i loved his older brother when he got with me. what should i do. Reply to this Question
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reader, Kated101 +, writes (9 January 2006):
Firstly, get the older brother to do a DNA test to find out if he is the father. If your current boyfriend is not the father then you have to come clean straight away because your son comes before anyone else in this situation and you need to know who his father is so there is no possible way that you can be lying to him when he's older. However, if he is the father then you have to make a decision between the two brothers, but if you choose the older brother you have to know that the younger brother will always be in your life and you have to know that you will be able to resist any temptation to get back with him. All I can say ultimately is think primarily about your son he's the most important thing in your life.
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reader, Izzie +, writes (9 January 2006):
This is a very difficult and complicated situation. I was in a similar situation myself last year with two men, I could not decide and it all ended in total disaster. I learnt my lesson and i hopw you can resolve this as, believe me, people stand to get really hurt. You need to decide to either make a go of it with your current b/f, or decide you want to be with his brother and come clean about this together. Deception only breeds unhappiness in the long term. Also consider the impact on their family and their relationship as brothers. Regardless of your own confusion, you really need to put the welfare of your child first. If you want to know who the biological father of your child is, then a paternity test can be done, but that would probably mean causing your b/f a lot of heartache. Yes, he did know that you loved his brother, but that is no excuse for cheating on him. How would you feel? He has obviously stayed with you in good faith. If his brother is willing to treat him like this also, then I would argue that he maybe isnt too reliable. You need to do some serious thinking. i really hope you work this out, I know how difficult it is as I've been there myself. Good luck x
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