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I need to gather peoples thoughts because I don't believe my doctor.
Q. *OP's own title* I have this problem that I went to the doctor with. It used to happen almost everyday but sometimes it's once a week, once a month, multiple times a day, it varies. But my heart will suddenly and without cause, start beating real...
A. 30 March 2010: No, it doesn't happen to me unless I've been doing something which is meant to increase cardio rate, and it's the same with most people I believe. Sounds like excessive anxiety, and you should probably get a second opinion. Good luck :)... (read in full...)
My fiancee wants to go see her ex bf..without me!
Q. Okay, Never done this before but I need some advice and really want to do the RIGHT thing here. My fiance and I are due to get married this May, we love each other, care about each other, but we don't always see things in the same light. Things ...
A. 24 February 2010: Why is she keeping in contact with him if he doesn't ever want to include you in the friendship? That's very offensive and she should have ditched him a long time ago, the moment he said he never wanted to be friends with you or even meet you. For ... (read in full...)
Should I continue my affair for a chance at some happiness
Q. Hi my name is michelle i have been married for 20yrs, unhappily for 10yrs to a much older man. ( 30yrs my senior.) I have been having an affair to a single man for the last 4yrs and love him very much. My problem is, that he doesn't like me ...
A. 22 February 2010: Sorry to be harsh, but....... Quote; "If he doesn't love me why doesn't he move on and get a regular girlfriend?" Well, you asked the question, but I have one for you. If you despise your husband so much that you can carry on with such deceit and ... (read in full...)
Why are these people angry at me and not him?
Q. So I hooked up with a guy my friend had a crush on. She walked in on us when my pants were down. I told her I was sorry and that I didn't mean to hurt her. she didn't talk to me for a week but she finally started talking to me again and were trying ...
A. 22 February 2010: Do you really want to be liked by such a pack of spiteful, stupid teenage girls? It's not a crime to be more attractive to the guy in question, and your friend's stupid crush is exactly that, if he was interested he would have gone for her. I hated ... (read in full...)
Is it too late to write my ex bosses.to say I never was a thief at work or let it go?
Q. Hi I have worked in a firm of separate partners under one roof and I was on main reception working for them all indirectly but none directly as they all had their own staff. All the time I was moaned at and when things went missing silly things...
A. 22 February 2010: Hi,
I think you'd look a bit silly writing to anyone at this point. You would have been best off to find out who thought you were taking petty items and confronting them about it in private. There's one thing of which you can rest assured, anyt... (read in full...)
Should I trust that he won't cheat when he travels again? Or tell him to pack his bags?
Q. I am in a dilema and not sure if it is the end of the line for me and my partner. We have been together for 5 years now and during this time I have a couple of other occasions to doubt him but somthing has happened again. He travels abroad a...
A. 19 February 2010: Ummm, why are you even contemplating over-looking this sleazy dirtbag's secret life of smut? Get rid of him before he brings you home a gift that you need antibiotics to cure. ... (read in full...)
Help! I'm scared to tell my mom I'm pregnant... again!
Q. Please help me, I just turned 16 january 20 and my boyfriend turned 19 dec 16, i got pregnant before and got an abortion 5 months ago and I'm pregnant again. my mom is extra strict and so is my family, once again my bf wants to keep it and I do too ...
A. 1 February 2010: Do you know what is causing the pregnancy? There is a book called "Where Did I Come From?" which may help you. ... (read in full...)
Is an old, young looking guy going out with a young woman, creepy?
Q. If a guy is 45, but literally looks 27, and goes out with a 20 year old, is that creepy?...
A. 19 January 2010: I wouldn't call it creepy, but if you can show me a female under 30 that genuinely loves a guy a couple of decades older than her, I'll find some hens teeth for you. Any female that young who goes for older men either has Daddy Issues, or the guy's ... (read in full...)
His g/f hates me and I don't know why
Q. So... This guy I like has a girlfriend. And well you could just say that she basically hates me. I don't even know why. She doesn't know that I like him, but everytime I see her in school she glares at me and everything like that. Im a year older ...
A. 13 January 2010: You're obviously giving off signals which tell her that you're after her boyfriend. People often behave differently around someone they're attracted to, and often a gf or bf will pick up on it when someone is after their partner. I'd say back off a ... (read in full...)
Is it unreasonable to ask that this friendship ends now?
Q. so my boyfriend saw his ex and kept it a secret from me and recently saved some photos of her in her underwear. we've talked it through. he said he wants me and me only. he wants us to work and I am willing to try and give it this relationshi...
A. 12 January 2010: Ditch him now. He's been sneaking around behind your back, and people who do that stuff usually never change. ... (read in full...)
No one will talk to me because he has a gf and I like him!
Q. The guy i like who already has a girlfriend likes me, and now his girlfriends mad at me and now no one will talk to me! What should i do?...
A. 12 January 2010: Why are you sniffing around someone elses boyfriend? That's very uncool, and that's why no one's talking to you. If he liked you so much he would have ditched his girlfriend, and he hasn't, so cop on and take the hint and then maybe people will be ... (read in full...)
I want to add my teacher to Facebook!
Q. I tried to add a teacher that I think I love and I mean honestly love on facebook last year and he declined because he obviously wasn't allowed, but I didn't know that teachers werent allowed to accept students on the site, at the time. He said he ...
A. 6 January 2010: Try and see it from his perspective. He's probably picked up on the fact that you've got a crush on him, and he wouldn't want to encourage you. Think about the age difference and the student-teacher relationship. Imagine if you were baby-sitting a ... (read in full...)
I want no strings sex - but only with him!
Q. Ok so here's the situation. I am recently seperated from my husband, and started talking to this guy at work. He told me he had a girlfriend. So i chalked it up to harmless flirting. After a while the flirting became more serious. I know that him ...
A. 5 January 2010: Two things. One is that he wouldn't be playing around on his girlfriend if he genuinely cared about her, the other is that he's using his relationship with her as a way of getting rid of you. Sorry, but that's the crappy truth. Save yourself the ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is on online dating sites and I'm NOT happy about it!
Q. Hi there, My boyfriend is 5 years younger than me, I'm 28 and we love one another and we're living together but there are a few things I'm not happy about our relationship. He loves going out and barely asks me to go out together. Also I...
A. 5 January 2010: If you can guess what the password to his profile is log in and change his profile so that it says....."I am a lying gobshite who is best avoided", and then get rid of him as fast as you can. He's probably meeting girls from the internet and taking ... (read in full...)
Body Odour causing a real problem, I don't know why, help!!
Q. Why Do I have Body Oudour? Please answer this seriously as its upsetting. I bath and change my clothes every day and wash my hair and use deodorants YET still I have a funny smell about me. Its NOT because IM not clean and I have been to the...
A. 5 January 2010: That must be so embarrassing for you. Are you sure the smell is coming from you and not your clothes? If your clothes are not completely dry before you put them away after washing them they will take on a musty smell,(kind of like stale urine), even ... (read in full...)
Getting slapped by my boyfriend...
Q. I have been in a relationship with a boyfriend for the past 10 months. usually i would tell him whatever i do. since he did not have his mobile for a few days we are not able to contact one another properly. yesterday i had gone to see a movie with ...
A. 5 January 2010: First he slaps you, then he cries because you dump him? What did he expect...a medal? He has big problems, and if you take him back it won't be the last time he hits you, and it will get progressively worse. Buy him some nappies and send him packing ... (read in full...)
My husband left me for another women on boxing day!
Q. I'm not sure where to begin as I'm totally lost but to cut a long story short my husband and me have been having some problems over most of our marriage (we've been together for 22 years and got two children aged 17 and 19). He has always been ...
A. 28 December 2009: What a terrible time to choose to leave, you poor thing. First of all, I wouldn't bother confronting the other woman, as doing that when you're feeling so vulnerable could very likely lead to you feeling even more humiliated and upset. The best ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to want some privacy to masterbate?
Q. I'm 14 years old and in the ninth grade, and like most guys my age I masturbate what I guess would be pretty frequently (at least one time a day if not more). I'd rather not do it in the bathroom, I'm just more comfortable in my bedroom, but my mom ...
A. 21 December 2009: If she's so stupid that she can't figure out that you're perfectly normal, or understand that barging into a guys room, (or anyone's room for that matter), without knocking is just rude and disrespectful, she needs a reality check. Just lock the ... (read in full...)
My husband keeps cheating so what do I do?
Q. My husband keeps cheating on me He gives me large amounts of money take care of his kids and pay all my bills we have been married for 5 years and have 3 beautiful girls ages 4, 3, 2, I'm 24 and he's 28 He's never home I'm gettng tired of this and ...
A. 21 December 2009: Simple. Divorce him and collect the support cheques. His mother sounds like an asshole, and that's probably where he inherited the trait from. Do you really want to raise your girls around a male who has no respect for women? They deserve better and ... (read in full...)
Will he divorce his wife for me?
Q. I met this guy at work and he was interested in me a lot bcuz he started talking to me and he told me he was in the process of a divorce. Little by little he mentioned to me several times that he loved me. I fell deeply in love with him and we would ...
A. 20 December 2009: People do strange things when they're going through a separation or divorce, including screwing around with other people's emotions. If he really wanted to be with you he would have done something about it by now, like making proper plans with you ... (read in full...)
She lets them feel her up and I don't want to sit with her anymore!
Q. ok here goes one of my best friends is kind of a slag, i mean shes pretty shes really thin has big boobs and is really confident, but even tho she has a boy friend she still lets all of our male friends feel her up at dinner time, she trys to make ...
A. 16 December 2009: Just get up and walk away when it happens and leave her to it. That will give her the message that you don't like what she's doing. If she questions why you left, explain to her that you find her behaviour embarrassing and that you think she ... (read in full...)
I love myself but this girl makes me feel ugly...
Q. i fell really ugly because there is this one girl where i liv and she looks like lady gaga she idleises her sum but she calls me fat and ugly am i how can i tell... i am 16 years of age and im 5'5 i am 12stone i have black hair that is sholder lengh ...
A. 15 December 2009: She looks like Lady Gaga, (ie; trashy popstar that looks like a drag queen), and she's calling other people ugly? That's pretty funny. But seriously, just ignore this stupid twat, clearly there's something about you that's she's very jealous of. ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my girlfriend and cannot stop thinking about the other woman
Q. I have been happily seeing my girlfriend for just over 3 years. We have never had any problems and she is now 2 months pregnant which is something we are both happy about. However, on a night out at work, i ended up spending most of the night tal...
A. 15 December 2009: So the girl you snogged at the work do knew you had a girlfriend but made a play for you anyway. She may be very pretty but she clearly doesn't care about anyone but herself. Do your girlfriend a huge favour and tell her about it now, she may not be ... (read in full...)
My friend has my jacket, she said she didn't, but then she wore it, what should I do?
Q. Why did she wear it? So my ex best friend has my jacket and I asked for it back a long time ago (we haven't been friends for 7 months on the 13th) and she said that she didn't have it, but she wore it to school today and for the past two weeks sh...
A. 15 December 2009: Just go up to her and tell her you want the jacket back. If she took it by mistake she's thoughtless and rude, and if she took it on purpose she's a thief. Either way, it's not hers so make it your business to get it back, even if you have to steal ... (read in full...)
He only stayed a minute on the phone... why was he so cool with me tonight?
Q. i cant sleep through worrying about this - I feel very stupid. I've developed strong feelings for a new guy i work with, I dont know how. hes going through his second divorce and I've been on my own 8 months. Anyway he's already seeing someone ...
A. 14 December 2009: So when you say 'tonight', do you mean you're calling him outside of work hours? If that's the case, maybe he had company and didn't want to be rude by spending ages on the 'phone, or maybe he likes to leave work behind when he goes home, if that's ... (read in full...)
The man I am involved with is waiting for a married woman, how do I get rid of her from our lives?
Q. I'm seeing a man who has been involved with a married woman for a few years, she tells him that she will leave her husband but they have children and has yet to do so, how do I get her out of our lives....
A. 14 December 2009: I think you'd be best off getting yourself out of both of their messy lives. Having you hanging on whilst he pines after someone elses wife is pretty rude. And if you only just met it's a big red flag that he's emotionally entangled with someone ... (read in full...)
How can I make him see that she is trying to break us up
Q. My problem is my boyfriends female friend who has tried everything possible to break us up. The first time I went out with them she got ontop of my boyfriend and tried to kiss him. The second time I went out with them she pecked him on the lips ...
A. 7 December 2009: Females who behave like this are just plain painful, however, it's really up to your boyfriend to tell her to just get off of him. You shouldn't have to point out that he's behaving badly by encouraging this stupid girl, and he probably knows it ... (read in full...)
What do to for the best? Should I confront him?
Q. My boyfriend is cheating on me. I followed him from home one night and I know where she lives. I want to confront this girl but I don't know that to do. If I confront her I will lose him altogether but if I don't I can always use this as blackmail ...
A. 3 December 2009: Err, love and blackmail do not belong in the same sentence. Why do you want to confront the woman? She's not the one screwing around behind your back, he is. I wish I had a dollar for every time I hear a cheated-on wife or girlfriend blame "the ... (read in full...)
Should I continue to push the subject until she deals with the problem?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together almost 2 years. Everything has been going smoothly until as of late. First, her parents, even after years, still invite her ex over to their house. When I say how much this bothers me, they don't care. They...
A. 3 December 2009: Her parents think of this guy like a son after he hit their daughter? Great parents, obviously their daughter doesn't mean that much to them! Small wonder she still likes the asshole, she probably identifies love with being treated like crap. ... (read in full...)
Is this emotional abuse from my sister?
Q. hey, since i was born (20 yrs ago) my sister hasnt liked me at all, my mum says she was jealous when i was born, she's 24, aka 4 years older then me, ever since i can remember she has beaten me up, my first memory is when i was about 3 years ol...
A. 3 December 2009: Yep, that's abuse, and your parents have shown blatant favouritism by allowing it to go on, which is also a form of abuse. I would guess that your sister has psychological problems, and just as your parents have ignored your needs they've also done ... (read in full...)
He's cheated on me 8 times. Will he grow out of it?
Q. My boyfriend is extremely attractive, like the hottest boy I have ever laid eyes on in my life. He's got the tightest body made of solid muscle and the cutest face and he is sooooooooo much the best sex I have ever had a million times over. The only ...
A. 2 December 2009: Is your self esteem so far in the gutter that you think you can't find anyone better than this bottomless pit of vanity that you call boyfriend? You must be absolutely desperate if you think he's a good catch. Your post makes me want to shake you ... (read in full...)
Husband doesn't make me feel loved any more...
Q. I'm really depressed, because my husband does not make me feel loved. The question I have, is that what can I do ,if he says he loves me, but I don't feel it. Is the problem in him or in me? What can you do with a man, who says he loves you,and he ...
A. 2 December 2009: If you don't feel loved then you probably aren't. Working long hours doesn't stop someone from doing things like taking two minutes to send an affectionate text, and it doesn't stop someone from finding time to spend with a spouse if they really ... (read in full...)
His girlfriends says I have to stop texting him
Q. So I have this guy friend who I'm pretty close with and we always find ourselves texting each other hours at a time. The problem is his girlfriend texted me last week not asking me but telling me that I'm not allowed to text him... at all. Is s...
A. 2 December 2009: Texting anyone for hours at a time is sign that you need to get a life. Doing it to someone elses boyfriend is just downright rude and intrusive. I'm surprised she hasn't come 'round to your house and shoved your cellphone right where you won't hear ... (read in full...)
Doe anyone else have a hubby likes to give gifts to everyone but his wife?
Q. I may be writing this prematurely but based on past birthdays, I'm seeing the same pattern forming. I am married to a man who is a gift giver. He loves it. He spends $100 each birthday and Christmas for his three adult children, also buys nice ...
A. 2 December 2009: Ah, being taken for granted, the biggest romance killer of all. You shouldn't even be put in a position where you feel like you have to say he doesn't have to worry about getting you anything. If he doesn't get you a gift this time give yourself the ... (read in full...)
I just can't trust my husband... help! What should I do?
Q. I've been married for 12 years now and been with my husband for 15 years. In the second year of our marriage he cheated and conceived a child with another woman. He is not physically seeing his child but talks to him every now and then. he lives in ...
A. 29 November 2009: The length of a marriage is meaningless if there's been so much festering resentment. Your partner is an extremely self-centred and arrogant individual by the sound of things. You would be doing the kids a favour by leaving him and giving them an ... (read in full...)
So why did he do this? Why was he involved in these sex sites, and connecting to women?
Q. I have been in a relationship for three and a half years now. My man was a very moody person, but I, being passive, could usually take it. Like every other couple, we had our ups and downs. A year ago as I went to use his computer, I saw that he ...
A. 29 November 2009: In a nutshell, he sounds like a complete loser. Do you really want a cyber-sex pervert having an influence on your kids lives? You deserve better. ... (read in full...)
I want to use Tiger Balm as a Sex Aid
Q. I heard from different people that putting tiger balm on your clit makes the pleasure intensify. Is this true or just something someone came up with? Also would it cause any problems if I tried it?...
A. 29 November 2009: Tiger balm burns the crap out of whatever part you put it on. Whoever told you this is taking the piss out of you. ... (read in full...)
He wants space but wants me to wait. What should I do?
Q. Hello, I am writing again to ask advice from anyone who can help me. a couple of weeks ago I broke up with my partner, of 12months. He was having a lot of problems with minor depression and drinking, and was honest enough to say I can do this. I...
A. 29 November 2009: Leave him alone to deal with his drinking problem, (which is most likely the cause of his depression), and get on with your life. It's not your job to be a wet-nurse for some weakling who thinks you're there to lean on. :)... (read in full...)
She says one thing, he says another, who do I believe?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a 29 years old woman, divorced with 2 kids. I met this guy almost 3 years ago and after 2 years he confessed me that he was still seeing his exgirlfriend behind my back. He accepted he was wrong and promised to change everythi...
A. 29 November 2009: Pretty simple really. If he's not still plonking her, and the child isn't his, why the hell is he still keeping in contact with a woman who is apparently trying to screw up his new relationship? I'd guess he's using both of you and using the child ... (read in full...)
Is it only false hope, or is there really someone out there for everyone?
Q. ok alot of people say hold out there is somebody out there for everybody.. which is cliche to me. cuz wen i read alot of the post on this website even people of older age have complicated relationships and in real life alot of people go thru lives ...
A. 29 November 2009: It's defintely a cliche, propaganda put about by people who believe that finding a life-partner and breeding are rites of passage necessary to personal fulfilment. You're very young, so chill out and don't panic, and if you're still single by age ... (read in full...)
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