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writes:My boyfriend and I are in the process of moving in together. We have known one another since high school, but have been together for six months. We are both in our early thirties, and he has never lived with a girlfriend before.He is the total package. He is smart, funny, gorgeous, has a good job and owns a beautiful house. He is honest and responsible and ambitious.So, that being said, why is he making such a huge deal out of us moving in together? Everyone we run into he makes a point of telling them, and he is even throwing me a welcome home party this weekend when we finish moving the last of my stuff to his house. To be honest, it makes me a little uncomfortable. Don't get me wrong, I am thrilled to be living together, but I am a rather private person and don't see the need to shout it to the world.Any ideas why he is doing this/ how I can deal better with it?
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reader, Kama  +, writes (25 June 2010):
 See what you think: I think the answer to your question is in your question. He's never lived with a girl before - to him this is occasion for fanfare! If only I were so lucky!
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reader, Moo's Mum +, writes (25 June 2010):
 Person 12345 is right on the money here. I totally agree with everything she said and I just want to add, The secret to a great relationship is realising that we are all different and to celebrate those differences in each other. Accept that he is like that just as he has to accept that you are a private person. If you can both accept each other faults and all then you will be happy!
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reader, person12345 +, writes (25 June 2010):
 Yeah he's doing it because he's totally crazy about you! He wants the whole world to know you're HIS girl and you love him enough to move in with him. He thinks you're a catch and he's super excited! It's pretty cute that he's that crazy about you. I know you say you're private, but you should remind yourself he's not doing it to try to make your lives public, or make you miserable he's trying to make it publicly known he snagged a good one. He's proud to have you move in! I don't know how you could better deal with it other than reminding yourself this is an expression of madly head-over-heels in lovedness.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2010): It seems to me as if he's proud of living with you. Have you tried talking to him about it? Does he know it makes you uncomforatable? Try just talking to him about it, tell him that it makes you uncomforatable to tell everyone he runs into that he's going to live with you. Talking about things really does help, even if thats what eveyone says. I really hope things work out for you! :)
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